Where Does One Look for Companionship

[rocky]

I know this might have been addressed before but I hope you'll be patient with me and hopefully others will find the information helpful. Craigslist was helpful to find some local connections, for a variety of things including dinner and talk. M4Rentnow was helpful for someone like me in the rural area when traveling to another area to look for companionship. Any suggestions for looking for such help now that we've been brought back to the 20th century?

[+ Hoover42]

Try Meetup. Depending on where you live, you will likely be able to find a men's group that would welcome you.

[LaffingBear]

Meetup and groups is good advice.

 

Ive had some success recently with the Surge app. Not alot... but I met a really nice guy and we're coordinating travel together soon - same destination and time, same hotel, etc.

 

At least less of the Surge interactions are are about sex-only, and it feels like its slightly less flaky.

 

None of the apps are great.... Id say Surge is 90% waste of time, whereas Grindr et al are 99% waste of time.

 

I was in Vegas 2 weeks ago... and a few guys on Grindr actually said theyd meet for coffee or just hangout. Didnt happen, but by comparison to most Grindr interactions, it was refreshing.

[Deadlift1]

Back to Manhunt.net? or Match?

[+ José Soplanucas]

What about adam4adam.com?

[MikeBiDude]

What about adam4adam.com?

I concur, A4A is good for this....

[+ Gar1eth]

I have my least success of anything on A4A.

 

Gman

[+ José Soplanucas]

A4A is where all my free sex is coming from. And now and then, I also meet wonderful professionals there.

[MikeBiDude]

A4A is where all my free sex is coming from. And now and then, I also meet wonderful professionals there.

Ditto

[LaffingBear]

Maybe A4A is location specific.

 

Like @Gar1eth, Ive had less success on A4A compared to any others. Even when filtering down to a very low standard... messages only, without any real chance to meet... Grindr and the other apps are better than A4A (more accurate to say they suck less.)

 

When I initiate contact on A4A.... local or Pro.... I rarely get a reply. When the other guy initiates, 9 times out of 10, his profile is removed within a day... as A4A recognizes its a scammer.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Maybe A4A is location specific.

 

Like @Gar1eth, Ive had less success on A4A compared to any others. Even when filtering down to a very low standard... messages only, without any real chance to meet... Grindr and the other apps are better than A4A (more accurate to say they suck less.)

 

When I initiate contact on A4A.... local or Pro.... I rarely get a reply. When the other guy initiates, 9 times out of 10, his profile is removed within a day... as A4A recognizes its a scammer.

 

Yeah, I do know it depends on where you are. The places where I have used A4A very successfully are DC and NYC. In no other places I stayed long enough to know.

[+ tassojunior]

Marine Corps bases/towns. Honest.

[+ Gar1eth]

Marine Corps bases/towns. Honest.

 

I’d wonder if that depends on your stage of life. As an out of shape 57 year old, I doubt a young, in shape marine is going to have much of an interest in me-and same goes for any older marines out there.

 

Gman

[+ tassojunior]

I’d wonder if that depends on your stage of life. As an out of shape 57 year old, I doubt a young, in shape marine is going to have much of an interest in me-and same goes for any older marines out there.

 

Gman

That's young. Some of their commanders are that age.

[MikeBiDude]

I’d wonder if that depends on your stage of life. As an out of shape 57 year old, I doubt a young, in shape marine is going to have much of an interest in me-and same goes for any older marines out there.

 

Gman

@Gar1eth You’d be surprised. I stay in North San Diego county many nights a year. Grindr, Seeking, A4A, (one time Craigslist) are FULL of young Marines- and bcs proximity to San Diego - young Navy guys online looking.

 

You never know when you reach out, worst they can say is “no”.

[rocky]

I want to thank all for being considerate and not tossing aside my frustration. I'm in a rural area and while adam may be good it isn't helpful for "pre"planning as I like to do. I'm just an older guy who likes to be nice and have fun with younger men. Thanks

[+ Gar1eth]

@Gar1eth You’d be surprised. I stay in North San Diego county many nights a year. Grindr, Seeking, A4A, (one time Craigslist) are FULL of young Marines- and bcs proximity to San Diego - young Navy guys online looking.

 

You never know when you reach out, worst they can say is “no”.

 

Well you’re right it would only take one. And while hope, or is it just continual desperation, springs eternal-but in my experience the chances are few, slim, and, none that an athletic you guy like that would be interested in a guy like me.

 

Gman

[+ Gar1eth]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xYRi1F5lDnw

 

Gman

[P Gren]

I want to thank all for being considerate and not tossing aside my frustration. I'm in a rural area and while adam may be good it isn't helpful for "pre"planning as I like to do. I'm just an older guy who likes to be nice and have fun with younger men. Thanks

Are you looking for this for free? Or are you paying?

[rocky]

I won't beat around the bush so to speak and if I upset someone, ok. I look for FWB, I do look for escorts who aren't here to make me their "money daddy" ; although I'm not opposed to that, but that's another story. I'm just someone who at their senior time isn't wasting time, or doesn't want to waste time looking for some fun times where I am or when I travel. I found with the loss of craigslist and m4rnow, it's difficult. If I'm missing something, let me know.

[P Gren]

I won't beat around the bush so to speak and if I upset someone, ok. I look for FWB, I do look for escorts who aren't here to make me their "money daddy" ; although I'm not opposed to that, but that's another story. I'm just someone who at their senior time isn't wasting time, or doesn't want to waste time looking for some fun times where I am or when I travel. I found with the loss of craigslist and m4rnow, it's difficult. If I'm missing something, let me know.

I was asking a question, for clarification. Same question: are you looking for this for free? Or are you paying? It's kind of a yes or no question.

[MikeBiDude]

I was asking a question, for clarification. Same question: are you looking for this for free? Or are you paying? It's kind of a yes or no question.

Seems clear to me he’s looking to compensate

[P Gren]

Seems clear to me he’s looking to compensate

"I look for FWB, I do look for escorts who aren't here to make me their "money daddy." That implies 'off the clock' escorts. Its unclear