purplekow

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This has been an interesting thread but if the two tom cats clawing at each other persist, I will request the thread be closed. No need for either of you to take your issues to this particular public forum. Just as an addendum to my relationship with my sister, when we were teens, I was 10 she was 16 I came home to find her crying. When I asked her why, she said the doctor for whom she had been working fired her. I knew her to be a hard worker and I asked her why she was fired. She said that she had been about 10 minutes late and that he yelled at her and pushed her. Infuriated, I prepared to head to his office. I asked her what she did when he did that, she said, I called him a stupid K.ke." I was floored. I also lost all my anger for him, though I probably should not have and directed it all to her. I was horrified that she would use that term. She yelled at me but he pushed me. I said, "you weren't hurt and you could have just left at that point". Believe me I would be on my way to his office right now if you did. But I can not defend you, even after his terrible action when you responded with such a vile attack". So, thoughts on this?

My father was a racist. When our blue collar neighborhood began to integrate in the early 1970s. he came up with a plan to sell our house in NY and move to Georgia, a place we had never been and to which we had no connection. That never happened but the neighborhood did eventually change, Thing is my father changed with it, at least a bit. When the house next to ours was sold to an Jamaican family, my father ranted and cursed and was generally everything ugly that racism does to people. Eventually he met the neighbors. And slowly he began to speak to them regularly. This was not something he did when the German family lived next door for 20 years. Even as the neighborhood became less and less white, he stopped complaining about it and he settled in do his usual activities. That was until our house was burglarized and then his fear for his safety and the satety of my mother brought back to the surface his racist inclinations. Eventually he moved, with my support, as the neighborhood had really gotten unsafe. Every house on the block had been robbed in a short period o time. Drug addicts began hanging out on the streets of the small shopping area. The stores now had metal window guards and bars. This was no longer the town we had called home. My father has since passed but my family and particularly one sister is still quite racist. The events of the last few days have brought the latent racism to the fore. My sister has posted a few hateful messages with the coded, those people and what are they doing. I find this abhorrent and I have discussed it with her in the past and she is not likely to change. My sister and I have a Luke warm relationship at best. But these posts have brought an even greater chill. I have unfriended her in the past when her political posts continued to bombard my Facebook page despite my requests for her to not include me in that propaganda. I am now unfireinding her again,. I am considering just breaking off all interactions with her, limited ss they are. I am giving it a bit of time. Still I wonder, I have known about her attitudes from our childhood. She has not changed and I have just kept our conversations free of topics which would lead to ugly conversations. She likely has done the same. When we are together, if such topics come out, I leave the conversation, In the past I have interceded but it is clear there is no changing her thinking. Other family members are very much on her end of the spectrum but not nearly as vocal about it. My question is, how have you handled the philosophic differences between you and friends and family members. By keeping people in your life that harbor ideas which you find toxic, are you fostering that thinking. Do you have to take the good and take the bad, take them both because there you have the facts of life, the facts of life?

Maybe you were disconnected but your lack of awareness of your connectivity prevented you from realizing it.

I try not to classify myself but as I sleep with both men and women, many would say I am bisexual. In my youth, the women with whom I had sex were mostly serial monogamous relationships with an ongoing feeling of warmth and respect. My limited interaction with men in my youth was basically drunken attempts to get my dick sucked. After my wife died, and I was monogamous with her for many years, I had little desire for sex for about 1 year. After that, I found that I really did not want a relationship with a woman, I was just interested in sex. With men, as I started to sleep with them more, I found physical, mindless, come until I can't move anymore sex was great but now the one's with whom I want to have repeated encounters, are men who are physically alluring and personally intriguing. As time goes on, the women with whom I have sex, have to be more and more physically exciting and the men I have sex with need to have an initial attractiveness, which is much broader than it used to be, and the interpersonal relationship needs to be challenging and exciting. One night stands are always an option if the other person pushes the right buttons as to appearance. So my main point, even within one person's lifetime, sexual attraction varies. If this man is attracted to you and attractive to you right now, take the plunge.

Obviously he is not a real friend.

We are not trying to eliminate risk. We are trying to limit risk. One way or the other the economy will open up. It is a matter of how much risk we as a society are willing to take in doing so. And perhaps if all the king's horses and all the king's men had set up a safety net for Humpty and other ova at risk, the troops and the king would not have egg all over their face and Humpty would be enjoying a vacation with the entire Dumpty clan on Easter Egg Island..

Thank you Dr. Shill. Exactly who are you shilling for now? Without the "draconian" measures, this would be worse. And after all, the federal government left it to the states to close down if they so desired. Some did not. And again, 100000 dead is hardly hysteria. So I suppose Brazil has nothing to worry about as the weather will protect them.

