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I know deposit are frown upon and should not be asked in normal circumstances. However when the cost at risk is high (due to client no show or last min cancellation) and when you have to pay upfront cost like hotel and transportation, there must be some way to mitigate the risk to providers. What is the best way for clients to do a deposit? 

Is it common that clients do not tip or only when service is too bad? I had a few clients that feel very satisfied and says good things but then they do not tip and it feels so weird and confusing. I tried to provide best service and charge low base rate so when they do not tip I assume I did a bad job or is this common people just don't tip these days? 

Why are some clients doing this? A simple cancellation would be too much?

Wondering if it is justified to pay $99 a month for sponsors fee? 

I just stop communicating after it gets into lengthy chat and like providing free service at the cost of our time

Why are some clients play game and chat for several days, promise to meet then disappear and block providers. This is disgusting behavior and emotional wrecking for providers but seems like these faked clients love it as a form of torturing providers! 

On 7/7/2022 at 11:44 PM, Jarrod_Uncut said:

Are you coming from an escort or client perspective? 
 

it is a biz but everyone has a right to do as they choose to run it. That’s the great thing about being an independent. You don’t HAVE to do anything that you don’t want. And you can set boundaries where there needs to be.

People thought I was crazy to start asking deposits. I’ve been doing so exclusively for past few months. Even though I can’t stop everything, it’s helped avoid a lot of things. If nothing else, gives me and the client assurance. 
 

And as usual, you can’t compare what other providers do. Nobody is alike. We all come from different places, different outlooks on life, different priorities, different levels of tolerances, different experiences, different needs, different upbringing, different goals, different backgrounds, different finances…

Need I say more? lol. 

I have started with taking deposits only and oh god the clients are 100000% better. Instead of seeing more clients who do not pay, haggle, no-show, cancelling... I am now seeing fewer but much higher quality clients. They paid deposit, showing you real phone number and established credibility before the meeting so when we meet it was a blast. I just tried this a week and my life quality is so much better now.

Dear providers, could you share what kind of app or software you use to manage client booking? I've try building a website but it costs an arm and a leg and hard to manage. Also could you share how to get deposits from clients? 

Very few escorts can survive without a day job. In big cities like NYC or LA, there are just too many escorts and not enough clients willing to pay. Many good ones ended up quitting because it is hard to survive being escort alone. There are a lot of costs to live in big city: rent, gym membership, transportation, food, phone and internet bill, advertising cost etc all going up to the roof and with cancellations, no show and faked clients, many escorts ended up in poverty. It is a cut throat, dangerous and emotional wreaking kind of job if one just relying on being an escort as a sole source of living. 

Some clients think providers are very expensive and treat them like "commodity" just because they are paying. The fact is that there needs to be some mutual respect for a "date" to be perfect. When the provider respects you and into you as much as you are into him, you will get the most wonderful experience. When provider is exhausted, humiliated, disappointed then what you get is just some mechanical responses. If you need to cancel last minute, think about how the provider will deal with it, if it is unavoidable, offer some sincere apology and maybe compensate for the loss that provider has to endure. If someone books doctors or dentists then no show, he got a penalty fee, but most providers are kind enough to just accept your cancellation and be disappointed by themselves.

2 hours ago, FrankR said:

I am curious - when do you come across cancellations? Is it mostly when you travel or particular days/time slots? 
 

Over the past 8 years I have only cancelled same day twice:  the first was due to unclear communication - the second was when I was called in to deal with a work matter. In both cases I apologized and paid the rate. Both providers are local and were (or subsequently became) regulars. I’ve had far more instances where a provider cancelled in me or didnt show up. 

I am sharing this because I believe that a provider with an established and loyal set of repeat customers will experience far fewer cancellations… or may be compensated even when a cancellation occurs. So my suggestion is to aim for that. Be a provider that folks want to see again. Go beyond the basics (be on time, good hygiene, dont short on time) and exceed expectations (always friendly and smiling, carry a conversation, be fun and gracious, send a follow up message thanking them for any tip and tell them you would like to see them again if that is indeed the case). Good luck to you!

I wish every client were like you, I am in NYC and there are a lot of faked clients who just want to use us to chat and masturbate then set up bogus meeting and no show or cancel on same day. I have some credible clients who accounts have been for a long time with reviews but then also cancel last minute without any compensation for my loss. In any case, I politely accept and told them I were disappointed. As a provider, we do not entertain many clients in a single day, especially if client want to bottom and want a few hours then we can only meet 1 client per day max. When someone cancel on same day, we do not have any income for that whole day. Have a few cancellations like this and we are likely quit as it is no longer sustainable for providers any more. 

I think it is fair to reimburse for the session that was missed last minute if the provider already travel or made plan for the time. After all he is happy and will make you even happier in bed. 

Recently I had a few clients that cancel very last minute. I understand they are busy with work sometime but this kind of last minute cancellations is very troublesome for providers. Some of us have to travel, move meetings around etc and a few cancellations like this will set us back so much financially and time wise. Worse is that some clients feel no issue with cancelling on us and just think that this is no big deal at all. What do you do with clients who cancel very last minute? I hate to do deposits as it is not convenient on clients and also intrusive of their privacy but should we just block a client if they cancel last minute without offering any compensation for our time?