RayK

I would do a thorough search and narrow down your choices to a handful or so. Add those potential providers to your buddy list. For me, this is important because I can see which providers post “available now” and how often. I see it as the ones that don’t post as often, tend to have a comfortable client base built up, and seem to be more reliable and open to conversation (don’t go overboard) when it’s time to make an appointment. Remember, there are probably a lot of people that reach out with no real intention of meeting, which is why some providers don’t want to get into the back and forth. But nothing wrong with asking questions to see if they will be a good fit or not. 

As someone who just recently had their first experience with a man, I will tell you what helped me tremendously. Once I narrowed down my search, with a handful of local providers, who were my type and had a fair amount of good reviews on RM. I checked them with Company of Men, to get some trusted reviews. After they passed that test, I paid for an hour of their regular rate to meet them in person. I only did this with 2 local providers. We had coffee or quick meal, and I was able to ask every imaginable question, and share my concerns about my first experience with a man. It also allowed me to see if we had a connection and real chemistry. I was able to find an awesome provider who has been kind, patient and loving, as I explore my sexuality with a man.This is not a conventional way go, and some of you will disagree with my method, but it sure worked well for me. I wish you the best with your journey. 

If you were, you'd have daddies lining up to meet you

Glad this thread exists. I'm in LA and wasn't sure about meeting up with him, seems to move around a lot and I like something regular.
Decided to do dinner and some fun. Let's just say the boy can take it. Awesome smile, funny, and we were in the bedroom for hours.
Ended up having him over the next night and skipping dinner entirely. Definitely recommend.

I met Finn this evening in Las Vegas, and hope that repeats many times in the future, much like it happens with minhmang ( see posting above ).   Finn is genuine, intelligent, sexy as hell, and, also, one of the nicest guys I've ever met.  I wish he lived in my hometown.   Or next door.  Or in my spare bedroom.    Seriously, Finn's a sweet guy, and he made me forget that I'm an old coot.  The pleasure of his company is a memorable treat
 
 

I met Finn this evening in Las Vegas, and hope that repeats many times in the future, much like it happens with minhmang ( see posting above ).   Finn is genuine, intelligent, sexy as hell, and, also, one of the nicest guys I've ever met.  I wish he lived in my hometown.   Or next door.  Or in my spare bedroom.    Seriously, Finn's a sweet guy, and he made me forget that I'm an old coot.  The pleasure of his company is a memorable treat
 
 

Finnforyou is currently in Los Angeles. He has been my regular boy toy for many years when he was in northern Virginia suburb of DC. He recently moved.
It was a happy surprise that Finnforyou happens to be in LA when I am there for a work trip. We have met MANY times over the years. Can't tell you how great Finnforyou is. Do yourself a favor to meet him. You need at least 2 hours to appreciate him!!!"

If he’s only advertising as a masseur, even though conversation could suggest that he’s open to other action, he might simply be avoiding potential legal action from local authorities.   Full frontal photos aren’t necessarily illegal, but can suggest paid sexual services, and those most certainly can be.   A phone call asking for details of “dimensions” might be the solution.

If he’s only advertising as a masseur, even though conversation could suggest that he’s open to other action, he might simply be avoiding potential legal action from local authorities.   Full frontal photos aren’t necessarily illegal, but can suggest paid sexual services, and those most certainly can be.   A phone call asking for details of “dimensions” might be the solution.

If he’s only advertising as a masseur, even though conversation could suggest that he’s open to other action, he might simply be avoiding potential legal action from local authorities.   Full frontal photos aren’t necessarily illegal, but can suggest paid sexual services, and those most certainly can be.   A phone call asking for details of “dimensions” might be the solution.

If he’s only advertising as a masseur, even though conversation could suggest that he’s open to other action, he might simply be avoiding potential legal action from local authorities.   Full frontal photos aren’t necessarily illegal, but can suggest paid sexual services, and those most certainly can be.   A phone call asking for details of “dimensions” might be the solution.

After reading the variety of comments about Pony, I decided to spend some time with him, and get an in person experience.   Communication with him was open and honest, and my time with him proved to be beyond expectations.  He is kind and friendly, intelligent, very handsome, and incredibly tactile.  The massage was quite appropriate, and segued nicely into extras.   His touch is magic.  I will definitely see this gorgeous man again.

Excellent point.

It's never safe to assume. You have to develop a way of asking, clearly but respectfully. 

Big Bummer !   And yet another reason to not agree to advance deposits.

Big Bummer !   And yet another reason to not agree to advance deposits.

Big Bummer !   And yet another reason to not agree to advance deposits.

Pony_ps ( masseur ) is a lot of fun.  If Tom Sawyer ( escort ) is in town, he's great company.

I spent an hour with him in Vegas, several weeks ago.   He loves up to his name.  Very sensual and reciprocal.

I met CarterH a year or so ago, during a Vegas visit.   Very nice guy.  Nothing phony about him.  Pleasing session.

This doesn’t happen often, but a potential provider in Vegas just asked me for a face pic.  I’m not comfortable with that.   Am I being needlessly uptight?

One person who posted here up until August saw him but never returned my message.  That should have been a warning sign. I am seeing someone today who has gotten rave reviews from a few different regulars here, so I am hoping my record remains intact of great meetings with guys recommended by folks here! 

I think we can all agree that provider reviews on RM aren't necessarily the gold standard for having a great time, but what about the absence of any reviews?   Its understandable on new guys, but is it a worry if there are no reviews even after a guy has been around for a while ?

This is definitely an insightful response.   And, yes, only paid memberships qualify a client to review a provider.

Sometimes one simply has to take one for the team.