"Dine-and-dash' heartbraker. Could this happen on grindr or S.A.?

[marylander1940]

If you’re looking online for love or even just a dinner partner in the Los Angeles area, be careful or you might unwittingly get stuck with the bill. Two women at different restaurants in Pasadena were allegedly victims of “dine-and-dash” dating by someone they met online, according to news reports. Pasadena police told ABC News “there is an ongoing investigation into [the] activities” of a man named Paul Guadalupe Gonzales, 45, of Pasadena. ABC News has tried repeatedly to contact Gonzales by phone but has so far been unable to reach him. One woman was allegedly stuck with a $130 restaurant bill after, she said, her date “went all out,” ordering steak and shrimp on their recent date, KCBS reported Friday. The man allegedly then claimed he needed to get a phone charger from his car and never returned, the woman told KCBS.

 

https://www.yahoo.com/gma/women-were-victims-dine-dash-someone-met-online-021704953--abc-news-topstories.html

[LaffingBear]

LOL!

 

I dont know how to react to that. Its sorta funny.

 

Happen to me? Probably not, because my initial meets with people are generally brief, coffee. Unlikely Id be eating a nice meal first meet.

 

Happen on Grindr? Guys on Grindr are looking to satisfy their crotch or ass, not their stomach. More likely to get stuck for costs of lube than a meal. Or even stuck to the bedposts with handcuffs.

[maninsoma]

I had a guy hit me up on OKCupid. Cute, and seemed eager to meet. I typically would rather meet for coffee first, but he wanted to meet for dinner. We set a time and place (somewhere close to where he lived that I had never heard of). Researching the restaurant, it seemed a bit high end for a first date meeting with a stranger. He sent me a message a few hours before we were to meet stating that he expected me to pay for dinner. Now, I have certainly paid for men's dinners before and have also paid for men's company, but I didn't like this guy's MO -- not to mention the fact that if I was going to hire someone that evening I could have hired someone more attractive than him. I basically replied by calling off the meeting and letting him know that if he was attempting to find a sugar daddy he should be more upfront about it. Guess I'm lucky that he at least told me prior to our actually meeting, but honestly if I were put in the position these women were I'd simply pay for my own portion of the check and tell the restaurant that they would have to pursue the deadbeat to get what was due from him. Why should anyone feel obligated to pay for a stranger's meal? I know it would be an uncomfortable scene, but what is the restaurant going to do? Call the cops on you after you've paid for your meal because you didn't pay for some dude you just met?

[+ poolboy48220]

I just read a story on Facebook yesterday, one of the many "restaurant workers share their horror stories", where a table tried to dine & dash, and the last couple of people left got caught, and had to pay the bill. In that case, it was the whole table trying, though, leaving one by one; not someone stuck unawares by a first date.

[LaffingBear]

if I were put in the position these women were I'd simply pay for my own portion of the check and tell the restaurant that they would have to pursue the deadbeat to get what was due from him. Why should anyone feel obligated to pay for a stranger's meal? I know it would be an uncomfortable scene, but what is the restaurant going to do? Call the cops on you after you've paid for your meal because you didn't pay for some dude you just met?

I wonder if that would work? Maybe someone on the forum works as waitstaff or restaurant management.

 

I just assume that theres an unwritten contract between diners and a restaurant... that the bill gets paid in entirety by the table... regardless of which patron(s). But, perhaps Im mistaken

[Kevin Slater]

I wonder if that would work? Maybe someone on the forum works as waitstaff or restaurant management.

 

I just assume that theres an unwritten contract between diners and a restaurant... that the bill gets paid in entirety by the table... regardless of which patron(s). But, perhaps Im mistaken

 

 

I believe the phrase is jointly and severally liable.

 

Kevin Slater

[+ bigjoey]

Had a friend who owned a restaurant and "dine and dash" happened from time to time. His place had outdoor tables and those were the easiest for the people to make a getaway.

[+ Avalon]

It wasn't a restaurant but rather a grocery store. In the movie "Dawn, Portrait of a Teenage Runaway" Dawn and Alex (gay for pay hustler) go through a grocery store filling a shopping cart and eating along the way. At the check out Alex says he has forgotten his wallet and leaves to go get it then Dawn runs after him out of the store and down the street.

[marylander1940]

Had a friend who owned a restaurant and "dine and dash" happened from time to time. His place had outdoor tables and those were the easiest for the people to make a getaway.

 

Did it ever happen the way described by the article?

[+ bigjoey]

Did it ever happen the way described by the article?

 

No. Usually, just one or two people then toward the end of dinner, they vanish. Never told me about one person getting stuck with the bill.

[LaffingBear]

Updating my Grindr profile

 

Now it says

No dick pics, No PNP, No Cash, No Rash, No Dine-and-Dash