Andreas Porter

Spent 3780 for 2025.
 
And 945 since the beginning of 2026.

I didn’t go looking for someone married. I believed he was single because that is how he presented himself. 
Yes, I developed feelings unconsciously. That happens when you consistently spend time with someone who feels safe, supportive, and encouraging. I did not create any drama towards him, i handled it quietly and respectfully. 
This isn’t about trying to cross boundaries or chase unavailable people. It’s about realizing the situation had no real future and having enough self-respect to walk away. As choosing distance is me protecting myself.

Because I was started developing feelings for him.
Yes, I know, classic. 
I recognized it happening in me and nipped it in the bud. The provider told me he was coming to town and I told him although I enjoyed seeing him that the relationship was becoming more than transactional for me. That for my wellbeing I had to stop seeing him.
Not sure what I expected but I got dust from him. Zilch. I get it. But still disappointed I didn’t get at least an “I understand, wish you all the best” etc. Not really posting for advice just wanted to vent and hear if anyone has had to stop seeing a provider for any reason and how they reacted to it. 

I respect that different people have different boundaries and comfort levels. In my case, he did not disclose that he has a wife and child — I discovered it on my own after 6 months — and that changed everything for me. I also recognize that my feelings were one-sided, and I don’t want to invest energy into something that has no real future. I value honesty, availability, and emotional safety, so stepping away is me being smart and protecting my peace, not something I’ll regret.

Started hiring when i was 22 years old, a friend influenced me about hiring. I am turning 36 this year.

I think I’m about to fall for another provider. I meet him weekly trying to forget the previous crush. It’s been ~15 months. 
i didn’t miss him. It was just physical. But recently I started to miss him if I don’t see within 5 days between meetings.
why does my heart have to be so weak? I’m so disappointed in me. How to stop falling in love and just enjoy the physical pleasure?
He is the only one I see once weekly. I used to solely see my crush ~2–3x / week, but now I spend the other 1–2x on multiple others. 
 
I probably cannot stop seeing him until he breaks my heart just like my crush, or worse. I’m so helpless 😭

I didn’t go looking for someone married. I believed he was single because that is how he presented himself. 
Yes, I developed feelings unconsciously. That happens when you consistently spend time with someone who feels safe, supportive, and encouraging. I did not create any drama towards him, i handled it quietly and respectfully. 
This isn’t about trying to cross boundaries or chase unavailable people. It’s about realizing the situation had no real future and having enough self-respect to walk away. As choosing distance is me protecting myself.

I respect that different people have different boundaries and comfort levels. In my case, he did not disclose that he has a wife and child — I discovered it on my own after 6 months — and that changed everything for me. I also recognize that my feelings were one-sided, and I don’t want to invest energy into something that has no real future. I value honesty, availability, and emotional safety, so stepping away is me being smart and protecting my peace, not something I’ll regret.

I fell for my masseur. Twice we even worked out together, and he became my motivation to get back in shape. I thought he was single… until I found out he has a wife and child living in the same apartment I used to visit. I was shocked, heartbroken, and overwhelmed. I’ve deleted his number and our chats — no more seeing him, for my own peace. Still, he’s the only masseur who ever did massage the way I needed it.

Hey thats too much! My gosh! He is not worth it for 300 lol

Hey thats too much! My gosh! He is not worth it for 300 lol

Met this guy last year in his house in West Hills. 
He seems nice but his pictures posted is waaaaaay different in person, his body is not that muscular or bulky, he is effeminate compared to his persona on the photos posted. He doesnt have any massage skills as well. 

You just saved me $300+ thank you 🫡

If Cleopatra's fate is any indication, a bad experience is in your future if you book him.

I tried him. Happy to PM anyone interested. Either way, don’t do it. Nice kid. But nope.

I fell for my masseur. Twice we even worked out together, and he became my motivation to get back in shape. I thought he was single… until I found out he has a wife and child living in the same apartment I used to visit. I was shocked, heartbroken, and overwhelmed. I’ve deleted his number and our chats — no more seeing him, for my own peace. Still, he’s the only masseur who ever did massage the way I needed it.

I respect that different people have different boundaries and comfort levels. In my case, he did not disclose that he has a wife and child — I discovered it on my own after 6 months — and that changed everything for me. I also recognize that my feelings were one-sided, and I don’t want to invest energy into something that has no real future. I value honesty, availability, and emotional safety, so stepping away is me being smart and protecting my peace, not something I’ll regret.

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/28336/
This masseur gave me the worst experience so far. 
He charged me 200 for erotic massage. 
He only massaged me for 20 minutes with no pressure at all, feels like he was just putting some oil or lotion on my body, and he asked me to massage him.
He allowed mutual touch and release me at the end. Still, i feel shortchanged.

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/28336/
This masseur gave me the worst experience so far. 
He charged me 200 for erotic massage. 
He only massaged me for 20 minutes with no pressure at all, feels like he was just putting some oil or lotion on my body, and he asked me to massage him.
He allowed mutual touch and release me at the end. Still, i feel shortchanged.

I fell for my masseur. Twice we even worked out together, and he became my motivation to get back in shape. I thought he was single… until I found out he has a wife and child living in the same apartment I used to visit. I was shocked, heartbroken, and overwhelmed. I’ve deleted his number and our chats — no more seeing him, for my own peace. Still, he’s the only masseur who ever did massage the way I needed it.

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/28336/
This masseur gave me the worst experience so far. 
He charged me 200 for erotic massage. 
He only massaged me for 20 minutes with no pressure at all, feels like he was just putting some oil or lotion on my body, and he asked me to massage him.
He allowed mutual touch and release me at the end. Still, i feel shortchanged.

I fell for my masseur. Twice we even worked out together, and he became my motivation to get back in shape. I thought he was single… until I found out he has a wife and child living in the same apartment I used to visit. I was shocked, heartbroken, and overwhelmed. I’ve deleted his number and our chats — no more seeing him, for my own peace. Still, he’s the only masseur who ever did massage the way I needed it.

Got it. Thanks! Going to message him.

Never wish away a good experience.
Think of it this way.
Life is like a good book. We turn the pages, enjoy their content and put the book on a shelf. Sometimes we read the book again and sometimes we don't. But we always remember reading it.

His massage was just right. He does not offer sensual and erotic services.