How do someone become a Good Escort?

[Caramel_Finest973]

Hey Guys, I've been going through some things in life recently and I'm not proud of what's become of myself. I, most of the times, hate my life due to things that happened a few months ago and I'm just in need of money, because I'm in debt with things and I fear of my credit and stuff continuously going downhill cause of no payments. But I just wanted to know from a few escorts or whoever who are good at what they do and knows exactly what and how to do it, How do I become a good escort? I tried rent men before but I barely got online due to me working a lot before and not paying attention to it as much but I wouldn't mind trying it again. I sometimes use Grindr to find guys who would pay for the experience and that's been kind of tricky, because of my location. I can't host and barely have a car to use to do meet with them. I used to have a car of my own but it's gone and I just needed money so desperately and STILL do. I sometimes cry about my money issues and hate the fact that I can't do nothing about it. I'm try not to rant about that though, but I'm asking for advice or anything I can take to help myself try and have some money in my pockets. I would really appreciate it. A friend actually told me to come to this site and read some of the stories and things and now I'm really curious about it since it's been in my mind for so long. I feel like I can have a conversation with guys who understand or went through the same path or whatever without being judged or thought of differently.

 

Hope to hear from you guys. (:

[Bearofdistinction]

By reading the tread below and following the sagacious Advise provided just last week to another newbie who did not bother to read or reply --- NO NEED TO REINVENT THE WHEEL AGAIN!!

 

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/i-want-to-move-to-new-york-and-commit-to-escorting.134417/page-3#post-1482878

 

Good Lick!

[BaronArtz]

Are you near a Walmart or a Target? Go stand for an hour or so at the entrance of a store like that and look at all the men entering or leaving. Any of them could be your prospective client. How do you feel about being stark naked in a room with any of them? Can you deal with any of them fondling your genitals? Can you imagine kissing them? Will be able to get aroused and have sex with them - top or bottom?

 

These are the questions you should ask yourself - in all honesty.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Going into escorting out of sheer desperation is not what I would call the right motivation.

 

Be careful with yourself: The decisions you make now will have consequences for a long, long time.

[Bearofdistinction]

Going into escorting out of sheer desperation is not what I would call the right motivation.

 

Be careful with yourself: The decisions you make now will have consequences for a long, long time.

 

Also the thread should be titled "How Does . . . " Not How Do . . . " Spelling and Grammar do matter!

[bigvalboy]

Hey Guys, I've been going through some things in life recently and I'm not proud of what's become of myself. I, most of the times, hate my life due to things that happened a few months ago and I'm just in need of money, because I'm in debt with things and I fear of my credit and stuff continuously going downhill cause of no payments. But I just wanted to know from a few escorts or whoever who are good at what they do and knows exactly what and how to do it, How do I become a good escort? I tried rent men before but I barely got online due to me working a lot before and not paying attention to it as much but I wouldn't mind trying it again. I sometimes use Grindr to find guys who would pay for the experience and that's been kind of tricky, because of my location. I can't host and barely have a car to use to do meet with them. I used to have a car of my own but it's gone and I just needed money so desperately and STILL do. I sometimes cry about my money issues and hate the fact that I can't do nothing about it. I'm try not to rant about that though, but I'm asking for advice or anything I can take to help myself try and have some money in my pockets. I would really appreciate it. A friend actually told me to come to this site and read some of the stories and things and now I'm really curious about it since it's been in my mind for so long. I feel like I can have a conversation with guys who understand or went through the same path or whatever without being judged or thought of differently.

 

Hope to hear from you guys.

 

Whatever happened to you a few months ago sounds like it has derailed your life, and without specifics, it is difficult to give concrete advice. What I do know is that you make terrible decisions when you're hungry. I would find a small job first. Flip hamburgers if you have to, but bring in some kind of income. Concentrate on keeping a roof over your head, food on the table, and stabilize your life first before you make hard decisions about escorting. @BaronArtz speaks the truth. Harsh perhaps, but it's the reality.

 

Lots of good guys on here, excellent advice...Good luck.

Edited March 25, 2018 by bigvalboy

[crushme99]

Also the thread should be titled "How Does . . . " Not How Do . . . " Spelling and Grammar do matter!

