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Average cock size is a point of debate and personal to everyone, but I consider "average" to be 5-6 inches long, with "well endowed" to be 7 inches or larger. Big cocks are REALLY fucking hot and beautiful to look at, but feeling like I'm (literally) being split in half is not my idea of a good time. 5-6 inches is more than enough to get the job done, and with a lot more pleasure than a really big cock. 7 is a sweet spot: the "fill you up" feeling without the downside of my vagina tearing at the seams. I might dare to venture at 8 inches, but delicate handling of my dainty lady bits would be required.

Average cock size is a point of debate and personal to everyone, but I consider "average" to be 5-6 inches long, with "well endowed" to be 7 inches or larger. Big cocks are REALLY fucking hot and beautiful to look at, but feeling like I'm (literally) being split in half is not my idea of a good time. 5-6 inches is more than enough to get the job done, and with a lot more pleasure than a really big cock. 7 is a sweet spot: the "fill you up" feeling without the downside of my vagina tearing at the seams. I might dare to venture at 8 inches, but delicate handling of my dainty lady bits would be required.

"Clients like me" = has a vagina
"Numbers game" = it's a numbers game for me with gay providers who offer SFP services. Bi and Str8 providers are more of a sure shot.

Bi or "Straight", as it's rare for a gay provider to take clients like me and that's more of a number game thing.  Disease free. 5'11 or taller Past clients have good things to say about their performance and personality Personality checks out when I chat with them, a little charm goes a long way Body range: fit, from "boy next door" to "muscle jock", I have a soft spot for the boy next door type Age range: 20 - 50, I do prefer younger but I have been known to find older men attractive if they have nice bodies and take excellent care of themselves Prefer a clean shaven face but it's not always a deal breaker Cock can't be too huge, I'd like to walk the next day. Thank god for average sized cocks.  I'm on the fence about smoking, as long as they don't do hard drugs, I don't really give a shit about a little bit of recreational weed and acid

"Clients like me" = has a vagina
"Numbers game" = it's a numbers game for me with gay providers who offer SFP services. Bi and Str8 providers are more of a sure shot.

Average cock size is a point of debate and personal to everyone, but I consider "average" to be 5-6 inches long, with "well endowed" to be 7 inches or larger. Big cocks are REALLY fucking hot and beautiful to look at, but feeling like I'm (literally) being split in half is not my idea of a good time. 5-6 inches is more than enough to get the job done, and with a lot more pleasure than a really big cock. 7 is a sweet spot: the "fill you up" feeling without the downside of my vagina tearing at the seams. I might dare to venture at 8 inches, but delicate handling of my dainty lady bits would be required.

Bi or "Straight", as it's rare for a gay provider to take clients like me and that's more of a number game thing.  Disease free. 5'11 or taller Past clients have good things to say about their performance and personality Personality checks out when I chat with them, a little charm goes a long way Body range: fit, from "boy next door" to "muscle jock", I have a soft spot for the boy next door type Age range: 20 - 50, I do prefer younger but I have been known to find older men attractive if they have nice bodies and take excellent care of themselves Prefer a clean shaven face but it's not always a deal breaker Cock can't be too huge, I'd like to walk the next day. Thank god for average sized cocks.  I'm on the fence about smoking, as long as they don't do hard drugs, I don't really give a shit about a little bit of recreational weed and acid

Reading these is so interesting. Thank you to everyone who has contributed. It shows that it’s definitely not just about looks although clearly that’s important: I think it’s like the entry pass to the job - you need some kind of looks attribute whether that’s a big cock, a muscular physique or something that is distinctive. It’s also about personality and professionalism. I think the professionalism issue is something frequently overlooked by those doing the work. They rely on the looks and think ‘job done’. Big mistake.
My learning from doing the job is clients like the action but they come back for the connection and the intimacy. You can get action on a hookup but you won’t necessarily get connection, intimacy and someone who’s focused on giving. I’m glad to hear clients look for attributes like these. 

