Should an escort’s (or client’s) appointment be replaced with an available one if the time changes

[Mocha]

First and foremost, I don't intend to shame or blame the subject at hand. Also, the title/topic of this post has changed. Whether the person wishes to respond is not up to me. However, I do want to share and perhaps get others viewpoint on how they would handle it.

 

In a nutshell: I had a client who scheduled me in advance for an evening about 2-3 weeks ago in my home city. Very courteous and planned ahead. I had previously met him in another city awhile ago, so knew he was genuine. I did inform him that I would be going out of the area in between the time he arrived, but that I would expect to have returned by the weekend he was here. In fact, I put plans in place to ensure I would be here the weekend for the session, which we scheduled for Saturday.

 

Now, when I travel, I rarely do airlines. I have never found flying to be comfortable or profitable for me. I own 2 reliable vehicles, one for local and the other travel. I'm usually away anywhere from 2 weeks to a month on most trips. So that alone, may make me different from how some other escorts travel. Client also sent me a long, detailed email describing the ideal fantasy, a couple of days prior to meeting. I thanked him, but said I'd need to read it later because I was traveling when he sent it. Oftentimes I get information overload when trying to drive, read texts and emails all while trying to make it to appointments ON TIME.

 

Fast forward to last night: the appointment got cancelled an hour and a half before I arrived to his place. Despite me making all necessary concessions to ensure I was in tip top shape, I was not able to fit into HIS desired schedule. The day before the trip; I got a fresh haircut, worked out, even got in my full quarterly STD screening. Everything was looking on point, and on schedule. Unfortunently, I expected on a Saturday to not have to deal with too much traffic. WRONG! There were 3 different delays all along the way. Each delay added more and more time to my arrival. I clocked on several apps, the trip was going to only take 9 hours (which may seem long, but it's easier for me than sitting 9 hours in front of a computer or standing in front of a cash register). I left myself with about 3 hours buffer time. Then, I lost an hour going east as Florida is split into 2 time zones. It ultimately made me only 1 hour later than we moved it to, but 3 hours later than the original time.

 

I took responsibility for underestimating the time it would take to arrive. I had communicated with him both before and during commute, suggesting to move it back a couple hours or to Sunday, and at first he said it would be too late but then he agreed to stay up at a later time for me. That wasn't the case. He instead informed (gloated) me that he chose to contact another escort from Rentmen, who ironically arrived AT THE SAME LATE TIME that I would have arrived and had awesome sex. So he could have just waited for me to arrive, instead he decided to call someone else. That's the ultimate foul. That's like booking and waiting for a specific barber, but then getting a haircut from an available one in the same shop just because "you couldn't wait".

 

Needless to say, I was devastated and upset. He was upset at me, but he didn't have to do anything except chill at his hotel room til I got there. I blamed myself for not leaving the night before, which would have meant getting less sleep. Or not driving faster (though I'd of probably ended up with a ticket or in jail considering my car can go 160 mph). But that would have been unnecessary and dangerous, especially considering the client wouldn't give me $49,000 for a new car if it ended up in a tree. I even regretted taking the visit at all, because I didn’t feel confident he would be willing to wait, in the event things took longer.

 

I have contacted this client for a cancellation fee, but he has not responded. I also feel not all the blame lies on me. I was arriving on a Saturday night. He was in town until Monday. I understand his expectation of timely arrival, but I feel like I was made to look inconsiderate just because I didn't fit his window of time. But fact is, I would have arrived. He chose to not wait on me, instead contacted someone else who arrived just as late anyway.

 

This is an ominous reality of what happens whenever I come to Florida. It never fails. On every return, something ends up happening which causes atleast 1 client to cancel, leaving me high and dry and sours my whole day. Too many options of men, and people trying to do other things and fit an escort into the mix. The past 2 weeks I've been out of Florida, I've made it to every appointment without a hitch. I even drove during a snowstorm in Milwaukee, and even though I couldn’t meet when he decided to be available earlier, I still arrived at our pre-set time. Soon as I get back to Florida, this happens.

