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Are you saying you are competing with hookup apps like Grindr where people meet for free? That doesn’t make sense to me. Then you’re saying you’re offering something for $$$ vs a product that is zero dollars.

That wouldn’t be a problem … if you didn’t get a reply saying “what, you think I’m available all the time?? “ 😊

My first experiences hiring were with masseurs and I was actually told by people suggesting it that it was a cheaper way to access escorts. Now that I look back it’s offensive to professionals both those defining themselves as escorts and as masseurs. But it’s also been the case that most massages I’ve booked have had the masseur himself trying to take it to something more. On one occasion one even whispered in my ear something like “if you tip me would have a lot more fun” (out of the blue, wasn’t like I was taking it in a direction and he was responding to that). So I figured out there was different pricing for a reason and now I’m clearer about paying for and booking what I want and what the provider is offering without blurring lines.

Sure understood, and everyone has different needs and constraints. I just don’t think there’s a standard etiquette on this that’s obvious.

I’d agree if you say someone who’s a “6” or “7” which maybe most people are … can get a “9” or “10” (the provider) which likely wouldn’t happen in real life (or maybe it might given the relative incomes of a lot of clients and a lot of providers). Otherwise I’d say “there’s someone for everyone” … so not just those “less than desirable” (by society, I assume you mean). Though I do think some providers are of this view (ie our clients are all losers who could never get with anyone etc) and sometimes it comes across especially with the younger ones. Maybe some providers think clients look down on them too? (Socially, economically etc)

I think some providers like to convey a tough / rough image and some clients like it

That looks like Grindr which is not for hiring providers. It’s against their policy and someone caught can get banned. I see providers I find somewhere like a Rentmen. I look for dates / whatever you want to call it on Grindr. I don’t look for dates on Rentmen and I don’t look for providers on Grindr. Nothing wrong IMHO with what the person in that post has said as it’s very annoying to think you’re speaking w someone about a date (no $ involved) and it then turns into something else and it happens very frequently. How would a provider feel is someone hit them up on Rentmen and said “I love your look, but let’s just go on a regular date or hookup, and I won’t pay you anything”? Why is this person’s post offensive? He is not saying “I hate providers”. He is saying don’t contact me if you’re a provider looking to be paid from meeting me. Grindr is also full of opportunists looking for a one off paid interaction even if they’re not technically providers ongoing, and maybe he means that too.

Have a night in providence coming up … any views on one vs the other? Thx.

Friday and Saturday nights are best … 9pm onwards any time through like 4am or so and younger guys come in as the bars close pre covid lunchtimes on weekdays was hot with tech and finance guys taking a break from the office but o think that dynamic changed because of work from home etc Sunday afternoon is a different crowd but still busy … older Middle Aged and hot if you’re into that sometimes they have student specials and the college kids come in but I think it’s not a regular thing so you can check on their website

If I’m looking to do business with a provider shouldn’t I expect some responses in a timely way to help me confirm if I should with that one?

How does that even happen? Do they know what to do and if so how?