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PS. I am 46 and gay. Never seen My Fair Lady. Never saw a Broadway show in real live until two years ago and I was hooked. Book of Mormon in NYC and was like, oh shit this is what I have been missing all my life! I had tickets with my boyfriend and another escort to see Back to the Future on Broadway this past weekend but a delayed flight fucked that all up and I never saw it. There's so many shows/musicals/plays (I don't know the difference) that I want to see now I have heard about all my life. Adding this to the list.

Holy shit. @purplekow took control of this thread, put the original poster in his place, and threw me in a corner and shut me the fuck down. I'm so impressed by everything, @purplekow is now my new best friend and I want to hire him... for something. Anything. Well done man! You made my Friday here. You shut me down and I am smiling about it while typing these words into the computer. Amazing. 🤩

Awesome thread. As far as reading the room and knowing who to approach, that comes with age and experience. I hate to say it but that is no substitute. By my age (I am 46) you still have enough youth and energy and looks to execute and the wisdom and experience to know who to approach and how to do it in a non-threatening way, that I will be honest... my rate is better than 1 in 10. Maybe 1 in 8 or even 1 in 7. But there are so many factors there. My father also had two girlfriends on the side during the time he was married to my mother. That "game" or "charm" is in my genetics. That can even be a factor, who knows? For the example about small conversation about the cheese, I approached a guy last night on the beach. He had his motorcycle parked on the street directly in front of him and was sitting on the seawall, alone, looking at the sky, not on the phone, just staring into the night. It was a warm mid-summer evening and nobody else was around. I opened with "nice bike man" HIM: "Thanks. I love it" ME: "What is it?" HIM [don't remember his reply, that wasn't what I was after] ME: "That's awesome. How come you're sitting here alone? Just soaking up the day and night?" HIM "yea. I just had an argument" [no gender or reference given] "and needed to get out of the house for a while. You?" ME: "I hear you. I was just hungry and came from the place down the street and I am walking home now. I live right over there" [points] "alone and will be doing the same as you tonight" ... at this point he starts talking about random stuff. It was clear he didn't get my hint or suggestion, and I wanted to get home, so I but my losses. Did I strike out? Was this a win or loss? I don't count it really, because I didn't invest the time to seeing it through to the end of the conversation. The opening and conversation was there and it flowed. If I had of invested the time to see it through, I would have gotten him to reveal his sexuality at some point and/or proposed an offer he come hang out at my place on the balcony and watch the ocean and night from there and/or that I was gay and had an ex-BF, a current FB, a partner, single, whatever. My point is, I would have changed my responses to mirror his situation in an effort to make him more comfortable in that moment to get what I want out of him. His reaction dictates where the "count" above comes from. I hope this all makes sense and ya'll can learn from my random rambling, lol.

You’re very welcome. You’re not gonna succeed 100% of the time. Fact, you will strike out nine times out of 10 but if you do it to people you really like it that are really handsome. You will hit a home run one of those times and you will get a phone number and a hook up out of it, so do this reply back to this thread once you tried it 10 times and let us know how the hook up was I’m that confident it works.

God, so many things to address here: He is Colombian and English is not his first language. That means he has to think about words to say and it can be difficult, and he uses words that may not exactly fit the situation based on his vocabulary. This can come off as "attitude" but that is never the scenario more often than not. He has 89 five star reviews. That is an impeccable record and sorry, but if you read the text with a VPN, it goes against the two posters above. Combine that with #1 above and you have what, a 4.95 for him. By every single online review metric around, that is a perfect score. There is always someone (or two) who aren't happy and it isn't the escort's fault. He is Colombian. I have a Colombian boyfriend who is the same as #1 above. They're insanely passionate about what they do in life, in work, and in escorting. Association with MDE and that city in relation to drugs is from the 70s, 80s, and 90s. Does Colombia have a drug export problem? YES. Is it a huge economy and thing for them? YES. Does that mean 51.5 million Colombians are walking around high all day or are addicts? NO. Not even close. It's a couple thousand people which is 0.00038 percent of the people who live or are from there -- AND the government is actively trying to manage it and squash it because it is bad for the country's image. As far as PNP in the ad, instead of writing them off, why not ask the escorts? You'll fine -- and I have in many cases -- they list that so they show clients they are comfortable with client drug use. Some clients have too much shame to hire without some sort of substance involved and it's just great business to list PNP in a profile and then clarify when asked. It's as simple as that. That's all here. I'm done.

