Let me guess: You have that fierce, you-wanna-go-outside-and-settle-this look that's so attractive to both men and women. That's fine, but it also makes it harder to meet people. Look at it from their POV: You could be a hot guy up for M4M sex, or you might rob and beat them up.
Work on cultivating a more open, friendly expression. If you're as urban-looking as you say, it won't make you any less masc looking