Here are my criteria, most of which are subjective and not objectively measurable on RM profiles.  So it requires some independent research on my part.  Disclaimer: these are my personal preferences only.  There are no right-or-wrong answers.  Please don’t judge/criticize me.
1.     Age — psychologically & emotionally (not necessarily physiologically) at least 35, but as close to my own age as possible, +/- 5 years standard deviation.  This facilitates my imagination of a “real” BFE.  I’m aiming for maturity.  I’m looking for someone to take care of me; I’m not at all interested in babysitting because there is too much of that already in the real world.
2.     Gay >>>>>>>>>> Bi.  Straight is a hard stop.  I know all providers are acting on the job, but GFP is just way too much acting.
3.     Athletic to muscular build — the key is proportion though.  A bulky chihuahua and a stick-figure giraffe are equally unappealing.
4.     Conversational skills — see criterion #1 above.  I typically book 2-hour appointments.  The ability to sustain a decent adult dialogue is crucial.  Nothing kills the mood faster than awkward dead air.
5.     Personality — warm, approachable, and mild-tempered.  Strangely enough, I find providers who are simultaneously angelic and devilish (in words and/or in action) utterly irresistible.
6.     Race/Ethnicity — I know this is a borderline taboo subject, but I prefer a provider who is NOT of my race/ethnicity.  I want someone different from me.  Unfamiliarity is exhilarating and enticing.
7.     No tattoo — it is a distraction.  Why would you add graffiti to an otherwise perfectly sculpted piece of artwork?

I gotta say, it's refreshing to see that [most of] y'all have some criteria other than JUST physical attributes!--Like OP said, not typical clients 😍

"Clients like me" = has a vagina
"Numbers game" = it's a numbers game for me with gay providers who offer SFP services. Bi and Str8 providers are more of a sure shot.

So, this is intriguing.  Say more about both halves of this sentence, please. :-)

The attributes I tend to look for are:
    1.    Tall, well-built, and properly masculine blokes.
    2.    Someone who takes good care of themselves, health-conscious, gets regular check-ups, that sort of thing.
    3.    Friendly and easy-going communication.
    4.    Well-endowed (I’ve got a bit of a thing for seeing and stroking a nice, big cock).
    5.    Lads who aren’t fussed about penetration, and enjoy body and cock worship, a bit of swordplay, and oral.
    6.    Someone with solid reviews and positive feedback.
    7.    Preferably able to host, and available during the day.
    8.    And lastly, no drugs.
 
 

1)Gay or Bi preferably.  If "straight" then they are willing to engage with what I want.
2)Willing to go bare
3)Tight hole
4)A bottom preferably or vers.
5)Some good reviews
6)Kinky, willing to get tied up or at least be submissive
7)Fit to Average range
8)Age 20-50, maybe even older as long as they can perform
9)Clean shaven
10)Good personality, even more important than looks.
11)Willing to be photographed or filmed
12)Potentially available for overnights or longer.

Interesting thread and observations @PhileasFogg 
I too like younger men. I’ve always enjoyed the ‘boyfriend experience’ and longer dates allow me to explore and deepen the relationship. 
I agree with the three characteristics listed, especially the third. I want intelligent conversation at dinner and over breakfast. Getting a young person’s perspective on current affairs and politics is of great interest to me.

I’m somewhat vanilla sexually in that I truly enjoy being a top and I’ve no interest in kink. In my 20s, I enjoyed dating goodlooking young men aged 21-35, with fit, muscled bodies. Over the successive decades since then, my tastes haven’t changed at all.
I still prize handsome muscleboys and jocks, especially if they have a compliant nature and like to please. My “focus has evolved” on the physical front: I no longer set great store on fucking; I still want a passionate engagement (kissing & cuddling); I value a skilled cocksucker and I delight in a guy who swallows my load. 

Well shit, I feel like making myself a girl scout badge "Lover of Cock" to wear as a label now. 