Be nice and respectful. Don't lead with sex but with a solid compliment. "Wanna have sex" or anything sex related can be a turn off... but the one line that works for me every time is: "Damn man, you're handsome as hell" It shows your intent and your interest. It's a genuine compliment that every guy will take, even the 100% straight ones. It's non-threatening. It just works. Try it.

I'm going to go the other direction here. Based on the posts by @Coolwave35, I think there can be something more here. Coolwave, you seem like an awesome guy. I'm not sure what you're looking for longer term, but if you truly adore him and he really needs some 'help' perhaps try to offer to bring this past the hiring phase. There is a place to be a mentor and a trusted confidant with people you really like and find attractive. You have to make sure the value exchange is just mutual, no matter what that looks like for you. I'd set some very, very clear boundaries on every future meeting and also sit him down (sober!) and perhaps show him this forum thread. Have him ready it and your text and all the replies. I personally choose to invest not only my money but also my time (as a client) in those escorts who I find worth it. The ROI measure for everyone is different, but it sounds like you may be able to have an impact on this guys life. I don't know him or you, but I wouldn't write him off just yet on strike two. One more, sure. Good luck.

His endgame is to replace the banking system. A much larger play here has been in the making for over 25 years. Anyone who has followed him and has been paying attention knows these are just steps to get to the endgame, much like the paid blue check marks. Think of him what you like, but the guy is brilliant and I would place my bet on him every. single. time. Read more here:

Sadly I don't think you have any influence over Rent Men and more than a seller has influence over Amazon.com. You'd have to have critical mass in order to make them even listen to you. Although as a business owner, I know that ALL feedback is received and analyzed, so keep talking to them and making suggestions. The only way to make a change is to build a better mouse trap and make it so compelling that people use a new platform over Rent Men because it makes sense, can drive additional business, and has the features they want (providers and clients). That can happen, but you're looking at a bank roll of about $1M to $3M to actually try to compete with Rent Men. I have ideas where you could secure the capital for something like this, but don't really have the time to get involved. There are tons of investors out there who will jump at the chance to compete with a company that has a monopoly on something -- which Rent Men has on the largest market in the world (USA). Good luck.

I work full-time, and the main guy I hire also has a full-time career (he does this on the side). We also live in separate cities. We have taken a longer trip out of the country and that requires a lot of planning and a solid commitment. For regular sessions, he visity NYC on a regular schedule that he plans time around his personal and work schedule, tells me when he will be there. Then I schedule time away from my work to meet in NYC. I haven't ever really done the "hire in my city" or last-minute meetups. It works for me this way, but I also know the chances of cancellation (for work, for family, for health) carry a huge monetary loss on his side and on my side. It's an acceptable risk for us both because the rewards are greater.

Oh man, I can close my eyes and listen to his voice forever. There's that hint of Canadian in there too.... EH? 😁🤣

I truly believe we get out of these interactions, the energy we put into them. I’m gonna see him this coming weekend and we’re just gonna go see a Broadway show and have dinner. I dont “need” him for sex anymore. He had turned into someone I truly admire and he has changed my life for the better. It makes me wanna be a better man. They can’t put a price on that. It’s because of him I met the other guy I am going to marry one day. That’s so awesome. He has a gift and deserves all the money in the world for sharing it. And if you can only swing $400 and want someone to fick your lights out he’s the man for that too. 🤣😎 Edit grammar. Sorry voice texting.

