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I will say that a number of gay lit titles from the 1970s, 1980s and even the 1990s have become quite difficult to find -- and thus can command high prices via online booksellers. (This goes as well for less "literary" texts dedicated from the 1940s onward...) Donating to your local library sale or community center can be worth trying but, if you've got the time/inclination, listing the titles online might help to guarantee that they land in hands that truly value them.

It's brief, engaging & very funny. There is a sex worker storyline in it as well. Ryan O'Connell stars.

@Lucky: have you seen Ryan O'Connell's netflix series, Special?

@Lucky~ Conner Habib was his nom-de-porn, which he has continued to use for his post-porn career (writing, podcasting, etc). And I definitely recall him running an on/off-again ad back in the days of Rentboy. Dunno about the legal name.

It's dark -- and intense -- and surprising, @Lucky. But beautifully crafted.

I've had a great time connecting with folks from the forum.

Do you have any ATL providers you recommend, @5star62?

If this forum was a reality tv show, this would be @Coolwave35's tagline: "Encouraging hot guys to do shit for money is why I was put on earth!"

Don't give @Coolwave35 any ideas, @Trick! We want him to celebrate and survive his 40th.

I recently started reading Hawk Mountain by Conner Habib and I'm really enjoying the way Habib depicts the complicated emotional/sexual dynamics among men. So it got me to wondering... Are there other notable novels by gents who've spent time as sex workers? I've read John Rechy and have read novels, short stories and plays "about" hustlers, gigolos and rentboys. But if any of you have leads on others write BY (but not necessarily ABOUT) male sex workers, I'd love to have the suggestions.

In any customer service, I think of kindness as among the things that can distinguish "merely good/fine" from "truly excellent/memorable" so I don't think it's irrelevant (or entirely mercenary). And it is a feature I notice and value when hiring. Some gents whose kindness has impressed me include: Tristan Baldwin James DuMont Ryan Chambers AlexanderMullerr RomanLA

While I don't disagree with anything that's been said already, I feel like I should pipe up to acknowledge that working with an online coach to support you as you make a well-considered/informed shift in your eating or exercise habits can be a legitimate strategy. (I'm presently working quite productively with an online coach, connected with a gym I do remote/virtual workouts with, even as I'm also working out in-person with trainers at a local gym.) It's definitely buyer-beware, and I don't know that I'd recommend an Insta-coach -- mostly because those folks usually are offering variations on tools/skills that work for them, which may not be suitable for regular folks, or they're just sending out pre-configured pdfs with maybe a texting session or two. A good online coach will offer customized programs and provide some mechanism for meaningful interaction/accountability. Which is to say: if you find someone who seems to offer what you're looking for, and they offer a free interactive consultation, it might be a path worth exploring. But, as always, when starting any fitness/diet program, consult your physician and buyer-beware...

Way back in the 90s, the term often served as something of a catchall to describe kinks or fetishes that weren't necessarily part of a BDSM roleplay or top/bottom scene. It worked as a simple shorthand not only for "raunch" (which could include any and all bodily fluids and -- ahem -- other excretions) while also gesturing toward a broad array of body fetishes -- including extreme nipple play, penis pumping and, perhaps especially, buttplay (ie big dildo or f*sting). My sense is it's gotten less specific over the last couple decades but it does seem to cue an enthusiastic willingness to get down and get dirty. But, yes, not "vanilla"...

In anticipation for an upcoming ATL jaunt, I'm sussing out the local talent. (As for my preferences, see my insta bio.) Curious if any folks have recent intel on any of the following gents who've caught my eye... https://rent.men/nikoleto https://rent.men/Southern_Cumfort https://rent.men/BeefyLucas Also welcome mention of any other ATL gents that get your enthusiastic endorsement...

Thanks, @n2guysnatl -- I'm just coming into town for a few days for work and am trying to assess my best options for low-key funtimes...

What's the current reality of the Male Stripper scene in ATL these days?

I was so hoping to click and find a luscious list of LA's best butts... Though @relaxdudeitsjustsex's birthday has cum and gone, but in the hopes that @uclablueyesmight still be hankering, perhaps we can start the list afresh? I'll go first: I can attest that RomanLA is a very engaged & responsive rimmee: https://rent.men/RomanLA

Connected with him via his escort ad this past Spring. No comment on the massage but DM if you're curious about anything else.

@tsgarp very personable, very sweet -- looks better in person

The vibe is very relaxed and convivial. The guests wear clothes, the dancers do not. You can stand or sit at cocktail tables or on any of the many couches, chairs or benches arranged around the open space. There is a bar, where alcohol is served. There are no official shows (ie there is no stage and nobody's dancing on a box). Instead, the dancers mingle with the crowd and, when things click, the dancers guide the customer to an area where the lapdances happen (separated from the main room by a floor-to-ceiling privacy curtain). The main space is comfortably lit, while the dance space is appropriately dim. If you want to be able to close the door, there is an option that adds additional privacy, for an additional (not insubstantial fee). As for sex, well -- things happen. But it's not on the official menu. I personally think it's one of the best entertainment investments in town. Hope to see you there! (And let us from the board know how to find you so we can say hey.)

I hope you'll say hello, @Hello!!