Bi or "Straight", as it's rare for a gay provider to take clients like me and that's more of a number game thing.  Disease free. 5'11 or taller Past clients have good things to say about their performance and personality Personality checks out when I chat with them, a little charm goes a long way Body range: fit, from "boy next door" to "muscle jock", I have a soft spot for the boy next door type Age range: 20 - 50, I do prefer younger but I have been known to find older men attractive if they have nice bodies and take excellent care of themselves Prefer a clean shaven face but it's not always a deal breaker Cock can't be too huge, I'd like to walk the next day. Thank god for average sized cocks.  I'm on the fence about smoking, as long as they don't do hard drugs, I don't really give a shit about a little bit of recreational weed and acid

Always hated this pushback that started in the '90s, calling people who rerference categories, WHICH HAVE ALWAYS BEEN A REASONABLE and USEFUL THING, as "Labeling".  Because yes, we all know that "YOU" the person calling out the labeler, are a unique butterfly-unicorn hybrid that defies all categorization.  Aren't you special?
When my friends and I first noticed this around '92, so many would say "I don't believe in labels", and we'd respond to this ridiculousness:    I can even label you.  You are an individual in that group of people of people who deny the existence of labels.  That's your label.  

ok now I'm getting confused... does this all come down to semantics and disagreement on what qualifies as "bisexual" vs straight?
We've got: 
Sexual Attraction (As in "Yeah, I'd hit that...") Romantic Attraction (As in "Yeah I'd put a ring on that... and hit that...") Situational Horniness (As in JAIL) Situational Incentive (As in if Bill Gates offered you 100mil to suck his dick, but you're straight. What would you do it?) Which situations from 1-4 where sex with men are involved qualifies someone as straight, bi or gay?
I see where @Gilfsonis coming from where paying a male escort of their own free will (no situational pressure or survival scenarios), is indicative of sexual attraction to men, and that alone seems counterfactual to the "straight" identity. 

I had a provider who would reach out to me now n then to ask how I’m doing or fill me in on his life. I expect it was probably cuz he needed funds, but i appreciated the personal touch and he became a regular because of it. Noot in love, but feels like throwing business towards a friend.

There is an escort that I saw pretty regularly for a few years.   He is not only the best provider I have ever met he is also the best sex I have ever had.  I'm almost 66 and let's just say I have been enjoying physical pleasure with other guys since I was much, much younger. So I know of what I speak. Anyway, he and I would text to wish each other happy birthday, or at the holidays, or on V-Day like today.  When we see each other it is usually for several hours and he's happy with the one hour rate because we seem to get along well.  We talk about our lives and relationships. We will lay in bed after sex and talk, and sometimes go for round 2. Other times we get together for dinner and maybe a movie, without sex.  I almost always make a contribution for his time because sometimes he says no, he just wanted to hang out and talk.
 

Mine seem to be aware. I get asked ‘can I see you when you’re fresh?’.  I’m like a baguette at the bakery, best in the morning whilst still warm. 

Kisses, snuggles. cuddles for me since I like the BFE. But as anything, best to communicate your desires to the provider beforehand so they can accommodate or let you know what they are/aren't willing to do. 

Have you had self-proclaimed lesbian clients who become straight after spending time with you?  If so, it is doubly fabulous indeed!  😜

I’m just as confused as you are.  Perhaps I’m way too ignorant in the terminologies and definitions.
However, I do see the points made by @Gilfson.  I recall my friend once asked, when engaging in a similar discussion on sexuality/identity/orientation, “Do you still call yourself a vegetarian if you eat meat for whatever reasons?”  I don’t know and I don’t really care enough to know.  My reply was: “You do you.  You eat whatever you want whenever and however you want.  I can care less.”
That said, IMO, if you’re a herbivore, eat your salad; if you’re a carnivore, help yourself with medium rare; and if you’re an omnivore, enjoy your all-you-can-eat buffet.  At the end of the day, you may be the only person in this entire universe who cares about how you label yourself.