 

You be right, Bearofdistinction.

[mike carey]

Also the thread should be titled "How Does . . . " Not How Do . . . " Spelling and Grammar do matter!

Ok you may shoot me but, 'Also the thread should be titled "How Does . . ." not "How Do . . . " Spelling and Grammar do matter!'

[i probably should have put some commas in there too.]

[Bearofdistinction]

Ok you may shoot me but, 'Also the thread should be titled "How Does . . ." not "How Do . . . " Spelling and Grammar do matter!'

[i probably should have put some commas in there too.]

 

Punctuation kills the creativity which is why there are editors as well as authors.

[Mocha]

Hey Guys, I've been going through some things in life recently and I'm not proud of what's become of myself. I, most of the times, hate my life due to things that happened a few months ago and I'm just in need of money, because I'm in debt with things and I fear of my credit and stuff continuously going downhill cause of no payments. But I just wanted to know from a few escorts or whoever who are good at what they do and knows exactly what and how to do it, How do I become a good escort? I tried rent men before but I barely got online due to me working a lot before and not paying attention to it as much but I wouldn't mind trying it again. I sometimes use Grindr to find guys who would pay for the experience and that's been kind of tricky, because of my location. I can't host and barely have a car to use to do meet with them. I used to have a car of my own but it's gone and I just needed money so desperately and STILL do. I sometimes cry about my money issues and hate the fact that I can't do nothing about it. I'm try not to rant about that though, but I'm asking for advice or anything I can take to help myself try and have some money in my pockets. I would really appreciate it. A friend actually told me to come to this site and read some of the stories and things and now I'm really curious about it since it's been in my mind for so long. I feel like I can have a conversation with guys who understand or went through the same path or whatever without being judged or thought of differently.

 

Hope to hear from you guys.

 

It sounds like your situation is certainly a struggle. Don't expect the people here to understand your plight. Most of them mainly want to coddle up/backpat for these White hoes, so don't expect to get genuine advice on here. It'll likely be riddled with condescending and mockery. Trust me, I deal with everytime I post.

 

As for advice: not hosting or having a car can definitely be a roadblock in this business. You usually have to have one or the other....but is not REQUIRED. If you can get from point A to point B in an area of good mass transit, that's all it takes. Many clients can host. I don't even do incalls right now, and haven't for the past 2 months. Having an incall just boosts your ability for last minute clients. Even when I had a place to host, it was roughly 60/40 incall and outcall. The biggest bank was and always has been, outcalls (hotel visitors especially).

 

For now though, the business is kinda shaky. I'm not going to lie to you, and don't let these guys lie to you either. They'll talk about how much they make and blah blah blah. Fact is, it takes patience, good marketing and consistent self-work to elevate in this business. And travel. Getting a gym membership and taking supplements to replenish your seed will keep you ready for the next client. You don't have to be a porn star, just have to bring what you offer to the table.

 

That said, have you considered signing up for classes and looking into grants/loans, etc? FAFSA.com is a good place to start. I won't get into the specifics, but there's so many grants and loans out there (and who doesn't have student loan debt at some point in life???). It would atleast get you a lump sum to get a place/car, and then you can go from there.

 

However, I will agree with @Benjamin_Nicholas, you don't want to come in desperate...because that opens the door for wanting to receive less pay, and possibly get into stickier situations. It's okay to need the money, but don't let it devalue your safety and morals.

 

Are you near a Walmart or a Target? Go stand for an hour or so at the entrance of a store like that and look at all the men entering or leaving. Any of them could be your prospective client. How do you feel about being stark naked in a room with any of them? Can you deal with any of them fondling your genitals? Can you imagine kissing them? Will be able to get aroused and have sex with them - top or bottom?

 

These are the questions you should ask yourself - in all honesty.

 

What a crock of crap. Most of my clients don't even shop at Walmart. You'll never see them there. Target maybe, but even then the average person you'd see walking into a store has an unlikely chance of being a client.

 

My first 2 clients were attractive, fit men. One was Colombian and the other White. My second client was a decent looking black dude who invited me over to fuck another escort. Those were the days! People would call, and you knew you had to put that work in.

