Blue19

As someone who just recently had their first experience with a man, I will tell you what helped me tremendously. Once I narrowed down my search, with a handful of local providers, who were my type and had a fair amount of good reviews on RM. I checked them with Company of Men, to get some trusted reviews. After they passed that test, I paid for an hour of their regular rate to meet them in person. I only did this with 2 local providers. We had coffee or quick meal, and I was able to ask every imaginable question, and share my concerns about my first experience with a man. It also allowed me to see if we had a connection and real chemistry. I was able to find an awesome provider who has been kind, patient and loving, as I explore my sexuality with a man.This is not a conventional way go, and some of you will disagree with my method, but it sure worked well for me. I wish you the best with your journey. 

Sorry for your loss. As we age, the losses become more frequent and the ability to make new friends or even fwb is limited so each one hits a bit harder.  Once again condolences.  

Bottom line from this post is to never hire a provider to meet at a bath house! Bath houses are to go to for RANDOM encounters, not pre-planned ones. This detailed play-by-play is enough to hammer the point home. 

At the turn of the 20th century Montreal was one of the most elegant cities in North America. It was the centre of finance and industry headquarters and had a strong cultural life.
If you notice the architecture in this picture, nothing was ignored. Only the finest materials and little details like stone walls and wrought iron fencing around the church to separate it from its commercial neighbours. 
And lovely elm trees which once adorned the city. 
I was fortunate enough to grow up seeing the last of this urban cityscape before a lot of it disappeared in the 60s and 70s. Fortunately some charm remains in pockets here and there.

Rue Sainte-Catherine Montréal 1916

 

Hey ML! Not trying to pry, but how was it? 

Can’t join that weekend but excited for the trip report! 🔥🔥🔥🫡🫡🫡

Can’t join that weekend but excited for the trip report! 🔥🔥🔥🫡🫡🫡

But you shopped for somebody that met a certain precondition. You may have screened out hundreds. That appearance precondition having been met, you were open to the emotional that might occur meaningfully between any two people you’d have screened out based on the rigidified precondition. Dollars to donuts (pastry again!) you squirm upon amorous affection directed your way if preconditions not met. That’s fine if you own and accept your template. It approximates mine. I decided to forego the conventional model of intimacy, wherein many people would say it’s refusing to try for an upgrade and at one’s expense. Now in my 70’s, I exclusively hire. No regrets.

This is like the Lincoln-Douglas debates.