Your Man in Arlington

Every provider I've hired has willingly, if not enthusiastically, been into kissing, as well as giving and receiving oral. That said, kissing is activity I make sure up front is something we both enjoy. Never had to even get into the oral thing... that was kind of a given I guess? Also, I think every provider I've hired specifies BFE, which I read as a flexible term for being interactive and personable. I have a husband, don't need a boyfriend.

Does anyone have personal experience with Future Method, which was briefly mentioned in this thread on douching. Any advantages or disadvantages (other than cost) versus home made saline solution, as I'm guessing lukewarm water could still cause an electrolite imbalance?

This could be useful information for a client or provider if the other person is honest. I'm on Prep and as AFAIK the protocol requires you to be tested for all STDs every 60 - 90 days (shots v pills). Maybe some healthcare providers don't thoroughly test before each prescription renewal?

He's been on my maybe list for while and now that he's in DC, I might give him a try. @jtaq1295 Do you know if he provides face pics? Thanks!

The search box is your friend! 😀 Here's a fairly recent thread, which links to and older thread at the end:

I'm not (yet) a long term hobbyist, but also have never been asked for a deposit. I'm also very respectful, discreet and clear when booking with providers.

My exception to this rule is that a provider that is well reviewed here and on RM, but says text me on their profile. Haven't had a bad experience that way, but I have had to do the "let's message each other so I can leave you a review" thing.

Totally understand, which is why I assume in the minority. The most important physical feature when deciding whether to make a booking is actually a guy's face. I once meet up with a very highly regarded provider without seeing a full face photo; while he was amazing at what he does (I went through the appointment), I won't do it again in the future.

This is my concern, but there's only one way to find out now!

I could probably guide things toward a longer get-to-know each other conversations, as they've mostly been much less than 30 mins. Would give me more of a chance to relay my likes/dislikes and learn about his before jumping in and make play time more enjoyable. Thanks!

Thank you for the ideas and encouragement, I really appreciate it! In the future, at the start of 2 hour sessions, I will be more active in slowing down and with more time before and after and see if that's something that I want - or, maybe, 90 mins is perfect for me and I should just think of 2 hours as 90 minute session. This is so true. I went into my second time meeting up with a guy as a total top for almost 20 years (was verse until my early 30's) and unexpectedly left vers again. Was a fantastic experience and recovered lost joy in my life. This is one reason I haven't been so worried about filling time, I like to go with the flow and see where our energy leads than follow a template or script. Takes me back to the days hooking up with guys from going out, or cruising the streets or trails back before the Internet and smart phones.

Same dick across the photos, so you know what you're getting there!

Thanks for the ideas! I've thought a little about including other activities, one thing that would be appealing for me is starting a session with a 15 or 20 minute jog. 💦💦💦

Thanks for the insight! I've only gone one round at a time so far (not sure I have enough gas in the tank for 2 in 2 hours, though who knows 🤷🏼‍♂️), but my experience of one round is that it is definitely over an hour. In the future, I'll experiment with both 1 hour meetings and 2 hours with a second round of playtime.

Newbie client questions: I've had a handful of meetings over the past few months, and I always book for 2 hours so that we're not rushed. But, only one time was actually 2 hours, which included quite a bit conversation based on shared interests, while most meetings clock in at around 90 minutes. I felt like they have been complete experiences: conversation, affection/cuddling, making out, play time, post-play shower together, etc... My donation is always for the full time booked (often with some extra), which I'm totally fine with: for me, I'm not a clock watcher on the inverse side. However, I'm wondering if I'm missing out on something? Or, is this more common than I understand? Or, maybe masseurs have it right by offering bookings in 30 minute increments? Would be very appreciative of people's thoughts or feedback.

This is a super-helpful explanation of your experience. I'm still recently back into this, but I try to research in advance fairly well, starting with actually reading their profile (and Twitter/OnlyFans/website, if they have those) in detail! Not everyone is as thorough as you in the information they provide, so the only times I've had followup questions are if I really do need more information (eg. some guys leave the "I am into" section blank) or a face pic. In both of these cases I make sure our schedules line up first, so I'm not wasting our time. So far, it's worked out and I've booked every guy I've reached out to. I'm sure this won't be the case every time, but hopefully it's the rule rather the exception.

They are more focused on anatomy, particular acts with others, and the possible end result of those acts. Even for private photos, very explicit for RentMasseur.

Agreed. I myself would only be interested in maybe 1 or 2 of the 6 options? Also, based on his private photos, looks more like a Deli experience.

Yes, his face pics are now completely visible, when he had previously posted versions of them with his eyes blurred out. But, also now, his profile is set to unavailable, showing the message "This user is temporarily not available. They will be back in the near future - stay tuned!"

Update: Adam_Tayler has now un-blurred his face in all of his photos AND marked himself "temporarily not available."

While I'm recently new/back to this, every guy I've met up with so far (even those who don't identify as gay) has automatically started off with kissing and making out. Perhaps the oxytocin hit helps them make everything work? In fact, my only repeat pretty much needs to be making out with me in order to finish off for himself. Hope I don't ever run across these no kissing guys!

I'm currently on Truvada just to get started out, but plan on switching. Seems like a winner if you can swing 6 visits per year vs 4.

My doctor gave me a Doxy PEP prescription, and disclosed that he uses it as well. He did mention that if you're having frequent exposure periods (eg. 7 days a week), he doesn't recommend taking an antibiotic daily. My exposures are far enough in between that it I feel the added protection is worth it. In fact, due to my current schedule, I've only used on once so far and didn't experience any of the negative digestive side effects that he warned me of.

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Absolutely this. I always politely confirm the day before ("Hi! Just checking in, does 2:00 PM tomorrow still work for you?"), if he doesn't beat me to it; and, again the day of as one of us is en route or about to be en route. I don't want to take up too much of someone's time or attention, but I find this helps build trust.