This is good to hear as he comes to San Jose quite regularly.
Call it a self esteem issue or something else but I always wonder if the provider is enjoying himself. I'm far from a big bear but rather a senior pocket gay, only 5'2", 135 and quite average looking. Fortunately I never experienced any negative engagements but it's always in the back of my mind. Being a senior is one reason why I choose older providers, preferably 40+, as I feel like there may be a better connection and they understand what it is like to get older. I tend to steer away from younger guys, even though there are so many hot ones, because I think they would not be interested and it would show in there performance.
I probably just need to work this out with a good therapist. That said I have a couple of regulars that I think like me as a client.🤞