ThroatCummer

I want an escort or a sexual partner that LOVES what they are doing. Sure we can debate the mechanics of an escort doing it for the money as work. But if I am going to top an escort, I want them to be a bottom in their personal life. Likewise when the roles are reversed. It's kind of like a straight woman prostitute who is giving blowjobs for her next crack pipe hit or getting fucked because she has to do it. That's not fun if the other person isn't engaged and wants to be in that situation. Does that make sense? To me, "more top" means they prefer putting Tab A into Slot B more than being the insertee. LOL. I personally would pass if I were looking for a real bottom.

That's awesome. I actually love all types. For guys like him I want to be dominant and you said he's a great bottom. Awesome review.

You know what? You kind of annoy the hell out of me on here, but I think you just made up all of that with this post. I'm in NYC full-time these days and going to hire him now. So thanks, asshole.

Yea, it tough to list in profiles and some people go for what others want to see sometimes vs. what they are. Personally, I'm attracted to moderately lightly hairy guys in everyday life with rough masculine features. But to lay my pipe in an ass, I love naturally smooth guys hairless guys. Something about that new car leather smooth smell. lol.

I don't disagree and know that side from having someone in my life who's in the industry. But as a client, it costs me $0.99 to get a new/side number app on my phone and a new identity, whereas your reputation and reviews and social media as an escort takes years to build and can't be moved as quickly. It's just the reality. I'm curious how that plays out in smaller market economies (say Columbus, OH) vs. larger markets (say NYC or LA) where the former is easier to blacklist the client who fucks over all the restaurants in town.

Nah. They're the commodity not the other way around. Amazon and WalMart don't rate their customers. We rate them. Even if a provider doesn't like a customer, there is no reason another escort wouldn't have a different experience. Some companies have internal rating systems (for example, with American Airlines they have an "Eagle Rating" on a scale of 1-5 based on the airline's lifetime experience with that customer). But that doesn't go across airlines. It's like a restaurant banning a person but the place across town is going to take their business all day. Now, if they fuck over that restaurant then word might get around town and they have no place to eat now. But they can just drive to the next town. Restaurants (like escorts) are a dime a dozen. There's always someone to take their business. Some companies like airlines (same reference but different here) a no-fly list/database where certain people are banned across the industry but that's because of governmental mandates. Mr. Number is the closest think escorts have to rate customers but even a client can go in there and delete their own bad reviews if they know about it.

Clean, smooth, bleached, shaved. You know when you sit into a brand new car in a dealer showroom and it has that NEW CAR SMELL leather that's nice and clean and new? THAT. Sadly, that also means it's not beat up from years of partying and drugs and a 100,000 cocks. That's a little harder to find. Although I actually love the professional power bottoms who get railed by BBCs. It's more loose like a pussy which I love. I don't like guys who are tight and don't get topped often... it hurts my dick.

You are right on that one. In another thread I talked about my meetings and discussions with the FBI (not sex industry related) and there are small dollar cases they will pursue to "grab headlines" to make sure people are aware that X, Y, or Z, is definitely illegal and they're watching. They always go after the high dollar stuff and really bad stuff, but they have admitted that "grabbing headlines" (their words) are part of the playbook. So.... (on that note, feds don't get involved in sex work, it's always local law enforcement. But they sometimes want to make a statement too)

You highly overestimate the amount of resources that law enforcement have. They don't have the time, energy, money, or people to pursue all of this. Perfect example: As part of my day job, I meet regularly with some of the letter agencies as it relates to fraud/scams in the finance/money transmission world. They don't even open a case for anything unless the loss is over $250,000 these days. Just no resources. You really think they're going after man to man "consensual" sex where there is no human trafficking or forced rape or other violent crime?

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. It really depends on how much it might go south and you risk never seeing or talking to either one of them again. If you're okay with that -- well, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

There's some mis information here and in the other posts. At least on iOS, their sandboxing of apps and compartmentalization allows for limiting of the data (photos, texts, calls, etc.) that can be accessed by any other application. Most people click "Allow All" and just say yes, yes, yes. But there are ways to use these apps much more securely so they don't have access to the rest of your phone, and it's proven that it works. As far as notifications not being inherently unsecure, I could debate that point as well. There's way to limit what is being displayed and sent/received, and even turning them off all together on a per app basis. The architecture design of push notifications, at least on iOS, is extremely secure.

My understanding, and some other escorts can correct me, is that RM doesn't offer proactive notifications of incoming messages. It's a web app, not an installed app, that you have to manually check. Other platform show immediate notifications so when you're out and about, it may be harder to stop and think to open the RM mobile site and look for inbound messages. That's what I have heard at least.

Just a quick update: Work got in the way and I couldn't commit to a date/time and he already left NYC. We have been communicating and he is authentic and real and I have paid a small deposit for the texting and talking back and forth. When he comes back from Puerto Rico to Miami (later this month) or to NYC (this Spring), we will meet up. He's a great communicator so far but I have not yet met him in person.

Can I say that clip doesn't even capture the energy in person. He's even hotter... lol I'm basically 100% top but he is the only dude in my life who thoroughly fucked me good and I loved every second of it and wanted more and more and more. That man made me turn into a hungry bottom god damn,.

Talked to him in the past week. He's not actively escorting anymore.

