A difficult situation

[+ Jamesp]

Has anyone experienced a situation where a very sensual massage instead of ending with HE gets really happier ? I am really uncomfortable when that happens and gets into unsafe zone. It has happened to me few time when masseur decides to straddle and HE suddenly turns into Sad situation.

 

Is there a right lingo to use for clear message without sounding demanding and not turning massage being freezing cold?

[tsgarp]

Just be clear about your boundaries if the masseur starts to go past them; do it in a kind and friendly way and most will understand. It's less of a big deal than I suspect you're making it.

[+ Jamesp]

Just be clear about your boundaries if the masseur starts to go past them; do it in a kind and friendly way and most will understand. It's less of a big deal than I suspect you're making it.

May be its me. I am a bit nervous about turning a wonderful session into uncomfortable situation.

[Webster]

It has happened a couple of times to me as well but in both cases the guys were very cool with my boundaries and things carried on just fine. If that's not the case with your situation then you may need to find masseurs that can respect your limits.

[Guest InthePines]

I hear you and my guess is you're now thinking of the time, money and potential necessity of a follow up doctor's visit which in not what you were banking on when you scheduled the massage. You wanted an interactive masseur, not an escort and those lines would not have been blurred had he simply asked. You simply have to say no, ( body language usually works), and find another masseur.

[+ muscleboyinsd]

I've had that happen to me before. I usually just say something like, "This is really hot, but I don't really want to go that far". I've never had a bad reaction from letting them know.

[+ muscleboyinsd]

That being said, there are times when I just go with it because the guy is super hot or everything just feels sexually right!

[ScottLMT]

Yeah just state what you aren't comfortable and they should respect that.

"The customer is always right!"

[+ poolboy48220]

Call me what you will, but I can't remember ever objecting to something going farther. :-D

[+ beethoven]

I've said this before in reply to other questions, and it has always worked in all aspects of life: honestly, politeness, and respect. If you're getting a massage and you don't want it to go further, just say so: politely and respectfully.

[ontheroad]

Agreed. This happened a few times and I just say, “I’d love to but I can’t” and then I grab it and gently move it away from his (.(

 

I’ve never ever had an issue.

[river]

To all of you who had the willpower to say no, I give you credit!

It has happened to me several times and i was only able to say no once because masseur looked nothing like his pics.

But the other times?.... Couldn't do it. It might have been easier to stop a freight train.

[ontheroad]

Just curious...are you pretty hung?

[+ Jamesp]

Just curious...are you pretty hung?

thats a relative question. I don't think anyone will answer NO to this question. I will be honest and will say average based on my experience so far.

Edited March 1, 2018 by Jamesp

[PaulM]

It's happened a few times - years ago, I would go with the flow and enjoy it (if I wanted it to continue). Other times, I politely say I have a hands only rule and that usually turns into a different fun time. Never had anyone get offended. I do the same if I'm not looking for oral and the masseur wants to do it or positions their cock in my face. Again, no one has ever had an issue. There's always a way to have safe fun

[ontheroad]

thats a relative questions. I don't think anyone will answer NO to this question. I will be honest and will say average based on my experience so far.

 

I only ask because I’ve had a few that say oh I have to have that inside of me. And my reaction (inside) is “really? Huh.”

[PaulM]

@ontheroad must be hung!

[ontheroad]

Nice girth. How’s that? Lol

[+ EVdude]

Is there a right lingo to use for clear message without sounding demanding and not turning massage being freezing cold?

Ask him if he’ll send you flowers in the morning?

[gallahadesquire]

Ask him if he’ll send you flowers in the morning?

... or chocolates ...

[Kody S]

The opposite has also been discussed here before I think— when the masseur is really hot and gets nude suggesting the possibility of something more interactive but never goes there, or anywhere close, no MT or body contact. The whole thing winds up being frustrating and feeling like a tease you didn’t ask for. There can be a charge wondering where it’s going, but when it winds up being DIY or just cold as ice... not good. Discussion up front of course helps set boundaries and expectations but that doesn’t always account for all the body “negotiations” that go on during the actual Massage. I find it get gets more complicated than I want.... which is to relax! Lol.

[samK]

Has anyone experienced a situation where a very sensual massage instead of ending with HE gets really happier ? I am really uncomfortable when that happens and gets into unsafe zone. It has happened to me few time when masseur decides to straddle and HE suddenly turns into Sad situation.

 

Is there a right lingo to use for clear message without sounding demanding and not turning massage being freezing cold?

 

I have been faced with this once and regardless to how much I said "No" "Please stop" he continued... it was the only time I have ever gone limp during sex, but I just wanted him off of me. I am a little guy and being held down, slapped in the face and ridden as the customer... was not what I wanted or even asked for. Oddly enough, I interrogate the masseur to find out if they are licensed, legit and only offer massage services. (then I arrive and they ask if I need a drape!??!)

 

This is when I started searching to find honest reviews and real people like the ones here to find out more about others experiences before booking a masseur. Thankfully I found this forum. I realize everyone is looking for something, I don't judge it but I am thankful for everyone honesty and experiences. It makes me feel safer. -xx

[+ Gar1eth]

Just curious...are you pretty hung?

 

thats a relative question. I don't think anyone will answer NO to this question. I will be honest and will say average based on my experience so far.

 

 

I know it’s not the point of this thread, but I’m going to have correct you about this. While sure I’d like to say I am hung, it wouldn’t be true. I’m on the short side of normal at about 5”. It’s incredible how when you look at a ruler 1 to 2 inches doesn’t seem like a lot. But in tallywacker length an inch really is a mile. If I were even 6”, it would be so much easier to top.

 

And now back to the thread’s subject-already in progress.

 

Gman

[MikeBiDude]

Just curious...are you pretty hung?

Enabling a stereotype? I’m NOT hung and the scenario has happened to me often

[ontheroad]

Enabling a stereotype? I’m NOT hung and the scenario has happened to me often

I guess as the saying goes, if the c**k fits....sit on it....or maybe here if it doesn’t fit, try to.