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Here’s what we know, guys: Escorts can charge whatever they want. We, the clients, can pay that rate or find lesser-priced escorts. Or not hire at all, and simply date our dominant hand. It’s that simple. There is no union to strike against, no Groupon deals, not even a well-endowed (ha ha) support group to shoulder the myriad emotional turmoil this financial burden may inflict upon us. Do I think $400 is a lot of money for an hour of shenanigans? Fuck yeah!  However, I prefer to look at it this way: If a hot, hunky, hairy, hung provider charges me $400 to let me have my way my him and in doing so gives me an inarguably unforgettable experience, I’m going to practically force that $400 on him and feel like my cash was well spent. And the day that splendid feeling evaporates is the day I stop hiring. Until then, I’ll continue to open my checkbook (and all of my orifices) and have the fucking time of my life. Cheers, my friends! 

Thanks for all the feedback. Wow. Okay. 
I'm fully self-aware where I am, at least in my own little world. 
Your advice is amazing and I took it and got him a hat this past weekend. 
 
Definitely in the deep infatuation stage here. FUCK it feels so good. 
Just to set the bar, I used marry as a word in my original post as a trigger for both myself and everyone else. Sure there is a world I see there but it's not even the first thing on my mind. It's just where it's headed. lol
Very good advice and thank you for posting. I want a real man who can stand at the top of his mountain right next to mine. That's incredibly attractive. It's insanely attractive actually. 
We touched on this last week. He has a green card and is taking the citizenship test next month, with or without me. I'm comfortable here. 
 

You guys all have incredible feedback. It's why I posted here so thank you so much. 

You guys all have incredible feedback. It's why I posted here so thank you so much. 

Thanks for all the feedback. Wow. Okay. 
I'm fully self-aware where I am, at least in my own little world. 
Your advice is amazing and I took it and got him a hat this past weekend. 
 
Definitely in the deep infatuation stage here. FUCK it feels so good. 
Just to set the bar, I used marry as a word in my original post as a trigger for both myself and everyone else. Sure there is a world I see there but it's not even the first thing on my mind. It's just where it's headed. lol
Very good advice and thank you for posting. I want a real man who can stand at the top of his mountain right next to mine. That's incredibly attractive. It's insanely attractive actually. 
We touched on this last week. He has a green card and is taking the citizenship test next month, with or without me. I'm comfortable here. 
 

You guys all have incredible feedback. It's why I posted here so thank you so much. 

You guys all have incredible feedback. It's why I posted here so thank you so much. 

Thanks for all the feedback. Wow. Okay. 
I'm fully self-aware where I am, at least in my own little world. 
Your advice is amazing and I took it and got him a hat this past weekend. 
 
Definitely in the deep infatuation stage here. FUCK it feels so good. 
Just to set the bar, I used marry as a word in my original post as a trigger for both myself and everyone else. Sure there is a world I see there but it's not even the first thing on my mind. It's just where it's headed. lol
Very good advice and thank you for posting. I want a real man who can stand at the top of his mountain right next to mine. That's incredibly attractive. It's insanely attractive actually. 
We touched on this last week. He has a green card and is taking the citizenship test next month, with or without me. I'm comfortable here. 
 

I just repeat this story because it is true and has a possible bearing on this situation. When I was in my 40's I had a professional escort-client relationship with a 20ish escort over a period of two years. Hired him at least 50 times such that when we started he charged me $150 per session (never looked at the clock, it went on until we both got off). After about 15 sessions he was the one to reduce the fee to $100. He was a university student and very gifted top.
He met a young gay doctor( by coincidence my doctor) and dropped me as a client and moved in with the doctor in a new house which the doctor bought for the two of them. After graduation he became a real estate agent. The doctor fell ill within a couple of years with what turned out to be a terminal cancer at the age of 39. 
The doctor had left his boyfriend of some dozen years for the much younger better looking lover just as he doctor's career was becoming very lucrative. But when he fell ill he returned to his ex, who had moved away to Montreal, the latter's hometown. He died in 1999 in his ex's arms. His boyfriend inherited the big house and continued to be a successful real estate agent.  
My take on the situation? Marriage means "through sickness and health". Marriage wasn't an option in 1999 for gay couples but many of us at the time looked on commited gay relationships as a marriage in all but name. 
I was never the marrying type except for one relationship a decade earlier than when this story happened. It might have happened but we probably would have got divorced. 
 

Oh man, I need some advice and don't know where else to turn. Please go easy on me but also have something to contribute and be honest. I'd love to make this short, but the background needs to be given. 
About two years ago, I started hiring to fill a few needs, mainly because it involved established boundaries and I didn't want anything more. That worked and I met some excellent escorts along the way. I hired one in my home city about once a month. Last month, I was going to hire him but he had friends in from out of town and couldn't make it. He and I follow each other on Instagram and noticed that he was at dinner with a really fucking handsome guy who took my breath away. I texted him and asked who it was and if he escorted as well. He said the guy did and I jokingly said "send him over instead" 
Well, he did. I met the guy, and we had a great night and I paid him and he went on his way. The next day the new escort I met texted me and said what a great time he had and that he was in town until the following week. I said come over and let's do everything again. Same price, same time. 
So, he agreed and he did. This time we spent all night together. Uncluding the following morning, afternoon, and the next night. When I say spending time, I mean talking sitting on the beach, pouring our souls out to each other. He gave me 3x the amount of time and didn't want to take any money at all, but I insisted. 
Fast forward a couple of days and we text 24x7. I'm completely in love with this man at this point. I know he feels the same way. He wants to take me back home to his country to meet his family, the entire nine yards. 
I am going to be in his home city this coming week for work. He wants me to cancel the hotel and come stay at his place. He offered me a key to his apartment, everything. I mentioned in conversation over the past week that I could be poor one day and my company could go under and he said he could sit in a room with me eating a sandwich together and he would be the happiest man on the planet. 
For some perspective, there isn't a huge disparity here. We are both mid-40's. I'm pretty sexy and handsome and genuine and accomplished. He is as well. It's not like I am 75 and he is 25, or some other huge disparity like 500 lbs of weight or anything. We are smilar. 
So I am already head over heels in love with the guy. I actually see a point where we get married and have kids. Legit. He says he does as well, and we can work through that. My questions really: 
Am I just fucking crazy and what am I not seeing?  How do I get over my guy core feeling that we met on RM under a client/provider relationship?  Does the "Pretty Woman" fantasy actually exist? In that movie, I keep trying to answer the question: "Who saves who?" and know it can be mutual. I think I might have that here.  I have thought about bringing this all up with him. He doesn't want money to hang out anymore. But the reality is also that I make a lot more money than him and want to provide, and travel, and "take care" of him if he will let me. What do I actually say? Like what are the words?  I really don't know who else to talk about this. Also -- I am a seasoned poster on these forums. I created this handle to be anonymous so as not to have any of my past posts linked to this one, and also so there is no talk in 'escort circles' about this. 
Please throw me whatever you got.