Making a Connection? Or Just Getting Sweaty

[+ Keith30309]

After thumbing thru a bunch of Forum posts and RM profiles like my gum-popping mom sitting under a beauty shop hairdryer reading The Inquirer, I stumbled across a jolting, refreshing set of observations by Tylerthebadwolf. It’s something that really struck a nerve because it seems so obvious yet elusive:

 

"For all of the hardcore, bareback, fuck-me-in-the-ass porn that exists in all the mansex world, it seems that what men want (without realizing that they want it) is

to be connected

. Connected to another human; another man."

 

If your thing is ejaculating into a wet hole or being ejaculated into then more power to you and have at it with sweaty gusto. I’ll even hold the flashlight.

 

But the game seems lopsided.

I read RM profiles by "heavy shooters" with close-up, bareback videos that look like Soviet-era industrial safety films and read discussions here about who didn't get hard and who didn't cum and wonder if I'm missing something.

 

What I want to do is make a brief connection with someone... to freely give and receive affection, holding eye contact and happy simply for the moment of the shared experience. Most profiles & videos I see tell me something about someone's anatomy but what I really want to see is something about who they really are and how capable they are of making a connection with me.

 

I'm not trying to change anyone's mind about what they should enjoy - to each their own. Please enjoy.

 

What I would like to do is give a word of encouragement to the escorts who are genuinely interested in creating a connection with their clients. It's so rewarding to find a guy who understands and values this and, I think, it's more rewarding for those escort too.

 

 

"...what you’re sharing with that other man is intensely personal and very often private. Something about which they may have all sorts of conflicted feelings: shame, guilt, fear, sadness, elation. You can’t do anything about their feelings, but you can be open and receptive and those are the keys to connected sexual interaction. You can be excited and you can let their expressions of pleasure enhance your own...:"

Tyler gets the trophy for "Most Insightful Observation Of The Day".

(please don't sue me for copyright infringement)

[+ Autumnal]

What I want to do is make a brief connection with someone... to freely give and receive affection, holding eye contact and happy simply for the moment of the shared experience.

As a client this is exactly what I want - no more, no less. Thank you for putting my desires into words.

[youngboldone]

I couldn't have said it better, Keith. A meaningful connection is what's most important to me.

[+ nycman]

Yeah.....

 

I just wanna fuck.

[corndog]

And, of all your words, the one that resonates is "elusive."

[+ OliverSaks]

That @tylerthebadwolf is a dreamboat.

[big-n-tall]

Why can't it be both? There are a few guys I believe I've made close connections with and have hot sweaty sex to boot.

[+ tylerthebadwolf]

Thank you for reading all of that, Keith. And for finding some meaning in it.

 

 

 

 

-t

 

 

 

After thumbing thru a bunch of Forum posts and RM profiles like my gum-popping mom sitting under a beauty shop hairdryer reading The Inquirer, I stumbled across a jolting, refreshing set of observations by Tylerthebadwolf. It’s something that really struck a nerve because it seems so obvious yet elusive:

 

"For all of the hardcore, bareback, fuck-me-in-the-ass porn that exists in all the mansex world, it seems that what men want (without realizing that they want it) is

to be connected

. Connected to another human; another man."

 

If your thing is ejaculating into a wet hole or being ejaculated into then more power to you and have at it with sweaty gusto. I’ll even hold the flashlight.

 

But the game seems lopsided.

I read RM profiles by "heavy shooters" with close-up, bareback videos that look like Soviet-era industrial safety films and read discussions here about who didn't get hard and who didn't cum and wonder if I'm missing something.

 

What I want to do is make a brief connection with someone... to freely give and receive affection, holding eye contact and happy simply for the moment of the shared experience. Most profiles & videos I see tell me something about someone's anatomy but what I really want to see is something about who they really are and how capable they are of making a connection with me.

 

I'm not trying to change anyone's mind about what they should enjoy - to each their own. Please enjoy.

 

What I would like to do is give a word of encouragement to the escorts who are genuinely interested in creating a connection with their clients. It's so rewarding to find a guy who understands and values this and, I think, it's more rewarding for those escort too.

 

 

"...what you’re sharing with that other man is intensely personal and very often private. Something about which they may have all sorts of conflicted feelings: shame, guilt, fear, sadness, elation. You can’t do anything about their feelings, but you can be open and receptive and those are the keys to connected sexual interaction. You can be excited and you can let their expressions of pleasure enhance your own...:"

Tyler gets the trophy for "Most Insightful Observation Of The Day".

(please don't sue me for copyright infringement)

[+ tylerthebadwolf]

That @tylerthebadwolf is a dreamboat.

 

 

YOU are!

 

-t

[HotWhiteThirties]

Why can't it be both? There are a few guys I believe I've made close connections with and have hot sweaty sex to boot.

I think it can be both. For me it has been anyway, but if I had to choose one over the other, connection is key. It sets the stage and foundation for the hot and sweaty sex when there is respect, warmth, and connection. It allows me to let myself go and enjoy it.

[+ StLouisOct]

Well said, by both you and Tyler. I’ve had hot, sweaty and intense without connection. Jacking off is intense too. But nothing is as good as an experience with a connection and it’s great to find an escort worth meeting with again because of that feeling.

[Cyd_StVincent]

The vast majority of my encounters contain some kind of emotional as well as physical interchange. Maybe my genitalia precludes the 'pound town sans anything else' crowd, but I do feel like the vast majority of my clients are interested in at least an affectionate conversation if not holding hands while we fuck.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Cultivating a group of clients who all share 'wanting a connection' as the common bond is what has made my time as an escort fantastic

 

I knew from very early on that this is what I wanted. It's not for everyone.