Edited April 30, 2018 by Mocha

[MartyB]

I have a very distinct group of men who travel to NYC several times a year who I love to be with (and have reviewed here) that when I get advanced notice I book and put in my calendar sometimes a month or more in advance. Unless they cancel or something major happens I'm ready. Babe NYC is waiting...lol

[Mocha]

I have a very distinct group of men who travel to NYC several times a year who I love to be with (and have reviewed here) that when I get advanced notice I book and put in my calendar sometimes a month or more in advance. Unless they cancel or something major happens I'm ready. Babe NYC is waiting...lol

 

Thank you, I'm waiting as well....Maybe in May

[Kris Parkes]

I would prefer the client let me know ahead of time. It's a different mindset. I need to be prepared in order to give my best.

[Happy4Life]

Sorry to hear. His loss for sure. It is never okay to screw someone over when they let you know what is going on. I one time had an escort cancel on me when I arrived at their place because their other vehicle got stolen. He was so sorry to have to cancel on me and I totally understood. He did make it up to me and was willing to accommodate my schedule.

[Mocha]

Sorry to hear. His loss for sure. It is never okay to screw someone over when they let you know what is going on. I one time had an escort cancel on me when I arrived at their place because their other vehicle got stolen. He was so sorry to have to cancel on me and I totally understood. He did make it up to me and was willing to accommodate my schedule.

 

So you guys ended up meeting again?

 

The client certainly made reasonable accommodations, but they were within the time that accommodated him.

 

Events like this have caused me to get anxiety in the past, to where I end up not even going on a trip. I try not to do that, but if a client is likely to not have enough window of time...or I end up jammed myself the night before, I won’t go.

 

I also try to avoid traveling the day of the appointment, but that’s not always possible. With Milwaukee couple weeks ago, I arrived the night before the appointment. The next day of course, it was snowing 3 inches per hour. So I was prepared and left 6 hours of travel time just for 90 miles.

 

If I could just stay in one place, and just watch the clients come to town, that’d be great. But in a place like Florida where there’s so much flaking and standing up going on a weekly basis, I usually don’t stay here more than a few weeks if I’m to make any long term money goals for myself.

Edited April 30, 2018 by Mocha

[Happy4Life]

We met the next day. We see each other monthly. Have you ever thought about making trips around the US on your terms and not clients? If clients want to see you they will make the time whenever you are in their neck of the woods.

[gallahadesquire]

Let me get this straight:

 

1. There are two time zones in Florida? Which ones? (I never knew this, and I"m trying to BN/BR).

2. You were, first, an hour late, then three hours late, and you're upset because the client cancelled an hour and a half before the appointment?

 

Frankly, I'm confused. Yes, it is sort of like going to the other barber.

[gallahadesquire]

Sorry to hear. His loss for sure. It is never okay to screw someone over when they let you know what is going on. I one time had an escort cancel on me when I arrived at their place because their other vehicle got stolen. He was so sorry to have to cancel on me and I totally understood. He did make it up to me and was willing to accommodate my schedule.

 

I had a meeting scheduled with an escort. He texted me about a half-hour ahead of time and said he wouldn't be in the room, but he left a key at the desk for me. Odd. Which ID do I use? His escort name? His real name? MY real name?

[+ Keith30309]

That reminds me of the companion who texted me 3 hours AFTER our confirmed time to tell me he found a more lucrative overnight client instead.

These things happen. <shrug>

[Mocha]

We met the next day. We see each other monthly. Have you ever thought about making trips around the US on your terms and not clients? If clients want to see you they will make the time whenever you are in their neck of the woods.

 

That's generally what I do, but I let client appointments kind of determine when and where. I don't like to just blindly go places without appointments, because then it just becomes a speculation. This overall trip was congruent with me getting back, but I would have probably went a different route.

 

Let me get this straight:

 

1. There are two time zones in Florida? Which ones? (I never knew this, and I"m trying to BN/BR).

2. You were, first, an hour late, then three hours late, and you're upset because the client cancelled an hour and a half before the appointment?

 

Frankly, I'm confused. Yes, it is sort of like going to the other barber.

 

1. The time zone change is at the panhandle. Tennessee is the same way, and I hated that because a 2.5 hours drive to Knoxville can turned into 4 when you lose an hour. You'd think 1 extra hour wouldn't make much difference, it does. If you lose an hour, can end up very late. If there's no change, could be perfectly on time. If you gain an hour, you can get earlier than expected.

