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Really? All the prior talk of reporting the fakes to RM wasn't "negative"? The guy was exposed, many times. Lots of warnings. I was simply saying that a lot of commentary on the boards tends to be negative. I haven't done a thorough review, but I'm a regular reader and I see way more posts asking for info from actual meetings that are filled with comments about how dated the pics look, what the guy doesn't list or does, and less frequently digs about how fleshy or skinny the guy is based on the same pics we all see. I'm grateful for the sleuthing some posters do. I just wonder about the overall tone. You don't see that? Really?

Then don't hire.

And one more observation: there's a huge difference between keen detective work, sussing out stolen pice and pointing out the real dudes in the pics, and just sniping. Digs about things flatly stated -- age, limits, etc. -- seem pointless and nasty. The info is already there for us. No need for the commentary. Your response to my post highlights your view that my opinion isn't what you care about. Oddly, that's a response to my post that so much negative commentary is of that ilk -- opinion. It's frankly of no use to me, or I suspect to most potential clients, to read digs based on what we already see/know. It's easy to slam a guy for his pics, or his "intos". But we all see those things ourselves. What we really want is some insight, especially from people who have a basis. Too often it's just not that. And yeah, while I was trying to not target any particular poster, you are often in that category. Other readers may not see it that way, or if they do just ignore your posts/opinions. You leave a mark.

If it works for you, great.

I try to do the same. Good on you.

Project much? Or did I hit a sore spot? No one, certainly not me, suggested giving a pass to fakes. My point was simpler: it says so much more about the poster, especially when its a pattern, when negativity is the gist. We all want reliable info. So much of the time it's not reliable, meaning it's based on reactions to non-interactions and is about how the pics look, suppositions about falsehoods, even accurate digs. It's for each of us to filter through the available info, including the dings posted. Would you prefer that I cull through the plethora of negative posts to call you or others out? Not my goal or point. I made an observation. You took it personally. That's for you to sort, not me.

As to your criteria for hiring, those are yours and you should do as works for you. Your last sentence is the only one on point. Yes, it's a forum for discussion. Some of that discussion includes reacting to what others say, including finding flippant nastiness unappealing.

I do. I think some overdo it, piling on. There seems to be a weird (to me) satisfaction in piling on. I won't call out those who do that. YOU know who you are.

wrong forum

Some posters prefer to poke and cast aspersions as if it shows they are discerning. To me, getting accurate info is always helpful. Some of the pot shots and piling on are not.

Okay. But why do we tend to focus on exposing fakes rather than backstopping real guys. Warnings are good. Obsessing over guys who've been debunked for a while is less helpful and seems to be more about showing off ones detective skills than in providing useful and unique info.

I've run across this in a few cases. Generally the auto response simplifies communication by identifying rates, and asking for a call or text (which, if the escort chooses to receive notifications, is likely to be seen much faster than other means of communicating via RentMen. These days, most guys don't spend much time online logged into RM, but rely on notifications on their cell phones to tell them of an inquiry.

I'll defer to your greater knowledge on the transplant possibilities. I will say that not having an advocate that has an ongoing relationship with Daddy is likely to make more extraordinary measures less likely to be employed, especially given his age and the health issues he has struggled with from his diabetes. There were a number of times that my forceful advocacy on behalf of my father resulted in doctors capitulating and pursuing treatments that extended his life by years.

You're making some assumptions about what is in those medical records. A lot of people do not plan for the potential of being unable to make medical decisions for themselves. A lot of people fail to update their contacts for emergencies. And a lot varies by state. A lot of states encourage health care workers to press for health care proxies, advanced directives, etc. Many others don't.

Everyone who has posted has been supportive of Daddy and, I think, sought to be constructive in a difficult situation. The medical news has been depressing, but not entirely shocking. Daddy's he alth has been challenging for him. If positive thoughts, prayers and wishes matter, he has them from so many of us. It's also a warning to all of us that we need to plan for those situations when we cannot speak or act for ourselves in the moment. A lot more of us (gay men) end up being legally untethered to familial decision makers, unmarried and without offspring. It's all the more important for us to put in place decisionmakers and directives.

Of course, the same is true for the escort if the client fails to follow through.

You are inspiring. Lover of classics. Hoboken Frank was well before my time, and even more before yours, but he was superb. As are you.

I tried to hire him. Thought we had a confirmed overnight. I arranged this a week in advance, and all was set from what I heard back. Then the day came and nothing. I tried several times, politiely, to find out if we were still on. Never got a response. His pictures and ad are quite enticing, but the lack of follow through was frustrating.

Me too. He's perfection.

I've had the experience that once things are set, a guy who I haven't met wants to see a pic for purposes of recognizing me when we meet in a public place. I'm generally reluctant to send anything identifying, but I am always torn about that in the moment. It's a game time decision for me.

He has a gap of 13 days between the non-US location and the first US location. That might be to allow for satisfying the two week quarantine in place in most U.S. cities/states.

It seemed clear to me that he was saying not to send sexualized messages.

Your post prompted a tangential thought: the legalities are much smoother when medical professionals pronounce death, usually in a hospital setting. My brother took his life in a one-car crash. His cause of death was obviously suicide, but it took months to sort out with the medical examiner, his body had to be identified, blood tests were run to rule out a chemical cause of the crash, etc. My father died in the hospital. My mom died at home, in my presence, but as her breathing started to halt I called 911. The EMTs attempted to revive her, then took her to the hospital where she was pronounced. My parent's deaths were logistically smoother because they were pronounced in hospitals.

I'm of the same view. There were a few times when I had to push for my father to be admitted to the hospital and those proved life saving.

My father was the same way. In his case it was an outgrowth of being a control freak. My mom was always a bit late so he'd set artificial times an hour ahead to ensure his real timetable was met, but then he'd get upset that the fake time wasn't met. My nephew inherited my father's obsession with scheduling. His wife flatly told him that her family doesn't think in terms of being "late". They go and come on their own time.