Choking-hot or scary?

[Rudynate]

I can only speak of my experiences with several wonderful escorts who have trusted me, but I think it can be hot if done safely. However, for reasons like being afraid to permanently damage the person's voice box or larynx, I'd rather use a pillow for breath play.

 

A little story with one escort who agreed to my terms...

 

What I always do is first let the escort know what I would do for breath play, and inform them I know CPR. Any who are willing, I ask if they are allergic to any medications in case I need to resuscitate and call 911 and an ambulance (no close calls, so knock on wood). Surprisingly, the escort commented that was the first time a client ever asked that information of him (which surprised me; you'd think that would be a common question to ask a sub).

 

And I would never do it until an escort passes out. And I adamantly tell the escort to have a safety contact beforehand (likewise with me, I have a contact I text before and after the session).

 

This is the one time I did choking. The escort asked me to do it on him because he wanted to try it (in return for being smothered with a pillow). So what I did was after tying him spreadeagled on the bed, I gently placed my thumb across his throat and pressed down gently. Believe it or not, the escort was actually being choked despite such small pressure on his throat and he tapped out once he felt the high. I was surprised at how quick his face turned red, but we always took a break in between and I made sure to stop when he gave the signal.

 

So yes, choking can be hot, but you can do it without doing wrapping your hands around someone's entire neck extremely like Homer Simpson does to Bart. A simple thumb pressing gently on a certain area would do the trick.

 

And of course, for breath play, I'd prefer the pillow so after a few rounds of choking and me worshipping his bound body so he could get his heart rate down, I got the pillow.

 

With the escort who wanted to be choked, I held a pillow over his face and asked him to struggle and moan underneath the pillow (a sign he wasn't unconscious - otherwise if he went still and silent, that was a warning sign). What happened was the escort was a bit dubious that a pillow could even be used for breath play (he wouldn't be gagged so he could still use his nose and mouth), but he obliged and for several rounds, he did that, me pressing a pillow over his face for thirty seconds in intervals while he groaned and mock struggled as I sat on him.

 

Then something surprisingly happened on the third round.

 

After ten seconds of groaning and wiggling, he stopped suddenly. At first I was confused until the escort began writhing and moving his head hard against the pillow as if trying to free his face. I held the pillow firm and I could tell he began struggling for real, his body actually jerking up and down underneath me. It was at that moment I could tell the difference between his play struggling and panicking struggling as he made soft gasps under the pillow while he tried to writhe his head faster which encouraged me to press the pillow more against his face. He knew the safety signal, but he didn't tap out. Once the thirty seconds was done, I removed the pillow and the escort actually gasped in air. He asked to stop, and I did, but afterwards, the escort told me he had never been smothered like that before and he was surprised how effective the pillow was. After he left, the next day, I gave the obligatory text to check how he was feeling and if he had any chest pains or headaches which he told me he didn't and he was glad I was checking up on him.

 

So for escorts, trust and make sure you show them that you won't abuse that trust and take all precautions and don't do it alone.

 

The communication snafu shows that "safe" isn't safe.

[+ m_writer]

What communication snafu are you referring to?

 

The safety signal to tap out he didn't take or do, otherwise I would have stopped immediately. And when he asked to stop, I did. And he wanted to try choking, and though it wasn't my cup of tea, I tried it and was as gentle as I could because I didn't want to crush his windpipe.

[+ m_writer]

I'm glad he didn't die because you'd be a murderer. A good orgasm is not much of a defense.

 

Um...I'm glad he didn't die either. I'm not sure if my post implied otherwise...unless I somehow came off in my post as Norman Bates.

[Rudynate]

What communication snafu are you referring to?

 

The safety signal to tap out he didn't take or do, otherwise I would have stopped immediately. And when he asked to stop, I did. And he wanted to try choking, and though it wasn't my cup of tea, I tried it and was as gentle as I could because I didn't want to crush his windpipe.

 

None of that would have mattered if he had died. It would have been at least a manslaughter charge for you.

[GTMike]

Correct.

To be clear.....the entire *turn on* of BDSM work...is surrendering TRUST.

I get that and would agree. Would love to explore but unfortunately in this situation we're talking about an escort encounter versus a "trusted" companion you've known for a while.

 

Everyone's situation is obviously different, but personally I'd find it very difficult to surrender that trust and deliberately put myself in a situation to be that vulnerable with an escort (or actually anyone) I've only met once or twice especially under the very discreet nature of it all in the first place.

[FTM Zachary Prince]

Breath play gets a bad rap. There are situations that make it very dangerous, but there are also ways to do it that are very safe. The high is absolutely luxurious! I’m a huge fan of breath play...

 

Safety tips for extremely low risk breath play:

~ never do it alone, always with a sane & sober partner

~ avoid using objects to restrict airflow... the web of your thumb is all that’s necessary

~ do not crush the voice box; breath can be cut off at a much lower point in the neck using very little pressure

~ avoid making your partner pass out / ask your partner to avoid allowing you to pass out... EDGING is very effective in breath play & five or ten minutes of struggling to breath and barely getting enough air is enough to make you high and your orgasm insane... the struggle causes your brain to panic... releasing happy chemicals ... without the medical risks associated with passing out

~ TOPS: keep EYE CONTACT with your bottom during breath play AND/OR keep your head very close to their head!! You want to be able to hear each and every ragged breath escaping through their windpipe so you are intimately aware how much air they are getting! You should NEVER restrict someone’s airflow in a situation where you are unable to monitor your bottom’s breathing! This is also why you should NEVER EVER do breath play alone!!

 

There is virtually no risk to breath play if these safety tips are followed. A little web of thumb across the lower throat, perhaps your body’s weight on his, the restricted airflow and perceived helplessness causes a panic that turns delicious and euphoric after it runs its course.

 

Yes, breath play can result in death. But only when safety is blatantly disregarded. Fastening belts around necks and hanging oneself from a closet are absolutely not safe, sane forms of play, so that’s what you want to stay away from.

[pubic_assistance]

A little web of thumb across the lower throat, perhaps your body’s weight on his, the restricted airflow and perceived helplessness causes a panic that turns delicious and euphoric after it runs its course.

I prefer the crook of my arm, and holding them from behind....but yeah...all good information. It's only dangerous if you're stupid ( and sloppy).

[dixietony]

What about auto asphyxiation? When I was younger, I haven't done it in 15 years, I actually bought a snorkel with a mouthpice, clipped my nose with a swimmers diving nose clip, attached the end of the snorkel to a bag. Then I'd jack off.

 

It's not choking, I know. But what to call it?

 

And typing out those words was a little embarrassing.

[pubic_assistance]

Same goal...different technique. Risky by yourself...probably less..the way you were doing it.

[sincitymix]

I don’t want to be choked, however I like hands around my throat neck with some pressure.

[dixietony]

Same goal...different technique. Risky by yourself...probably less..the way you were doing it.

 

I don't recall ever passing out. But as I only had the snorkel in my mouth, not taped or secured, of I did pass out, I think it would have just come out.

 

Thanks for your reply.

[pubic_assistance]

I don't recall ever passing out. But as I only had the snorkel in my mouth, not taped or secured, of I did pass out, I think it would have just come out.

 

Thanks for your reply.

Exactly. Low risk if passing out removes the block to oxygen. But still much more powerful in surrendering your life to a partner.