 

2. What am I supposed to be, not upset? Especially considering the fact that he claims to have hired someone who "showed up at the same time I texted I could arrive". So he could have just waited regardless for me to show up.

 

I don't feel I deserve to be cancelled just because it takes longer time to get somewhere. It's not like I was lolligagging and killing time. I'm just doing what I was asked to do. Some guys get bent and upset because you don't do things exactly when and how they want to do it.

 

The situation could have easily been mitigated. I offered a pro-rated overnight...I offered meeting Sunday. I would have made due anytime from Saturday night til he left Monday. But he was busy/tired. That's outside of my realm of control. He wasn't busy/tired because he waited for me, he was busy/tired because he had come to town for other business.

 

That reminds me of the companion who texted me 3 hours AFTER our confirmed time to tell me he found a more lucrative overnight client instead.

These things happen. <shrug>

 

Now that’s the ultimate foul lol.

[FTM Zachary Prince]

Dick move on his part, but in my opinion he doesn’t owe you a cancellation fee. I’ve driven long-distances and been late for appointments before. Its really stressful/frustrating, and it sucks when there’s traffic outside of your control and time zone changes that are easy to forget about (I was based out of TN for years, so I know exactly what you mean).

 

At the end of the day, though, appointments are scheduled for a certain time. I would never ask a client for a cancellation fee if I missed the start of our scheduled appointment by three hours, or the start of our already-rescheduled meeting by an additional hour. I wouldn’t even expect one if I missed it by thirty minutes... If I wasn’t there at the scheduled start time, he didn’t cancel the appointment. I MISSED it by however much extra time it took me to get there.

 

I can definitely understand the client being tired due to being in town on business and finding starting the appointment three hours late to be completely unacceptable. What I find ridiculously rude and unnecessary about his behaviour is the fact that he apparently still had the energy to see a different escort? At the same time that you would have arrived? AND to brag to you about it? What an asshole...

Edited April 30, 2018 by FTM Zachary Prince

[rustyrex]

Wow! Your willing to drive to a client! I was always under the assumption that if you want to bring in talent, the client pays for the convenience, all of it! I wanted a guy so bad I almost did it too. Flight, staying at my place and meals...if he can stand my cooking....one night only. Instead I'm driving to him this weekend....a whole 6 hours, same time zone but better city than where I live. I've only met one guy I would do this for and unfortunately he's moving out of the country at the end of the year

[Mocha]

Wow! Your willing to drive to a client! I was always under the assumption that if you want to bring in talent, the client pays for the convenience, all of it! I wanted a guy so bad I almost did it too. Flight, staying at my place and meals...if he can stand my cooking....one night only. Instead I'm driving to him this weekend....a whole 6 hours, same time zone but better city than where I live. I've only met one guy I would do this for and unfortunately he's moving out of the country at the end of the year

 

I want to clarify something:

 

There’s a difference between an escort who doesn’t travel/tour, and one who travel/tours regularly. An escort who’s home, does it on the side or only works locally...would likely expect all of his fee and transportation up front if he has to see a client in a different city. He’s not wanting to travel and work a city or several cities, he’s going for 1 particular client. Hence, it makes sense to have everything paid up.

 

Problem with that is, that may happen only once in awhile. Whereas an escort who is on “tour” or travels as main part of their schedule, is traveling to many cities at a time. One could collect deposits before they go to every city, but that obligates one to be there and can make things dicey (-Karsin Knightly). Plus not everyone is willing to pay it.

 

Problem with that is, when situations like I described happen...that can put an escort in a very bad predicament. If I wasn’t home, I’d have to turn right back around the next day and leave Florida. Why?

 

Because just today another client cancelled. But not my fault. That appointment was scheduled for tomorrow. I’m already here. So now, it doesn’t even matter whether I’m late or on time, if a client decides to cancel an important meet, they should take partial responsibility for it regardless. Yes it my fault, but it’s his fault too. 50/50. But why should I not get paid anything?

 

I told the client it’s like an airline or mail delivery. You don’t get refunded just because your package was delivered at 6 pm instead of 1 pm when you needed it. You may not even get refunded even if the delivery came the next day later than expected (don’t quote me, but I know UPS, FEDEX and USPS have their own guidelines). You don’t get to cancel and be refunded a flight just because you landed late, due to unforeseen circumstances on the flight’s end.