By the way, keep clinging to the thought that is other people that get Covid. They came for the trade unionists..... or perhaps....They came for the sick and infirm and I did not speak out because I was not sick and infirm. Then they came for the impoverished but I did not speak out because I was not impoverished. Then they came for the gays. (oh wait we did that one already we know how that turned out)....The previous healthy 19 year old I am caring for probably thought that. So too did the 37 year old mother of 3. Proably the 85 year old thought she might get it but she probably did not plan on being on a ventilator for the last 7 weeks, but her family is convinced she will live. Yeah, keep telling yourself this disease is for other people. If you are lucky, that will be true. If not, at least your estate will be healthy.

You are right. Disease and dying are scary and dangerous. Economic hardship well, scary for some and mostly dangerous for those who want more than their share. So who is confused? But, as far as I know, death is permanent as are the real deficits that people who survive suffer. Your arrogance about other people's health issues is shared by many, mostly those in the 1%. By the way, you may not be able to work, but you personally can come and feed Covid patient's at the hospital, they could use the help and it seems you are anxious to work. And you are right that the post War Boom was a driving force and so were public works and government support for education. Quite Frankly, I do not think anyone was saying, you know, well 85 million dead over 5 years but the economy is doing well. You do seem content to say 100000 in the US are dead and I am good with that as long as I can go out to lunch and the government does not go further into debt. But if the government goes further into debt, taxes will go up. You know whose taxes will go up? Everyone's including the 1% who taxes just got slashed. So pretend that opening the economy is for the little guy, when the ones who stand to lose the most financially are the ones that have the most. Give back the big giveaway including the tax breaks on real estate going back two years and there will be more than enough money for equipment just perhaps a smaller market for expensive shoes and private jets. And yes, people will pay more taxes. Oh...scary and dangerous. You are right.

History: Spanish influenza. 15 million dead. Great Depression: Economy destroyed 1950. Economy booming 15 million. Still dead. Economic turmoil is real. It just is not permanent.

I guess certain diseases are more important to some then others. Right now, as I have to go in an treat patients dying of this disease, they do not think it is nothing. Just as in 1983 when I went in to treat patients with AIDS and people were ignoring it, they did not feel it was nothing though they did think the deniers thought the victims were nothing. They said it only killed gays or it only killed the right people. Your post is so callous and so dismissive and really downright cruel. Hopefully you will not get this acute disease that so far, does not let the people live until there is a truly successful treatment. We are doing better with the people that are getting very sick. Some of them only stay in the hospital for a week or two. But hey, two weeks of gasping for breath out of lifetime is nothing,. And that is 100000 in the US with social isolation, the toll would be much higher otherwise and the worldwide total is going to be more than a million. But hey out of 7 billion, one million is nothing to you I guess. Bury you head in the sand Ozzie Ostrich.

Again spin this as you will, 100000 people are dead. More are dying every day. That people die of other things is a specious argument. Fear, well directed is protective. There is no way ignorance is well directed. So if you want to say, people will die but the economy is more important then you can have that thought. But do not say washing hands and a mask is enough. Or even, I don't bother with a mask because the president doent. Ultimately all any of us can do is to try and protect ourselves as best we can because there are lots of people out there who are not interested in protecting us, and that includes the president. Keep spinning and hope you do not wind up spinning in your grave That is the example being sent by a man looking to get reelected.

Am getting both antibody and regular test tomorrow, but would need another test in two weeks if these show no active disease and no antibodies. It is disconcerting to sit here feeling perfectly well knowing it is possible that there is already a virus in my system which could potentially end my life. I was tested for HIV in the past and the first time I was nervous but even with that I knew it was something that would eventually make me ill. This is more a Mack truck hitting, when it hits. Having seen what can happen, first hand multiple times to people in much better shape than I am and people with much fewer risk factors, it rumbles the foundation of the philosophy that tomorrow is another day. Now it is tomorrow is another day but is it another day for me. The benefit and the curse of this is, there is no control over what will happen at this time, Eventually perhaps the course can be altered, but right now, it is just sit and wait. One other benefit, I was starting to get very horny and was playing with the idea of perhaps hiring down the road. I think this news has taken every last drop of testosterone out of my system.

