José Soplanucas

My suggestion for BA is to plan a more cultural/culinary visit. Theatre, modern art, music from popular to Opera, dance from tango to ballet, arquitecture, food, are all premium quality and very affordable. Of course take advantage of the cheap "taxi boys" from soytuyo.com and revistaratones.com, but sex tourism is not the major strength of the city. Ask @Tarte Gogo .

I never got any pleasure from bottoming and then stopped trying. However, I envy many of my partners. Some of them (escorts or not) reach climaxes of very high and long lasting intensity. There faces are completely transformed, transfigured. I wish I was able to feel that.

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This thread is just another example of the never ending tendency to pretend our own personal preferences and standards should be everyone's. If you do not feel comfortable sharing your pictures or stats, do not do it and just move on to the next provider. We can discuss the cons and pros of doing so in different circumstances, but you should not disparage or insult those who do feel comfortable sharing their pictures or stats. If you do feel comfortable sharing your pictures or stats, do it. We can discuss the cons and pros of doing so in different circumstances, but you should not disparage or insult those who do not feel comfortable sharing their pictures or stats. Will we ever learned that we all are different, clients and providers?

That is not what @MikeyGMin said. You do have a talent for mischaracterizations. Of course, "talent" is an euphemism.

What does privacy have to do with your stats? You are not giving away your social.

If I am going to fantasize about traveling to Brazil, I would not go to São Paulo. I would go to Rio and then drive North to Salvador. Afro Brazil.

That was the surprise in this meeting. My previous experiences with him have been more on the raw side. Today he was extremely sweet and affectionate.

Since my cholesterol is under control, I am back to butter, delicious happiness. "I Can't Believe It's not Butter"? Bull shit, I can.

Isaac has a strength Sean does not: he is vulnerable.

I disagree with those who say it is a red flag. Maybe light yellow for me. I think most of the guys who ask for the money upfront are honest sex workers. Which does not mean they are talented or good at it. To start, upfront payment is standard in street trade and the low tier of escorting. Most of the premium escorts do not ask for upfront payment, but a few of them do. I think it is perfectly reasonable when it is a first time meeting. I know of no escort, top or bottom tier, who has asked me for upfront payment after the first time.

He is taller. To kiss the back of his neck I have to stand on my tip toes. Sean is not much taller than I am. Perhaps he serviced you wearing his high heals.

May be São Paulo is a good destination for Asian-Brazilians?

He is in DC up to tomorrow. Isaac is traveling to Rio soon, but his base is New York City. Once he is back to the States, his plan is visiting DC most week ends starting in the second half of January. This is his Rentmen ad and this is the review in my blog. I already submitted a review to Daddy's. People in DC and NYC, this boy is dynamite. I am not sure if I can recommend him for multiple hours, the conversation is limited. But if you are looking for very hot action, the boy is a man-geisha.

You should have mentioned your worldwide legendary evil eggs.

Please, submit a review to Daddy.

I was just giving an example, I do not want to kidnap the thread about homophobia with a conversation about gay marriage. Just quickly, I did not mean that monogamia is always homophobic. I gave the specific context of gay politics. Back to homophobia now.

That is exactly the attitude I am talking about. I am exclusively top. I do not enjoy any kind of playing in my ass. I do not even have fantasies about it. I experimented bottoming when I was in my 20s, because of my queer activism. However I quitted torturing myself and accepted that I should work other issues first if I ever want to enjoy my prostate and my ring. There is no physiological reason for my inability, it is clearly psychological and clearly related to a subconscious homophobic mandate. I am still open to someday being able to enjoy bottoming, but I am aware that has nothing to do with "finding the right one".

Dear Josh, I was not trying to imposed my issues to anyone else, just sharing my opinion. If you think you are homophobia free, I do not know you so I cannot contradict you. However, I would be thrilled to meet you, because you would be the first one I have ever met. You must be very special. Let's make clear that I was paraphrasing @Lance_Navarro in his OP. I am sure he did not mean to pose his question on terms of black and white, homophobic or not al all. I think he is asking whether or not we have homophobic attitudes. I know I do. I know everyone I have met in my life, in the different cultures I have been fortunate to being exposed to, they all do. I am glad I am aware of it, because I am open to be called out and to keep working on it. I think we are soaked by homophobia, so soggy with subconscious patterns, that it is really hard to realize it many times. I think, for instance, all the studies around finding the cause for homosexuality have homophobic roots, as I insinuated in another thread and was not very well taken. I think the whole direction taken by gay identity activism, trying to replicate the heterosexual model of exclusive monogamy, is a reflection of homophobia. I know it is not the more popular opinion, but it is what I honestly think. I am not preaching from the purity pulpit, I recognize my homophobic (and of course racist, misogynystic, etc) attitudes and often I am ashamed of them. But I am proud of the progress I have made and of my willingness to accept it is a never ending task.

I think we all are homophobic up to different degrees. In our formative years we were shaped by mainstream culture, that is homophobic, racist, mysoginistic, etc., up to different degrees. Those of us who were fortunate enough to break with that indoctrination spend the rest of our lives fighting against those mandates with more or less success. I think the biggest danger is not being homophobic but believing we are not.

It is true, this is his second retirement. However, let me point out this time he has achieved a significant benchmark, his Master degree. Also his plan is this time more realistic. In his first retirement he wanted to completely give up both escorting and porn. This time he is giving up only porn and “retail" clients like me. His plan is to stay escorting for premium clients, when they hire him for week ends and trips