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Have had wonderful communication with this guy, and have enjoyed his 'X' page and hoping to meet him very soon - anyone else with experience(s) - good, bad, or otherwise? https://rent.men/AlexJamesRed

In Thailand, it is illegal to step on the paper currency because the baht features an image of the King and stepping on it is considered disrespectful and a violation of the lese-majeste laws which protect the monarchy from insult -- violations can even include imprisonment.

actually in a culture full of over-the-top superlatives, i found this understatement a bit refreshing - if nothing else made me want to check him out and judge for myself!

You speak the truth (and I'm trying to bring this wonderful discussion back around to the original topic in some way without devaluing what we are talking about here...) The only thing I would add (and this additional is essential to my own mental health during these taxing times) is that there is always a strain of thought that seeks to unleash energies that are liberatory - in opposition to the mainstream - and therein we can find kernels of hope that change remains something we can fight for and, at the very least, hope for and envision. Maybe we call these energies "radical"? Well, being called a "radical", an "outsider", "marginal", hell, even "deviant" suits me just fine these days!

Can I just say that you are a lucky, lucky person - a wonderful city in a wonderful country!

@KensingtonHomo raises a hugely important point - the idea of "fetishization". A scholar (now sadly gone) named Edward Said wrote a lot about the tangled relationship between the "East" and the "West", and to risk oversimplifying his life's work, let me say that often the so-called "Orient: is loved on the basis of the West's idea of the Orient (whether or not the Orient matches that idea) and the West warps the Orient to match Western tastes and perceptions. This kind of "festishized love" is a love which is based on what the other is pereceived to be able to do for me. What does this look like in our quotidian lives? More than one Asian man has been called upon to fit a Westerner's expectations of what is an appropriate behavior is his eyes, regardless of how the Asian guy determines his own life. And there's the rub.

I stopped at "Alpha", haha - and I"m really sorry you had to endure all this - there are clearly bad apples out there who take advantage of our community - and he is the most rotten of this ilk it would seem Short sighted does not say it all

Not exactly - but kinda - and not to get too creepily academic here in this space, but the dominance of a ruling class's ideas and values (the "mainstream", the "dominant") over the rest of society is achieved not through force but through the subtle influence of culture ... it's the process where the worldview of the powerful becomes the accepted and normalized perspective for everyone, shaping beliefs, values, and behaviors.

First, thank you for speaking truth to power here. It is always peculiar to me when people who (despite their protestations to the contrary) buy into the narratives of the mainstream criticize others for living in an "echo chamber" when we from time to time seek comfort from voices who reflect our own values. We are confronted 24/7/365 by voices controlled by those who seek to replicate dominant narratives, so if i spend some time surrounded by those from whom I derive some comfort and reassurance, i plead happily guilty. Added to all that, I am indeed an activist who seeks to reduce human suffering on oou endangered planet. Hard to believe that provokes adversarial responses. So my echo chamber is not only a source of comfort, but it also a source of strength for me and my like-minded friends. Make good choices, be kind, be good, fight against those who seek to bully and intimidate.

That is inexcusable, and YES - you should!!

wow brings back memories - kind of - haha: i met them like 5 years ago and i know i had a good-ish time with them, but somehow i cannot remember any of the details (and yes i was 100% sober at the time.....) i remember they were nice looking and worked together well but not sure just how much fun was in the fun.

OR... We have deeply felt value systems which transcend the every day chatter of the news - we are secure in our beliefs, seek like minded people, and treasure the people who share the fact that there are people out there simply working to reduce human suffering and make this world a better place Sure I carefully curate my sources of information - not because I fear opposing views, but rather because I can distinguish between what is helpful in my life and what is not Make good choices.

go to the top of THIS screen, click on your name, a drop down menu appears - click on IGNORED MEMBERS, it will take you to another page where you can search the members' name(s) and allow you to "ignore" (block) them

it's an option i have learned to use judiciously - there are some members here who truly do trigger a ptsd response in me - make good choices, as they say!

i love new england! Yea... thanks for this!

Never did the rambles or the fire island meat rack, or any similar outdoor places, BUT frequent flyer at sex clubs and parties - current and past.... i would say choose carefully - some cater more to the stand and pose types, some are pure sexy fun! in the latter you can encounter many types of guys, all coming together for shared horniness. as for me, i don't like the dark spaces that some guys gravitate to - the "unknown" doesn't work for me: but as a pure voyeur/exhibitionist i know i have had some very good times, and i hope i have provided others with good times there. go with high expectations, and make them come true. stay sane and sober. make good choices but try to put pre-existing judgments aside, even if for just a little while. if you feel judged, move on. sex parties succeed on shared energies... not the negative energy of guys who seem to think they are better than others, as we see here at times. it's fun to be with other men who love sex. again: make good choices but have fun.

"The gays"??? Come on, man.... at least develop the ability to read the room... but in any case, someone doth protest too much!

I would say your post is very much reflective of the original topic of this thread.

The most review is mine --and i promise credible, LOL

it's NOTHING like it was before - i only joined after the politics board was gotten rid of, but a close friend of mine was bullied non-stop back then - enjoy this forum for what it offers, and just develop the capability to quickly monitor what you read and edit out the silly stuff! While the negative posts seem to come from members who post too often and are insecure ego-driven types, there are really good people here

Getting rid of the politics forum was the most overt way the atmosphere changed - I never saw such nastiness -- no just some downright cruelty -- enacted as I saw there - and it looks like some of the chief nasties who had no real interest in the board crawled back into their dens. Now all we have is some misplaced inappropriate bravado and bits of name-calling it seems. That change made it possible for the toxicity to become the aberration, not the norm, and we are all better for that.

A really nice, cool guy - professional, competent, charming - AND gives a great massage in a nice midtown location, Sensual erotic aspects? Yes. Strongly recommend - he's one of the "good guys"

Something about Riley's look really works for me.... that whole tall slim tattoo'd thing makes me think about the Ozarks.... or.... something else rough and southern....

There are a number of reasons why victims stay with their abuser. Victims do not stay in abusive relationships because they enjoy being abused. Rather, they have very real, compelling reasons for staying, such as the fear of leaving is greater than the fear of staying. Fear of the unknown can be a powerful reason for “staying put.” Also, victims are often threatened with physical harm if they try to leave. Many victims feel that they have more control by remaining in an abusive relationship. They know their abuser’s whereabouts and moods and therefore know how to act in the way that will be least likely to trigger their temper. The victim fears that if they attempt to leave, the violence could extend to their family or friends who are helping them escape.The abuser promises that it will never happen again; the victim wants to believe that this is true. Also, the victim may believe that the abuser is sick and needs their help. The idea of leaving can thus produce feelings of guilt. Also, he victim may come to believe that they somehow deserve the abuse. The abuser has destroyed any sense of self-esteem they once had and therefore they now may believe that they don’t deserve anything better. Most people enter a relationship for love and the emotion does not simply disappear in abusive relationships. Most victims want the violence to end, but love their partner and want the relationship to work. A lack of money can make these situations even harder because many options for leaving require payments, such as a hotel fee or a plane ticket. If the victim does not have the means to do these things many of their options disappear.

Reality check on Aisle #1, please!