I think the real answers are: 1. It's a good career and you can make more than enough money to support a good lifestyle for yourself and live very comfortably. 2. It's physically taxing. You're going to make the same as a well paid IT/Computer professional who clicks a mouse and reads a screen all day. 3. You can work as much as you want. Two days a week with a ton of clients or seven days a week with one client daily. 4. You have to factor in retirement and the future. You're not paying into Social Security. You don't have a 401(k). How much money are you saving and investing for the future? You're going to get older, become less attractive, and your hands and body won't function as well. What's your "exit" strategy? Just my $0.02. RE: #4. I know an escort who is mid-30s and fucking beautiful. He has a daddy who is 75 and paid for his apartment, travel, and even a house out of the country. That's a good retirement strategy but you have to find the daddy who will enter into that arrangement and that's hard to find actually. lol

The issue will eventually be the damage it does to themselves. They'll walk around in general life with this attitude and life will hand their ass to them at some point and they will have no skills to deal with it. Sad. The universe always wins.

Agreed. But also sometimes people need help and guidance. We all make bad choices and sometimes we we can't help ourselves. Having people in your life who can help you navigate and also be there to pick up the pieces when it all falls apart are what is needed most. Sadly not everyone has that. We are all human and I would like to think what sets the real professional escorts apart from everyone else is the ability to see that and help a fellow human being. Put another way, if I were the provider and I had a client who was a moneymaker for me, but I saw that it was overall unhealthy or destructive to their lives over the course of several meetings, I might start to take the role of therapist for my time rather than engage in their fantasies and back away if that isn't helpful. That's just me.

Well said by you both, thank you. Agreed all around. Lord knows we all have our own kinks and things we are addicted to and get us off (even non-sexually). I can't stop looking on eBay for car parts for example. LOL. As a follow-up, I asked my friend to text me every time he got this urge. It's almost like being a sponsor to someone in AA. I told him I would take all his money and assets and put him on a forced budget if he didn't text me (we have been very good friends for 20 years so it's that type of relationship where we can demand that of the other person). He's been doing that and carefully spending just a little here and there to satisfy the craving when needed. I guess that is "getting help" even though it is not through a professional. You guys are awesome and this is a good healthy discussion. It's why we all keep coming back here.

These are all reasons why I won't see anyone with who doesn't have a 4.9 or 5.0 ratings and a minimum of at least 10-15 reviews and even need to see over 20. We can debate one off experiences all day and the effectiveness of ratings, but there is a reason why Uber, Amazon, and our entire culture these days is influenced by reviews and ratings because they don't lie. Those providers who have 50, 70, or even 100+ reviews and still maintain a perfect 5.0... do you know how hard that actually is to acheive? Those are the magical providers I will chase after every. single. time.

I'm going to chime in here with my experience briefly to add to the discussion. Personally, I was never into it and didn't know about it. My partner is an escort by the way. He doesn't do it or advertise it. However, I have a long time friend who contacted me recently and asked for help and told me he needed to sit and talk to me. He said "I have to tell you something" and I thought he was going to tell me he was dying of cancer or something. Like my heart dropped. Apparently, he was going broke and spending all his money as a Findom sub for this one guy. My friend is successful, owns his own house, and has (well, had, past tense now) savings. He found a guy on X/Twitter and the guy was doing whatever they do and my buddy was sending him more and more and more money. He couldn't control it and it's like an actual addiction like to alcohol or drugs. It's brain chemistry we are talking about here. I have spent months with my friend trying to help him ween off this whole thing. It really was sad to see and I honestly don't have the tools in my toolbox to help in these situations because I don't understand the appeal, just like I don't understand other types of addictions except my own, lol. It's like losing a friend to meth addiction really. Now I look on X and see all these 20 year old "kids" listing it as an easy way to make money because they're hot and I imagine the conversation from one of these kids to their friends goes: "Hey you know faqqots will send you money if you demand it and post hot pics of yourself? Bro... go do it!" and it kind of makes me a little fucking sick. Now whenever I see the term I want to vomit. What I would ask from the professional providers who engage in this space is to make sure your client have the means and aren't in the poor house. A guy with $5M in assets throwing $5k into this is fine if it gets him off... that is okay. But please be the good providers I know you all to be like @BenjaminNicholas @Vin Marco and @Simon Suraci Those kids doing this are horrible.

Great thread. I am addicted to getting my dick sucked (like legit my favorite thing in the world as my profile name says) and just moved to NYC three weeks ago. I have to check this place out and will report back here on my first experience. It's crazy that it is literally on the same street and block as my midtown office on W 37th. I never would have imagined.... shit, I might go every. single. time. which is dangerous. LOL

Check out Revolut, but not available to everyone. https://www.revolut.com/cards/virtual-card/ Have you checked with your credit card company? I know Capital One has this feature where you can create virtual cards for specific merchants/uses. I think Citi has it as well. Privacy.com is the best (I use it) but you're right about "restricted industries" and I guess (but didn't know) that adult is one of them. Cash App will also give you a virtual card and you can fund it from the app.

The message might be the same but the delivery could have been better in some cases.

I think the relationship between the OP and his best friend is pretty damned awesome based on all of the posts. They both want to help the other get what they need, and he has gone to gay bars to help out the OP. No need to pay an escort in this scenario really. He's already your best friend, you don't have to impress him. He loves you for who you are. Now, take that money you would spend and figure something REALLY FUN to do with it.