Oh, you have no idea. Watch this space. I'll post a story one day. I'm actually writing a book about it. It starts with meeting on Rent Men and ends with the fairytale wedding and everything. Two guys from two different worlds, collide Rent Men, fall in love and live happily ever after and get married and have children and build a family. I'm sitting on a Virgin cruise ship right now typing this while he's snoring away taking a nap. ❤️ Life isn't all rainbows and sunshine. Things can be difficult to navigate and sure, money plays into it. But when you're truly in love and build each other up as people, everything finally clicks. You can go puke now. lol

Be straightforward. Ask him straight out why he is inviting you over again for free. Specifically, "What are you looking for here?" Everything else is speculation.

You know the saying: "If you have to ask the price....." This equation is so complex it and variable down to the two individuals involved, you can't really put a price on it. Let's start with: Are you looking for a full-time "employee" ??

I didn’t meet up with them, but I just wasted probably two hours going back-and-forth with him. He wasn’t clear on where he was in my city which specific location. His responses were short and all over the place. He kept me waiting around. Then when I offered, not a second, but a THIRD chance, “my phone just died” Wow dude. Like, get your shit together. I couldn’t have been more straightforward with everything. Sad because he’s hot and could have made a lot of money off me. Oh well.

Then I guess I misread it as well. There was never a Reese mentioned anywhere in this thread. It’s about Trevor. You are the only one who hauled out that name. Deducting you are trying to out the guy is (was) a valid conclusion given those facts.

Who's Reese? Not his name, but try again. I've seen his passport with my own eyes and know his real name. Trying to out someone who values discretion isn't a good look on you.

He doesn't have face pictures because he has a regular full-time job that is fairly high profile, and he would get into lots of trouble (read: FIRED), and discretion is something he values above all else. But you can also ask him after you have gone back and forth. In fact, after we exchanged a few texts the first time I reached out, he sent one voluntarily without me asking. He has no problem sending once you have engaged him on text -- he just can't show them to the world up-front. And he's a fucking stud, lol So: Invest some time to engage him and he will invest in you. That's how it works.

This dude is the fucking best. Been there more times than I can count and it’s life changing. lol. But really, he is just a fucking awesome dude.

Also don't underestimate the power of a US Passport. At the end of the day, none of these countries want an issue with a random American on their hands. You're too much freaking trouble to mess with. You *DO* carry the full weight of the United States of America and they aren't throwing you in jail unless they want you as a political pawn. I that case like with Russia or Iran, it really doesn't matter if you are gay, or a reporter, or have vapes on you. You're just fucked for breathing the air in that moment.

It's ironic that one of my favorite escorts has hired other guys for himself on a dozen or more occasions. They deal with all the same Grindr/Scruff/Sniffies issues that we have. People not showing up, people being to clingy, wanting more, etc. Sometimes you just want fun sex with no strings and someone who is reliable and on-time. He's the hottest thing walking around the planet in my eyes, but he also pays for it. I totally understand too.

@BiDude420 if you can provide us with a couple of links to guys who are your "type" and you are willing to do what @KensingtonHomo mentioned above about making it a date night, I have someone to refer that will completely blow you out of the water. 100% reliable, awesome, and everything you're looking for. He will be in New York City a lot next month, but that isn't his home base.

I think there should be a distinction between full-time escort work and work on the side. The word "full-time" didn't come into play until @sam.fitzpatrick mentioned it above. Yes, you can make it your career, your identity, and your job. That's awesome. But there are also those who do it just because. The one escort I live and die by does this on the side. Money isn't the primary factor in their motivations. Sure it helps, and it's nice, but they genuinely like to make connections with people and are one of those "people-pleaser" types we have all heard about. He has a full-time professional job in a fairly high-profile industry where this is a hobby. He has over 100+ reviews on RM that are all 5.0 across the board (not 4.8 or 4.9) and obviously, it shows. So in this context, this isn't their "real life" but sure, at this point we are just playing with semantics. Here's a hint: those who do it for the connections are the absolute best out there. Find someone like that and make them your regular. It's completely worth it.

I leave reviews for other providers, which are visible on my profile. I think people find a provider, look at their reviews, see mine, click the link on my profile, and then just message me. It's a vicious circle, lol.