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go to the top of THIS screen, click on your name, a drop down menu appears - click on IGNORED MEMBERS, it will take you to another page where you can search the members' name(s) and allow you to "ignore" (block) them

it's an option i have learned to use judiciously - there are some members here who truly do trigger a ptsd response in me - make good choices, as they say!

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Never did the rambles or the fire island meat rack, or any similar outdoor places, BUT frequent flyer at sex clubs and parties - current and past.... i would say choose carefully - some cater more to the stand and pose types, some are pure sexy fun! in the latter you can encounter many types of guys, all coming together for shared horniness. as for me, i don't like the dark spaces that some guys gravitate to - the "unknown" doesn't work for me: but as a pure voyeur/exhibitionist i know i have had some very good times, and i hope i have provided others with good times there. go with high expectations, and make them come true. stay sane and sober. make good choices but try to put pre-existing judgments aside, even if for just a little while. if you feel judged, move on. sex parties succeed on shared energies... not the negative energy of guys who seem to think they are better than others, as we see here at times. it's fun to be with other men who love sex. again: make good choices but have fun.

"The gays"??? Come on, man.... at least develop the ability to read the room... but in any case, someone doth protest too much!

I would say your post is very much reflective of the original topic of this thread.

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it's NOTHING like it was before - i only joined after the politics board was gotten rid of, but a close friend of mine was bullied non-stop back then - enjoy this forum for what it offers, and just develop the capability to quickly monitor what you read and edit out the silly stuff! While the negative posts seem to come from members who post too often and are insecure ego-driven types, there are really good people here

Getting rid of the politics forum was the most overt way the atmosphere changed - I never saw such nastiness -- no just some downright cruelty -- enacted as I saw there - and it looks like some of the chief nasties who had no real interest in the board crawled back into their dens. Now all we have is some misplaced inappropriate bravado and bits of name-calling it seems. That change made it possible for the toxicity to become the aberration, not the norm, and we are all better for that.

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Something about Riley's look really works for me.... that whole tall slim tattoo'd thing makes me think about the Ozarks.... or.... something else rough and southern....

There are a number of reasons why victims stay with their abuser. Victims do not stay in abusive relationships because they enjoy being abused. Rather, they have very real, compelling reasons for staying, such as the fear of leaving is greater than the fear of staying. Fear of the unknown can be a powerful reason for “staying put.” Also, victims are often threatened with physical harm if they try to leave. Many victims feel that they have more control by remaining in an abusive relationship. They know their abuser’s whereabouts and moods and therefore know how to act in the way that will be least likely to trigger their temper. The victim fears that if they attempt to leave, the violence could extend to their family or friends who are helping them escape.The abuser promises that it will never happen again; the victim wants to believe that this is true. Also, the victim may believe that the abuser is sick and needs their help. The idea of leaving can thus produce feelings of guilt. Also, he victim may come to believe that they somehow deserve the abuse. The abuser has destroyed any sense of self-esteem they once had and therefore they now may believe that they don’t deserve anything better. Most people enter a relationship for love and the emotion does not simply disappear in abusive relationships. Most victims want the violence to end, but love their partner and want the relationship to work. A lack of money can make these situations even harder because many options for leaving require payments, such as a hotel fee or a plane ticket. If the victim does not have the means to do these things many of their options disappear.

Reality check on Aisle #1, please!

Agreed - once restrictions were placed on justb how aggressively awful to others one could be here, many of the attackers kinda "shot their load" and moved on, likely to other sites to repeat their same compulsive behaviors. Thank god, and thank the monitors!

I understand that also there were active members who were essentially witch-hunted off the site because of mean/vicious members who viciously attacked them. The attackers remain, the attacked fled. Ahhhhh such drama!

My understanding is that with some changes made to the site itself and a better moderation system, CoM is far far less toxic than it was a few years ago. A good friend of mine was the target of truly vicious personal attacks here, people were posting outlandishly objectionable materials, and there was a definite contingent who would be oppositional just in order to stir up chaos. Sure there is some bizarre behavior here now, but it seems to me to be a continent better than it once was!

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The Montreal based guy I referenced couldn't show because 1) the weather is bad, 2) took "bad" brugs, 3) had to go to the hospital, 4) wasn't into it. Yeah, definitely had a lot going on, too.,

I have been to Montreal for four short-ish trips this year and have always had a wonderful time.... I am sure you will too - From NYC I did the trips by car, which was cool except for the fact that Montreal is itself not a car-friendly city - it does have wonderful public transportation and is very walkable. I stayed both in the Village area and in the Plateau, and actually preferred the latter - much more of a local feeling, better food and shopping choices, and just a general all over nicer feeling. If you are a foodie of any sort do try to make a trip to the Atwater market - a highlight of each and every one of my trips Also happy to answer any mpre specific questions

Having been ripped off by a Montreal guy i had already met (said he needed cash urgently and woulld double my time for the next session if I paid in advance) I will never ever ever pay anything in any form in advance -- and hopefully be a better judge of character goiing forward, too!

yeahhhh.... just like a gross swollen apendage....

This caught on as a craze in bangkok a bunch of years ago and the results were not pretty. At all.

wise words - wish i had consulted you when he asked!

I thought I was not vulnerable to scams like these and then it happened to me, too A guy I had met and had a good time with - messaged me while overseas "in distress" and needed help - asked if I would prepay for a session that he would deliver when he returned - I sent the $, and he has since flaked on me something like 4 times - seems to have a lot of drama in his life, eh? Lesson learned - I rationalize it as having overpaid for that one session and that red flags exist for a reason.

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