Thanks for you good wishes

Well life has a way of surprising you. After four straight months of patient care of Covid patients, I was changed to an educational and administrative rotation for two weeks, When that two week rotation ended on Saturday, I felt pretty good. I had not been exposed to Covid patients for 2 weeks and I was generally feeling well, so I was ready to start my next rotation. Saturday and Sunday I was on call for uninsured patients and I had about 12 patients in the hospital. Only two of the patients were known Covid patients. Both of them had come in with other complaints and in the ER, evaluation lead to the patient being tested and found to be positive for Covid. By the time I started, they were well known to be Covid patients with an unusual presentation. What now are routine precautions were in place. Then yesterday, one of the patients on my service, a young man with a congenital disease and who was non communicative became sicker than he had been. He had come in from his group home with a single episode of vomiting but because he has had issues related to this in the past and because he had some minimal lab abnormalities, he was admitted. He did fine for the first 48 hours but he then was unable to eat and he needed a CT scan. A tube was placed in his stomach to give him the contrast material as he would not or could not swallow the contrast. Surpisingly, there was blood in his stomach and the tube placement irritated him enough that he reached up and grabbed the tube and pulled it out. This set into motion a vomiting episode which produced about a quart of blood. The bloody vomit coated the room and several people in it. I called each of his parents about this and informed them of the events and let them know that he was stable. At that point, one of the parents informed me that they had Covid and that they had likely gotten it after a prolonged stay an ER with the patient two months ago. However, clearing of the virus had been slow. That parent had still been positive last week. With this new information and with multiple person exposure from the vomit. I ordered Covid testing on the patient who had no signs of Covid. Today the results came back positive for Covid. Since masks and hand washing are not enough, the patient was moved to isolation and from now on will be seen with caretakers in personal protective equipment. In addition, all those exposed to him, the vomit and the room, are now being quarantined. So that one patient has exposed approximately 30 people directly just in the hospital and it is unclear how many in his group home and how many more indirectly. That stay in the ER which made his mother positive, probably made him positive. And just his branch has affected 30 more. How many branches are there off that one ER exposure is unclear. How many people will actually get Covid is yet to be determined. Fortunately, I have not gone out to a restaurant, to a movie, to the beach that opened here in NJ. I always wear a mask outside of my home. I feel confident that if I was exposed through this, that at least, I have not exposed others, to the best of my ability to limit it. So somewhere else, someone is talking about .05% of their local population having tested positive. as an argument to open Well, as in this case, not everyone is tested, not everyone who tests positive tells you they have and not every exposure is limited to the one person who has it. It is my sincere hope that I have not been exposed and infected. It is my sincere hope that if I was exposed that I have not exposed others. It is likely that if I was exposed and was infected, that I will be in the group that have mild cases. If I am not, I hope that I am in the group of more severe cases that get better without hospitalization, also likely. If I am in the group that gets hospitalized, I hope I am not one of the ones who goes to the ICU, about 60 60. If I go to the ICU, I hope I am one of the ones who is not placed on a ventilator, 40-60. Should I be on the ventilator, I hope I am the one in five that survives it. If not, this thread will memorialize my passing. Now, tell me why you need your haircut. Is it worth it to get a manicure to face a world of so many ifs. Why would you not respect others and yourself more than risking your life because you are bored. Why shouldn't your government to try and protect you? I know there is likely exposure to the virus now, even with precautions in place. Why would you want to increase your risk. Why would you want to possibly place yourself in the position in which I find myself.

I did not ask about your insurance. I asked if your life changed not your life insurance. lol

You can't catch pancreatic cancer. It can be cured but usually isn't. You can catch Covid. It can be deadly, it usually isn't except when it is. 100000 Americans can't attest to that. Many more worldwide would do the same if they could. And tomorrow there will be more. Again. spin it all you want. The bottom line is you can say it is not deadly but there are plenty of people dead and more coming. . Just out of curiosity, have you changed your life because of this pandemic or is it for you just as it was last year at this time?

But I bet if you would have crossed them you would have looked, because it was the prudent thing to do. Similarly, I would bet you are not visiting any South Dakota meat factories, because it would not be the prudent. Why not do the prudent thing rather than the expedient thing. Why not put people first, especially those people who are at the greatest risk. If Mr. Trump wants to open the country, why not start with resuming tours of the White House. Perhaps because it is nice and safe not to have hundreds of people clamoring through. If he did, even he might have to wear a mask. If masks and hand washing was enough, I would not have to put a full gown and face shield and gloves every time I went in.

Just curious would you hire a woman bodybuilder such as Bev Francis to dominate you or does there have to be a penis in there somewhere?

The second season was un but not as much fun as the first.

A better analogy would be this is why you do not cross the street without looking. It is the without looking part you are ignoring.

And the other 100000 people. in the US and the others around the world. I see them die every day, this is not an isolated case no matter how you want to spin it. It is a long painful breathless struggle before a ventilator and gradual deterioration, Even people that don't die are in the hospital for weeks. You chose not to live in fear but rather in fantasy.

I guess in a country that constitutionally allows 40000 deaths a year by gun violence so the big guns and the NRA can have lavish lifestyles, 365000 a year (yes 1/10 of 1 per cent is still 365000 deaths a year no matter how you try to minimize it) is acceptable for big businesses which can withstand an absentee rate for 7% for weeks at a time. Small business probably would sink under such a burden, Well it is acceptable as long as the people who are dying are old, poor and chronically ill. I this was a disease striking corporate board rooms, there may be a different feeling about it. Statistics are impersonal, even death and dying statistic. Death and dying however, are very personal and if you are personally affected, your thoughts about this are probably colored by it. Ultimately to some of the people here, this is all about money and dollars and to others it is about lives and death. As a result this will continue to be debated because it is clearly a case of comparing apples a day to orange man in the White House.