[Mocha]

Dick move on his part, but in my opinion he doesn’t owe you a cancellation fee. I’ve driven long-distances and been late for appointments before. Its really stressful/frustrating, and it sucks when there’s traffic outside of your control and time zone changes that are easy to forget about (I was based out of TN for years, so I know exactly what you mean).

 

At the end of the day, though, appointments are scheduled for a certain time. I would never ask a client for a cancellation fee if I missed the start of our scheduled appointment by three hours, or the start of our already-rescheduled meeting by an additional hour. I wouldn’t even expect one if I missed it by thirty minutes... If I wasn’t there at the scheduled start time, he didn’t cancel the appointment. I MISSED it by however much extra time it took me to get there.

 

I can definitely understand the client being tired due to being in town on business and finding starting the appointment three hours late to be completely unacceptable. What I find ridiculously rude and unnecessary about his behaviour is the fact that he apparently still had the energy to see a different escort? At the same time that you would have arrived? AND to brag to you about it? What an asshole...

 

You lived in Tennessee? I had no idea. So you can relate. I mean as far as the cancellation fee, I pretty much can just echo what I stated above. I don’t disagree with you, it’s just I stand by how I view the situation.

 

But absolutely, bragging was unnecessary. I won’t go any further than what you said, because I could not have said it better.

 

Going forward, I feel like starting today I won’t be going anywhere else to see anyone again outside of whatevr metro area or line of travel I’m in, without a deposit. I mean hell, couple weeks ago a client put cash in my account for deposit. Even today, someone wanted to see me in Tampa AND for me to host. I’m in Orlando. I said by appointment with deposit only. Of course he cancelled anyway because I wouldn’t agree to fuck him bareback. Sorry, I just got tested.

 

So I can say the main blame I can take on all of this, is not getting the deposit. I’m over it.

Edited May 1, 2018 by Mocha

[+ VictorPowers]

Sometimes shit hits the fan. When that happens, it can kill the mood for either party. Maybe the cancellation was justified from a client perspective.

[Mocha]

Sometimes shit hits the fan. When that happens, it can kill the mood for either party. Maybe the cancellation was justified from a client perspective.

 

Exactly. Their perspective. But people need to understand it’s not Burger King, you can’t always have it your way.

 

I had a friend today compare my situation to a burger at McDonald’s, and how if someone wants a burger now they should have it now. I immediately stopped him. I hate when people compare escort work to something cheap and fast, or to a place that has a staff of people to serve one customer. I’m just 1 fucking person! I’ve worked in fast food. It takes 30 seconds or less to get a burger out when you have 3 people handling it.

 

How about, building a home. Do they ever get completed at the exact time and day listed? No. Does the realtor get the house sold exactly in 30 days, and if not gets cancelled? What about if someone was delivering cattle to a farm? I’ve been on farms and seen where ranchers get delayed because 1 stubborn heifer refuses to follow the herd. What about concerts? Have not a performer ever had to keep fans waiting due a delay of sorts?

 

Once people understand escorts aren’t pizza or hamburgers, maybe they’ll prepare themselves a bit more in case things don’t go exactly as anticipated. That’s not to negate the consideration of a client’s time. But you wouldn’t tell the UPS man to not deliver your package just because it was a couple hours late, it makes sense just the same for us.

[Happy4Life]

The reality is you are right about a deposit being needed in certain cases. If being an escort was so easy then there would be way more than what is already out there.

[+ Keith30309]

If I have an appointment at 1:00 with my dentist because I have a terrible toothache and am sitting in the waiting room at that time I think it’s reasonable to allow some wiggle room for schedule slippage.

 

But if the receptionist tells me it’s going to be an hour... then tells me it’s going to be two more hours then I’m going to walk away.

If my toothache is bad enough I’m probably going to try to find another dentist who can see me but either way I’m going to be pretty pissed (assuming he’s not had some catastrophic medical emergency and it’s simply poor planning.)

 

On the other hand, if I’m a no-show for an appointment and a timeslot that has been reserved for me then presumably he has lost some revenue by being unable to schedule another paying patient and has every right to request some compensation for that. My dentist has a written policy on this.

