We agree on what's most important- Keeping guys safe.
My statement on high-end hotels remains something I firmly believe: While I'd never say it was failsafe, it's a lot smarter than going to the La Quinta if you're in a red-alert area.
Your best bet remains going with a reviewed, vetted escort. In nearly every story I hear of LE nabbing someone, there are always a ton of red flags that were repeatedly ignored. Use your head... Don't be a statistic.
This cat-and-mouse game will always exist, at least until society figures out a way to legalize (and tax) it. Trust your instincts if things feel wrong.