 

Walking around in the general public imagining who would be a client is about as pointless as walking around wondering who would be a male escort. Those imaginary "male escorts" could be conservative church kids, somebodies baby daddy, or some straight frat boy who privately bashes gay sex. It just doesn't work.

Edited March 25, 2018 by Mocha

[Mocha]

Whatever happened to you a few months ago sounds like it has derailed your life, and without specifics, it is difficult to give concrete advice. What I do know is that you make terrible decisions when you're hungry. I would find a small job first. Flip hamburgers if you have to, but bring in some kind of income. Concentrate on keeping a roof over your head, food on the table, and stabilize your life first before you make hard decisions about escorting. @BaronArtz speaks the truth. Harsh perhaps, but it's the reality.

 

Lots of good guys on here, excellent advice...Good luck.

 

Ok, but who in that position has time to wait on an interview, wait to get hired, then work for 5 days and not see a paycheck until a week later? Hell mother-fucking nah. Would you tell one of your favorite White escorts to go flip burgers, if they wounded up in a jam? Hell mother fucking no. You'd be talking about how you'd love to pay them $5,000 if you could afford it.

 

That's what I told one of the former members here. Don't tell someone to get a job, when this business can get you paid within 30-60 minutes. Last year I needed $250 to get my car fixed. The SAME DAY. I went and pulled 1 massage client and 1 repeat client WHILE the mechanic was working on it. And I had them come to my hotel. Having a regular job, I'd of been unable to go to work, and probably got fired.

 

He's asking how to become a good escort, not for alternatives to being an escort.

[Caramel_Finest973]

Are you near a Walmart or a Target? Go stand for an hour or so at the entrance of a store like that and look at all the men entering or leaving. Any of them could be your prospective client. How do you feel about being stark naked in a room with any of them? Can you deal with any of them fondling your genitals? Can you imagine kissing them? Will be able to get aroused and have sex with them - top or bottom?

 

These are the questions you should ask yourself - in all honesty.

 

 

The nearest Walmart is in Kearny from me but I have no way of getting there. It's kind of a struggle for me. And shit, I'll mess with a lot of guys that'll come in and out of that Walmart (; .

[Caramel_Finest973]

Going into escorting out of sheer desperation is not what I would call the right motivation.

 

Be careful with yourself: The decisions you make now will have consequences for a long, long time.

Yeah , I know. That's what stop me from time to time.

[Caramel_Finest973]

By reading the tread below and following the sagacious Advise provided just last week to another newbie who did not bother to read or reply --- NO NEED TO REINVENT THE WHEEL AGAIN!!

 

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/i-want-to-move-to-new-york-and-commit-to-escorting.134417/page-3#post-1482878

 

Good Lick!

Thank you .

[Caramel_Finest973]

Whatever happened to you a few months ago sounds like it has derailed your life, and without specifics, it is difficult to give concrete advice. What I do know is that you make terrible decisions when you're hungry. I would find a small job first. Flip hamburgers if you have to, but bring in some kind of income. Concentrate on keeping a roof over your head, food on the table, and stabilize your life first before you make hard decisions about escorting. @BaronArtz speaks the truth. Harsh perhaps, but it's the reality.

 

Lots of good guys on here, excellent advice...Good luck.

 

thanks. I thought about it and I have a job coming soon this week so that can be a start for me. And I know haha. He's really honest so I understand.

[Caramel_Finest973]

Ok, but who in that position has time to wait on an interview, wait to get hired, then work for 5 days and not see a paycheck until a week later? Hell mother-fucking nah. Would you tell one of your favorite White escorts to go flip burgers, if they wounded up in a jam? Hell mother fucking no. You'd be talking about how you'd love to pay them $5,000 if you could afford it.

 

That's what I told one of the former members here. Don't tell someone to get a job, when this business can get you paid within 30-60 minutes. Last year I needed $250 to get my car fixed. The SAME DAY. I went and pulled 1 massage client and 1 repeat client WHILE the mechanic was working on it. And I had them come to my hotel. Having a regular job, I'd of been unable to go to work, and probably got fired.

