Fitdljay

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Deep in the closet 😔

Deep in the closet 😔

I messaged with him on RM and in Sept 2021, he quoted me: “My donation is $500/hr and I have a 2 hr minimum“
I didn’t end up seeing him. 

Funny - I no longer describe myself.  They can pick a customer out of a crowded lobby lol.

Cut yourself some slack. Mistakes will be made and you will learn a ton from your first foray. Relax and enjoy yourself. There is no perfect escort and not everything will meet your expectations- you will at least learn what you don’t want for the next round

That’s GREAT advice for our exploratory friend! Off topic, I love to meet my hottie in the lobby, give him a kiss, and strut off to the elevator with him.

I think most people here have provided excellent suggestions and advice. For me personally from my most recent first provider experience, I would confirm with the provider what you want to happen before meeting up with them. I was nervous and let him know it was my first time as well. Their RM profile put that they were into kissing on their profile but when it came to me asking if he kissed during the encounter, he said he didn't do it. Just be upfront about what you want and get your moneys/times worth.

I think someone calling this a lapse in judgment is a bit extreme.  I wouldn't call it that, as we don't know all the details of the OP's situation. 
I think the size of the hotel is important.  A huge convention hotel is very different from a boutique.  A Courtyard/Hilton Garden Inn in Manhattan will have an extremely small lobby where everything is in full view, while a full service hotel may have restaurants, sitting areas, etc. in the lobby where not everything is visible.
I once met a provider in the full-service hotel lobby, gave him a key to my room, and we used separate elevators up.  Except for the brief exchange in the lobby (actually in a coffee shop connected to the hotel lobby), we were never visibly together.

If discretion is the name of the game, if privacy is of the utmost importance to you, and if the provider can’t host, then you need a different hotel. 

First of all, i would make sure the provider is aware that you would like him to be subdued in appearance.  Lots of escorts wear form fitting or skin revealing shirts and pants that emphasized the goods and for good reason.  They got it, they flaunt it.  Except in this case, you want to be sure he is not flaunting it too obviously in view of the co workers.  Otherwise, I would say, the sexier the better.
Prepare a cover before hand in that, in general conversation about the trip, mention a friend or relative who lives in that city with whom  you will be having a meal.  That way, a man coming up to your room can casually be dismissed as that friend or relative.  You want to have a room on a separate floor if possible.  You do not want to be inhibited in expressing your excitement especially if the provider hits all your buttons and control is not on full.  
Finally, what happens in your room is not the business of your coworkers.  I can respect your desire for privacy and so should they.  
Also, if you are there for a conference or a meeting.  You might want to schedule your encounter during those meetings and then excuse your self as to not feeling well.  Tell someone you are headed back to your room to take a nap and that you will probably be unavailable for the rest of the day.  
All that prep will give you some sense of security/ 
But most of all, plan to enjoy the encounter.  
Is your escort well reviewed here?  You might want to share his name so as to get some feedback from others who have hired him.  

It sounds like you are in the market for a provider who can do incalls. If I were you, I’d cancel this hotel meet up. If that guy can’t host you, I would apologize and opt out (prioritize your risk avoidance over his feelings of disappointment - he’ll be pissed). Get back on RM and find a guy who can host you for an hour. 
 
Bigger picture: you might consider how your lapse in judgement here might be because your subconscious self is tired of being in the closet and is desperate to be found out by people who are close to you. Maybe it’s time to think about coming out in a way that isn’t embarrassing or professionally risky.

If you’ve hired a good guy he will totally respect your privacy and will be discreet. 
When I wait for clients in the hotel lobby I always tell them where I’m sitting and what I’m wearing so they can see me. I sit somewhere discreet, I also arrive a bit early and scout out the hotel layout etc. When the client finds me I walk with them to the room but if he wants me to be discreet I’ll walk behind, as if we’re not together. That way if anyone is watching or he meets someone he knows I’ll just walk on by as if we’re not together. It’s all possible if you tell him you need 100% discretion until you’re in the room.
If you want to hide any noise while you’re in there, put the TV on, play music, put towels down at the foot of the room door (to muffle sound into the corridor). 
Don’t overthink the session. Tell him what you’d like but leave it to him to do his job. A good guy will know. Have fun! 
 

 

Really sad to see. I feel bad for him. But he is so respectful. 
It really needs to be legalized. Sigh. 

One of the magical things about your first time, is the realization the moment you lay eyes on each other and instantly know each other. Its immediate. It’s sexy. Wink at him or give him a fun smirk….its the best. Enjoy it.  

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Thanks. I appreciate the detailed reply. I like the point about getting a room away from the group. 

From what I can see online, my hotel requires a keycard to come up the elevator to the guest rooms. I will either have to meet him in the lobby or leave a keycard for him at the front desk (I imagine he might not want to engage with the hotel staff if he doesn’t need to plus I don’t want him to know my government name in case the ask)

Thank you! Absolutely will keep my room number to myself. 

Thank you. Will keep that in mind. 
This provider is well reviewed. Hoping he is professional about it. But you are right, I need to hold him accountable 

Thanks. You are right about the hotel requiring a keycard. My plan is to ride down the elevator then up with him. 
I guess I’ll have to describe what I look like so he will know it’s me lol. I haven’t seen his face either but I bet I would recognize his body 😈
 

Will do! Thanks.
Also, I agree: Joe Burrows is FINE

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Deep in the closet 😔

You probably know this, but if you’re bottoming, make sure you douche beforehand.
Let us know how it goes. We love hearing how first times go since we’ve all been there!

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