[Mocha]

If I have an appointment at 1:00 with my dentist because I have a terrible toothache and am sitting in the waiting room at that time I think it’s reasonable to allow some wiggle room for schedule slippage.

 

But if the receptionist tells me it’s going to be an hour... then tells me it’s going to be two more hours then I’m going to walk away.

If my toothache is bad enough I’m probably going to try to find another dentist who can see me but either way I’m going to be pretty pissed (assuming he’s not had some catastrophic medical emergency and it’s simply poor planning.)

 

On the other hand, if I’m a no-show for an appointment and a timeslot that has been reserved for me then presumably he has lost some revenue by being unable to schedule another paying patient and has every right to request some compensation for that. My dentist has a written policy on this.

 

Makes sense. But again, that’s comparing a dentist office to a place that has a staff of people who can serve one person (despite them also serving multiple people at once). The emails the client was sending me would never reach me. They’d go to my receptionist. The call I made to him informing of the delay? Never would have been made by me. My receptionist. He would never get to talk to me until I arrived to the hotel. Or not.

 

Not to mention, they’re just at the office. That’s like me sitting at home. Sure, just come on over. But see how long it would take if that same dentist was doing housecalls. And let’s not talk about hospitals. I’ve seen people writhing in pain in the waiting room, yet business carries on as usual. They can may for 30 minutes, or two hours.

 

Whats more annoying about this, is even though there could be 50 million things I could have done differently, what about the times it is done perfectly and still falls thru?

 

On 2 other occasions over the past week, appointments were cancelled despite the fact that I wouldn’t have had to drive nearly as far and would have made it on time. Matter of fact, that’s the 2nd Saturday appointment cancelled. The one prior was my client in up North, but he simply rescheduled for June elsewhere and left me a cancellation fee. The other was a client in Florida who I’m supposed to be seeing today, but his schedule changed. He’s not paid the cancel fee.

 

Again it’s not to make excuses for anything, but ultimately there’s only so much in my control. When 1 person backs out of a plan for any reason, they become the reason it doesn’t work out. The other person shouldn’t be left hanging though.

[cany10011]

Sorry this happened. If the client knew you were driving such a long distance to get to him, he should have waited or provided some flexibility. I certainly would have waited up. It sounds like he needed his itch to be scratched immediately.

 

 

 

 

First and foremost, I don't intend to shame or blame the subject at hand. Also, the title/topic of this post has changed. Whether the person wishes to respond is not up to me. However, I do want to share and perhaps get others viewpoint on how they would handle it.

 

In a nutshell: I had a client who scheduled me in advance for an evening about 2-3 weeks ago in my home city. Very courteous and planned ahead. I had previously met him in another city awhile ago, so knew he was genuine. I did inform him that I would be going out of the area in between the time he arrived, but that I would expect to have returned by the weekend he was here. In fact, I put plans in place to ensure I would be here the weekend for the session, which we scheduled for Saturday.

 

Now, when I travel, I rarely do airlines. I have never found flying to be comfortable or profitable for me. I own 2 reliable vehicles, one for local and the other travel. I'm usually away anywhere from 2 weeks to a month on most trips. So that alone, may make me different from how some other escorts travel. Client also sent me a long, detailed email describing the ideal fantasy, a couple of days prior to meeting. I thanked him, but said I'd need to read it later because I was traveling when he sent it. Oftentimes I get information overload when trying to drive, read texts and emails all while trying to make it to appointments ON TIME.

 

Fast forward to last night: the appointment got cancelled an hour and a half before I arrived to his place. Despite me making all necessary concessions to ensure I was in tip top shape, I was not able to fit into HIS desired schedule. The day before the trip; I got a fresh haircut, worked out, even got in my full quarterly STD screening. Everything was looking on point, and on schedule. Unfortunently, I expected on a Saturday to not have to deal with too much traffic. WRONG! There were 3 different delays all along the way. Each delay added more and more time to my arrival. I clocked on several apps, the trip was going to only take 9 hours (which may seem long, but it's easier for me than sitting 9 hours in front of a computer or standing in front of a cash register). I left myself with about 3 hours buffer time. Then, I lost an hour going east as Florida is split into 2 time zones. It ultimately made me only 1 hour later than we moved it to, but 3 hours later than the original time.