 

He's asking how to become a good escort, not for alternatives to being an escort.

 

SHit, If I could make that in a week without working, I'll love that shit lol. Having a regular job ain't really nothing if I could make 5,000 in a week . That's crazy .

[bigvalboy]

thanks. I thought about it and I have a job coming soon this week so that can be a start for me. And I know haha. He's really honest so I understand.

Good to hear. I hope things turn around for you. I've been there a time or two in my life, so I know digging out from upheaval and setbacks is a long road...

[bigvalboy]

Ok, but who in that position has time to wait on an interview, wait to get hired, then work for 5 days and not see a paycheck until a week later? Hell mother-fucking nah. Would you tell one of your favorite White escorts to go flip burgers, if they wounded up in a jam? Hell mother fucking no. You'd be talking about how you'd love to pay them $5,000 if you could afford it.

 

That's what I told one of the former members here. Don't tell someone to get a job, when this business can get you paid within 30-60 minutes. Last year I needed $250 to get my car fixed. The SAME DAY. I went and pulled 1 massage client and 1 repeat client WHILE the mechanic was working on it. And I had them come to my hotel. Having a regular job, I'd of been unable to go to work, and probably got fired.

 

He's asking how to become a good escort, not for alternatives to being an escort.

 

You completely missed the point...

[Walker1]

Hey Guys, I've been going through some things in life recently and I'm not proud of what's become of myself. I, most of the times, hate my life due to things that happened a few months ago and I'm just in need of money, because I'm in debt with things and I fear of my credit and stuff continuously going downhill cause of no payments. But I just wanted to know from a few escorts or whoever who are good at what they do and knows exactly what and how to do it, How do I become a good escort? I tried rent men before but I barely got online due to me working a lot before and not paying attention to it as much but I wouldn't mind trying it again. I sometimes use Grindr to find guys who would pay for the experience and that's been kind of tricky, because of my location. I can't host and barely have a car to use to do meet with them. I used to have a car of my own but it's gone and I just needed money so desperately and STILL do. I sometimes cry about my money issues and hate the fact that I can't do nothing about it. I'm try not to rant about that though, but I'm asking for advice or anything I can take to help myself try and have some money in my pockets. I would really appreciate it. A friend actually told me to come to this site and read some of the stories and things and now I'm really curious about it since it's been in my mind for so long. I feel like I can have a conversation with guys who understand or went through the same path or whatever without being judged or thought of differently.

 

Hope to hear from you guys.

Just relax, go for a hike or whatever it is you do to calm yourself down. Some of us have been there. There was a time when I was younger when I was living off ramen and was down to using pennies to buy a 1 dollar noodle packet.

 

Donald Trump has declared bankruptcy multiple times It happens. Figure out something temporary-live/board situation where you work and get everything in return and some extra money. Then think of options, can you pay off your debt with interest and fines or bankruptcy-not the best, but an option.

 

If you are getting into escorting, fine- but you seem to be desperate now. just be careful about bareback, drugs etc. -things you may be willing to take a risk on now, but may regret later.

 

I do enjoy escorts, but make sure that is what you want to do. All of us sell out in some way-work in dead end soul crushing jobs and we have to sit there 9-5 or longer. Do what you have to, but there are always options and be safe-desperation leads you to do very risky things.

Edited March 25, 2018 by Walker1

[+ freecahill1965]

Yeah , I know. That's what stop me from time to time.

If it is of interest to try, why not do both. Get a job and try escorting in the evenings or when your off. It could put a few extra bucks in your pocket and you can see if you like it.

[FTM Zachary Prince]

Practice makes perfect!

 

But seriously, being an escort is running a business. In business, you have to invest money to make money. If you can’t even afford $10-20 to book an Uber or a Lyft to get around, then you’re NOT in the position to start escorting successfully.

 

I understand that you need money, but it seems like you think escorting is gonna be easier or faster money than most other jobs. It’s not the case unless you work in an extremely reckless way. It takes time to build a client base and you have to invest your own money for advertising and transportation to reach them.

