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Ok. I just don’t like it when subtle jabs at my intelligence are being taken.

Yes, please leave the conversation. It’s best for you. You dishonestly imply that the degree of difference in intensity between the outcomes in my analogy nullifies my main point: that both a person who declines a heart surgery because of hearing about the risk of complications and a person who declines to pay a deposit because they have heard about people stealing deposits may miss out on something that would have benefited them somehow. It is indeed best that you retire from this conversation.

Your BEST bet was to not post at all- as all you can now do is feign intellectual and argumentative superiority with sentences like this, even when it is clear you had no argument.

Lol yes it’s a difference in intensity of negative outcomes from not agreeing to something. That is obvious, and the degree of difference between death and not seeing a hot guy because you declined his deposit is as plain as day. I can tell you’re being disingenuous because you focused on the difference in intensity between the two scenarios I am analogizing, rather than the fact that in both scenarios, a service that entails risk is being declined. As the heart patient could have benefitted from the surgery, the client could have benefitted from that fun time with a provider he was interested in. The intensity of the outcomes is not at all the point.

Please point it out- otherwise this seems like a facade of having any argumentative standing when you actually do not.

Yes, we can imagine that your ideal world is one where no deposits are requested and no deposits are paid 🤣. A world where @KensingtonHomo would not have met with the sea of honest providers he alluded to meeting in his post, all so that he could avoid that 1% who didn't honor the deposit they were paid. We could similarly reduce the risk of heart surgery complications (an AI overview suggests 15% frequency) to 0% frequency by banning heart surgeries entirely.

I take your city situation to mean that you are saying this: “even if there are more faithfully honored deposits than stolen deposits, the practice of paying a deposit is unsafe”. The entire point of my first post on this thread is to say that NO ONE has information on the ratio of faithfully-honored-deposits to stolen deposits. The share of successful deposit transactions could be huge in comparison to scammed deposit transactions. It is similar to suggesting that many heart surgeries should be banned, because of the possibility that some percentage of those surgeries could go wrong or have complications. Driving cars should be banned, because you might get into an accident or encounter a drunk driver who kills you. The profession of Policing should end, because some police end up killing unarmed civilians.

You claim my comment is silly but you yourself actually make the silliest leap with your first paragraph here. The statement I said simply means that it is impossible to see the full distribution of outcomes that happens with deposit transactions. IE, obviously, no one has some database of what happens with all deposit transactions The times when a deposit is paid and faithfully honored are much less likely to be reported than the occasions when deposits are paid but stolen, leading to likely asymmetrical coverage of the latter.

Yup. I think deposits of something like $50 are ok, especially when it’s done for a guy with at least 40 5-star reviews and good commentary on CoM. There is way too much anti-deposit hysteria going on, and you never hear about all the times that a deposit DOESN’T get stolen, because of human’s natural attention bias towards negative outcomes (occasions when a deposit DOES get stolen). Its similar to how not every story of police good-doing (saving a life or rescuing someone) gets put out, but police-civilian deadly mishaps are much more likely to get coverage.

Perhaps it was a peculiar day, and the provider is not typically stinky. I also question the possibility that he would be accepting of you requesting him to wash your butt and you washing his. I think a request for him to be well showered (especially in the butt area) would be acceptable.

What city are you based in?

Are you asking about where, within SF, there is a high concentration of providers? Or what listed cities on the RM map in the Bay Area have the most providers? I don’t think looking within SF for an escort-dense area would solve your issue of a lack of variety that you note. The places within SF that likely have the most providers are probably near Castro and SOMA. Oakland and Berkeley have other selections, but they aren’t as large population wise.

Also, looking at the specific dates, he might be on the famous Atlantis cruise. Don’t think he would be easily accessible atm.

Dm me. I let him smother me with something else 🥵. In all seriousness, I had an extraordinary time with him.

Profile is reactivated, and he’s coming here to SF next weekend.

Zelle feels too identifying for both myself and the provider at times. I prefer Venmo and Apple Cash.

Dawg may still be used without an intent to invoke stereotypical blackness- especially today among younger people.

I wouldn’t say Kai has a “bad reputation”, as his reviews here seem mostly good + RM reviews are stellar. Critical points here seem to be regarding his possible neurodivergence, which isn’t a bad thing. However, when an unknown individual seems to sign up and under 10 minutes later, posts a laudatory review of someone, it does raise eyebrows. I honestly think that if @MJBis not Kai, he’s doing Kai a disservice unfortunately. The novelty of your account will naturally arouse suspicion about whether you are Kai and trying to inflate your public image. The best way to engage in good PR (if you choose to engage at all, which may not necessarily be good) is to sign up as yourself and interact publicly with the members on here as Kai. Many providers have done that before/ dispelled negative rumors about themselves/etc.

I think you much too easily associated the name with stereotypical Blackness. Also, he may not be consciously trying to evoke “Blackness” by the name. “Dawg” may be used without this intent.

Hottie is now in SF

https://rent.men/trevortala

I agree. I’d say that if an hour was booked, he isn’t, in my mind, morally obligated to give more of his time for free. I had a lovely experience with him recently.

I doubt he is a provider doing OF collabs - most of the guys this client sees don’t have /show OF (and if they did, they are clearly not profitable enough to be shown). The pattern analysis by @crazyivan plus the fact that he has such specific taste as pointed out by @Venite leads me to think this is a real, super wealthy client, with the sex appetite of an everyday New York gay millennial hooking up as he pleases. Maybe he indeed is a trust fund baby lol

Isn’t it telling though? That these threads of unprovoked disparagement against providers can be found with such temporal frequency on this website?

I have to agree here. There are clearly bad actors who started with nastiness and cruelty .