 

I took responsibility for underestimating the time it would take to arrive. I had communicated with him both before and during commute, suggesting to move it back a couple hours or to Sunday, and at first he said it would be too late but then he agreed to stay up at a later time for me. That wasn't the case. He instead informed (gloated) me that he chose to contact another escort from Rentmen, who ironically arrived AT THE SAME LATE TIME that I would have arrived and had awesome sex. So he could have just waited for me to arrive, instead he decided to call someone else. That's the ultimate foul. That's like booking and waiting for a specific barber, but then getting a haircut from an available one in the same shop just because "you couldn't wait".

 

Needless to say, I was devastated and upset. He was upset at me, but he didn't have to do anything except chill at his hotel room til I got there. I blamed myself for not leaving the night before, which would have meant getting less sleep. Or not driving faster (though I'd of probably ended up with a ticket or in jail considering my car can go 160 mph). But that would have been unnecessary and dangerous, especially considering the client wouldn't give me $49,000 for a new car if it ended up in a tree. I even regretted taking the visit at all, because I didn’t feel confident he would be willing to wait, in the event things took longer.

 

I have contacted this client for a cancellation fee, but he has not responded. I also feel not all the blame lies on me. I was arriving on a Saturday night. He was in town until Monday. I understand his expectation of timely arrival, but I feel like I was made to look inconsiderate just because I didn't fit his window of time. But fact is, I would have arrived. He chose to not wait on me, instead contacted someone else who arrived just as late anyway.

 

This is an ominous reality of what happens whenever I come to Florida. It never fails. On every return, something ends up happening which causes atleast 1 client to cancel, leaving me high and dry and sours my whole day. Too many options of men, and people trying to do other things and fit an escort into the mix. The past 2 weeks I've been out of Florida, I've made it to every appointment without a hitch. I even drove during a snowstorm in Milwaukee, and even though I couldn’t meet when he decided to be available earlier, I still arrived at our pre-set time. Soon as I get back to Florida, this happens.

[+ VictorPowers]

Oftentimes we are at the mercy of the client's decision. It sucks, but that's how this industry works. Sometimes the client is more than accommodating in other circumstances so it works both ways. We just need to hold our head high and surround ourselves with all the amazing clients we can find. In the end, everything works out for the better. I certainly have had plans go awry and have been put in tough situations. I move on and focus on the future in those instances.

[tanman4u]

Well I was wondering if this would wind up being aired out on Daddy's, so here goes.

 

I'm the attempted hirer here.

 

I only hire when I'm traveling and that frequently means only having time to hire once per trip, not due to monetary reasons, but time constraints. When I'm traveling I'm doing safety training all weekend and it's pretty rigidly timed out. I have very little free time. I also no longer get along on a couple of hours of sleep a night if I'll be in charge of running this training the next day.

 

As Mocha pointed out we did hookup a couple of years ago in Las Vegas. It was the first longer-than-an-hour-or-two meeting I had ever planned on. We were going to have dinner at a steakhouse then head to my room. Everything was set and a date and time was agreed upon. He was driving with a friend from somewhere in the area and started running late, and had to check-in at their hotel, then get ready, then get to me, etc. So I had dinner by myself and hooked up with him for a couple of hours later that night.

 

So we kinda kept up through PMs here discussing various subjects. I've always liked his style here on the forums and felt like he got a bad rap for bitching so much.

 

On April 8 I sent an email asking if he was going to be in his home town of Orlando later in the month (27th-30th).

On April 10 he answered "....I say put me down for this month, as I’m here now. I may go out of town in between now and then,b but I have some things going on here in Orlando that I need to stay tended to. So if I do go, it would only be for a couple weeks."

On April 11th I wrote that Friday the 27th would be the best for me for a variety of reasons. I did say in that email "I'd really like to be crashed out by midnight as I have to be on my feet doing the meet-and-greet thing all day Sat and Sun. If Friday night isn't good for you Saturday or Sunday night would work just not quite as convenient. "

On April 22nd he emailed me his rates which included one-hour, two-hour, evening, and all night sessions.

On April 23rd I reiterated my desire for an "evening" and told him I would let him know how early on Friday I'd be free.

On April 25th he emailed me: "

Hey there Kevin, just following back up with you. So give me the run down on your availability in Orlando again. You mentioned Friday night you’d be getting in, or is Friday the 1 night you’d be able to meet while you’re in town?