 

Yes it’s true that eventually, an established professional can make quick cash same-day and that’s very convenient. But no NEWBIE is gonna be able to find two clients same-day to make hundreds of dollars to cover a car bill. That is the perk of being an EXPERIENCED escort.

 

Yes getting a pay check job does involve a wait to get paid. You have to work for two weeks, maybe wait another week to get that pay check. A two week wait for what? $500-700? Sure, it SOUNDS like an escort can make more money and faster, but how many escorts invest $60 into a RM ad and $50 into a burner phone only to get just 1-2 clients their first month of work? Tons of them. Let’s say $200 each and be generous and say first month there was 2 clients. $20 uber expenses for each client. $400 - $150 investment = $350 of profit for the first month of being an escort. Sort of makes the hourly pay check job look like a damn good option. This isn’t an abnormal experience for new escorts.

 

If your panic is about DEBT and CREDIT SCORE, just get a grip on yourself. Tons of people are in lots of debt and have bad credit. You just need to get over it and accept that this is going to be the case for you for now. Put that shit on the back burner and focus on getting your basic life needs together. You need housing, transportation, food, etc. If all that is provided for you then quit panicking.

 

Your desperation is absolutely a dangerous factor as you consider entering the industry. You should not try to escort until it disappears; otherwise you will make bad decisions and subject yourself unneccesarily to negative experiences. Have a clear business-oriented approach to escorting and you can succeed. But as with any business, you will operate in the red at first and it will take time for you to draw a profit, especially a profit that beats a wage job.

 

Approaching this as the business endeavour that it is rather than a quick and easy way to make money is what will make you a good escort. That and lots of practice. Best of luck.

[Mocha]

If your panic is about DEBT and CREDIT SCORE, just get a grip on yourself. Tons of people are in lots of debt and have bad credit. You just need to get over it and accept that this is going to be the case for you for now. Put that shit on the back burner and focus on getting your basic life needs together. You need housing, transportation, food, etc. If all that is provided for you then quit panicking.

 

Exactly. All a good credit score means, is that you're more qualified to acquire more debt. Ain't that some shit? However, he says he doesn't have place to host or transportation...so maybe he doesn't have those basic necessities.

 

And like I said, even despite what I mentioned...the business is going to be different depending on where and who you are. Last year I was in a different area than I am currently. In some areas, one is lucky to get the clients one gets throughout the week/month, because the rest of these mofos are full of SH...and like I said elsewhere, we as black escorts probably deal with it more.

 

That's why I'm extra tougher now than ever, and before I started.

Edited March 25, 2018 by Mocha

[Populist Fury]

Yeah, don't let the credit bullies get you down. Most people have debt & manage to get out of it eventually, others simply learn to live with it. Don't let it affect you emotionally, it's not worth the stress. #StayStrong & GL w/ escorting if you choose to go into it. <3

[Caramel_Finest973]

Just relax, go for a hike or whatever it is you do to calm yourself down. Some of us have been there. There was a time when I was younger when I was living off ramen and was down to using pennies to buy a 1 dollar noodle packet.

 

Donald Trump has declared bankruptcy multiple times It happens. Figure out something temporary-live/board situation where you work and get everything in return and some extra money. Then think of options, can you pay off your debt with interest and fines or bankruptcy-not the best, but an option.

 

If you are getting into escorting, fine- but you seem to be desperate now. just be careful about bareback, drugs etc. -things you may be willing to take a risk on now, but may regret later.

 

I do enjoy escorts, but make sure that is what you want to do. All of us sell out in some way-work in dead end soul crushing jobs and we have to sit there 9-5 or longer. Do what you have to, but there are always options and be safe-desperation leads you to do very risky things.

I try to look for more options but I never know where to start with new thoughts and stuff. It always end up bad or don't go the way I wanted things to do. It's a struggle most of the time.

[Caramel_Finest973]

If it is of interest to try, why not do both. Get a job and try escorting in the evenings or when your off. It could put a few extra bucks in your pocket and you can see if you like it.

I actually thought of that but I still don't know where or how to start it off. That's where I'm stuck at. Before, like a year ago, this guy used to pay me just to let him suck me off but now I don't have no way to travel to him to do it again. It was definitely little pocket money from time to time.