Letmeworshipit

Hate to be a one trick pony here, but oral tops are all I look for in providers and wondering if there are providers, masseurs especially, who would self-identify as an oral top. Those of us who are sides are often left out of the discussion, which seems to most often empathize a top, bottom or versatile rile in penetrative activities.

Been trying to understand for a long time whether this is just a fun phallic fantasy or something far more intense that combines sexual need, emotional intensity and a psychological drive. But I have discovered that when a worshiper meets up with a guy who considers his cock a source of power and spiritual energy, it’s f**king amazing. It long ago stopped just being a fun fantasy. It’s a true fetish.

I understand. I am not a demanding customer, believe me, and have never pressured any provider to do anything. But I have been hooked by those who tease and infer everything is on the table (so to speak) then find that it was all said just to to get the gig. Like any transaction, it's all about a two-way, honest dialogue. I was simply asking the question about how best to broach the subject.

It's not entirely clear what his interests are in a session. From the initial profile, he seems to offer what I'm into, but as with so many of these guys, you're left to wonder. And making a commitment without knowing what you're getting is a red flag to me.

I was in a gay bar in Guadalajara a couple years ago and they had a great live show up on a platform that was pretty graphic. I also saw one in Bangkok a few years ago. I loved the theatres/clubs in the old days that featured full acts leading to completion and wondered if there were any venues in North America that still had them. I mean, the real deal, not some faked tease.

One of the wildest nights in the last 25 years started at Numbers. I was staying in Hollywood and went there for dinner. Afterwards, I sat at the bar and foolishly left my drink there while I went to the bathroom. Of course, I was slipped something and didn't know it yet how fucked up I'd get. Picked up not one, but two guys and drove them (!!) back to the hotel. By this time I was really getting messed up. I actually left them in my room while I stumbled to the ATM. To their credit, they were still there when I returned. We had some semblance of fun and they both had a happy ending, were paid and left. I vomited my guts out but it helped and I was able to get a decent night's sleep before work-related meetings the next day. I SO learned my lesson that night and only made the same mistake once more at The Eagle in Palm Springs. But I figured it out quickly and got back to my room and vomited before it kicked in fully. I was so naive.

Are the Phoenix and Eagle still there? Not in the quarter but not far away. Leather bar on 1st floor and sexy fun bar on 2nd floor. I'll be sad if it has closed.

I never missed a chance to stop by for a visit in my 20's and 30's. Had some seriously sensuous, sordid, sleazy and salacious times there. LOADS of guys who valued by skills. Miss those venues SO much.

I've sucked a guy at the NY venue but he didn't erupt, as it were. But for my scene, Touche in Chicago is a fave, as are the Slammer clubs in L.A., P.S. and FLL.

I lived in Chiang Mai, Thailand and traveled to Bangkok and other cities. It is still cheap to hire, relative to most other countries. But you don't always get what you want or need there for a variety of reasons. A good massage is everywhere, with a happy ending for you pretty easy to come by. But for my particular passion, the options are limited. I did much better for my interests in Malaysia, Indonesia and the Philippines. LOTS of guys were my type, but are pricier than Thailand.

The whole issue of mutual touch is confusing to me. To be honest, I love to be teased by the package during the session and do what I do best at the end as a happy ending for the provider. And often it works out that way, but I sure would love to know the best way to make my desires clear from the get-go.

And on the flip side, how do I broach the subject that I am not necessarily interested in getting a happy ending but am very interesting in ensuring that they have one...?

I notice that Kevin Slater is the moderator of this forum. I engaged Kevin several years ago for a session in NY I think (I was traveling a lot then, so may not be correct, but it was in a major city hotel I do recall). His ad description at the time made it clear that he would be a good match for my particular interests and that certainly proved to be the case. But now it seems things are more veiled and nuanced and it's really tough for guys like me, with a specific interest, to determine compatibility. And worse than that are providers who aren't always honest about their services and quickly say, "Oh, yea, I love that." Then in the session you find out that they they really aren't that into it and just didn't want to lose a paying gig. And the whole Top, Bottom, Versatile, et al, designations don't really identify their interest in non-penetrative activities, so it's a quandary.

As an oral only guy, I love dating guys who are insatiable priapics, especially multicummers and sex addicts. They are so much fun for either an extended session or a weekend. A guy with a strong sexual presence and phallic need is my kinda guy.

I am on Fetlife under the same profile name and have asked this same questions on that forum. Responses are all over the place with some guys feeling that it just refers to a guy who really, really loves sucking cock. I disagree. I mean, I agree that I love to suck cock, but my passion for cock worship goes far beyond just the act of service. It's a total submersion into a space that transcends just a blo'n go mentality. I love everything about the cock, soft, semi and engorged. I love bulging gear, clothing and briefs and I really love guys who self-identify as total oral top feeders with a pervy, exhibitionist cock-centered mindset. Love those guys who honestly communicate best with their genitals and live to share a load with a buddy. So cock worship is not just a thing for guys like me, it's very much a two-way street sexually. I credit a guy I met and lived with for 6 years in my 20's for teaching me about it. I think for him, it was a fantasy that he craved receiving. For me, a fetish that I was impelled to act on as often as possible. Anyway, not to wax on about it, but it's still an interesting discussion.