On April 26th Mocha texted: "just noticed you said you’d be in Orlando Friday thru Monday. So I take it Saturday will be open for you as well? I ask because I’m traveling back from up north tomorrow and on Friday...and would prefer to leave a little buffer time and meet with you Saturday or Sunday even if possible. Either way, let’s go for it"

On April 26th I answered "I can be available Saturday night. My flight on Monday is really early and I’ve gotta pack up all the training materials etc., that I’m traveling with Sunday night so that night is out."

 

At this point I did something that I thought was pretty creative and a great way to communicate my wants/needs/fantasies that I hoped the evening would provide. I did it by pre-writing a Daddy's review. I then sent it to Mocha reminding him of one of the mottos of the boards here "communication".

 

At this point I had purchased a quite nice bottle of Pinot Grigio which I remembered he liked and had identified a nearby restaurant that I knew and loved for dinner and had managed to weasel out of a dinner business meeting. I had also tired like hell to remember (and research here on the forum) what his favorite lube is. I remember a thread a long time ago about him having a bottle swiped. I thought I was being pretty thoughtful to remember the wine he likes and the lube thing. I also remembered he likes spiced bourbon with OJ. I offered to have an Uber pick him up and deliver him back in case, like me, he was planning on drinking.

 

So I spent Friday night, not having a date with Mocha but editing a bunch of videos which took me till 230a

 

April 27th Saturday just after noon I get a text "Just a little heads up on my end 7p may be too soon for me to meet . I will be traveling this afternoon."

My answer "I just really need to be crashed out by midnight....." In my mind this is starting to sound a LOT like the previous meeting we had.

I asked "so what do you think is a realistic time for tonight?"

His answer: "9:30-10p. I'm supposed to be getting into Orlando around 745p" At this point I didn't know he was driving and assumed the airlines had really fucked him over.

My Answer: "That's going to be too late. I was really hoping for the whole evening thing"

He offered a prorated all night rate. If I had been on vacation I would have jumped at the chance but an overnight does me no good. He also offered Sunday anytime but there was no way I was going to try to make that work.

At that point he joked that he had something that would keep me up (just to be clear we're not talking drugs here). He said "Florida nights end at 4a LOL"

My answer: (still thinking we're now looking at 930-10), "I'll be ready. We can still start with drinks at the lobby bar. My floor is card access only"

He wondered if there was another restaurant in the area that was open later as he would be hungry when he got there.

At 9:30p I texted him asking how he was doing on time?

He said he was hoping before midnight but was "pushing almost 1130p"

I told I can't go on for a second night of only a couple of hours of sleep.

He texted around 1140p asking if there was anyway we could get together on sunday.

 

Dude, if you'd been driving for 9 hours or whatever you said upthread here do you really think you would have been down for a several hours of time with me?

 

In the meantime having "prepped" my self for what I was hoping would be a wonderful couple of hours enjoying my favorite hobby (black dick), I had hopped on Rentmen and discovered a very hot black top that was nearby and ready. Made the call, he was there in a few minutes. It wasn't the passionate evening I had hoped for but wow did he deliver when it came to black dick. And I was indeed crashed out before 1a.

 

When I mentioned that I had hired someone else I just wasn't thinking about how much that sounded like I was bragging about it. Part of it was to be clear that I had now used funds that I had planned for our evening. I can see where I come off sounding like a dick by saying anything about it.

 

So that's my side of all this. Unfortunately this is now two times that I've really tried to put together an awesome evening and it just didn't work out. I think I'll stick to one hour and done from now on.

[+ VictorPowers]

@tanman4u I still think you were justified in moving on. If the roles were reveresed, I'll bet @Mocha would have taken a different client after a few hours of delays.

[TXDav]

There's always two sides to every story. With the actual client's post, many of my questions were answered . Presented with those circumstances, I might have done the same thing. Although, it would have been more likely that I cancelled right away instead of moving it to later that evening. This situation goes beyond just moving the appointment time. I think the client lost all confidence that the appointment was actually going to happen, as the window of opportunity was quickly closing. I can't say that I blame him. I would' ve liked to know that the provider was driving 9 hours. I think it would have affected his performance and I would have never scheduled this.