Effective communication with escorts

[Aaron_Bauder]

A client complained to me this morning, "You're the first guy who actually took time to chat and be friendly with me for a while before meeting, most escorts are so impatient." I was frank and told him I'd just taken a couple days off to recharge, and that's why I was less impatient with his 45+ minutes of back-and-forth texting.

 

I asked him to consider that escorts daily have to deal with so many time wasters, phonies, and pic collectors that what he reads as impatience is likely just directness. I explained that clear, complete, direct communication when initating contact might get a better result than endless small talk:

 

Text or Call 1: "Hi I'm xxx/age/marital status/pertinent info as discretion permits, saw your profile on yyy. I think you're hot/sexy/other info indicating you've bothered to read ad.

Text 2 I'm into topping/bottoming/zzz. If you're into that, are you available to meet 0:00 am/pm at bbb location for ccc long, and what's the donation for your time?"

Texts 3+ Foreplay mixed with expection, limits, and confirmation ASAP. Bam!

 

That's how you know a lead is sane, smart, sensitive, and serious. I feel this is common sense basic human communication. But it must not be that simple because this is not the case most times, and that's why some escorts become short and direct.

 

So I would say:

1. Initiate with who you are and where you got the provider's info. If a valid response to your first text could be "Who are you?" then you're doing it wrong. Would you cold call any other business with just "Hi" and then dead air?

2. Demonstrate you've actually read the ad, which requires actually reading the ad. Asking for missing info or clarification on a few things, cool. Asking a provider to recite his entire ad/stats for you, nah.

3. Be direct early about what you're looking for in-session.

4. Be direct early about when/where you'd prefer to meet and for how long.

5. Small-talk, foreplay, compliments are cool...to a point. You're probably the 300th person (not just client, person) this week to tell this dude how hot and sexy he is. It's appreciated (really), but no need to be tedious: he knows others find him goodlooking, that's why he's an escort.

6. Do not expect providers to have extended text or phone sex with you, certainly not with new clients and/or before you meeting is setup and confirmed. (See above.)

 

Problem is the guys who need this info mostly aren't on these forums.

[mike carey]

I know I've made the mistake of moving from one mode (where the person knew who I was) to another and forgetting to link the new conversation to the one I had been conducting on the other mode by saying who I was. Also, of contacting someone new on WhatsApp where I'm so used to my conversations being with the same people (so where my name shows up on their screen) that I forget that the text is completely anonymous to the person I've just contacted.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

A client complained to me this morning, "You're the first guy who actually took time to chat and be friendly with me for a while before meeting, most escorts are so impatient." I was frank and told him I'd just taken a couple days off to recharge, and that's why I was less impatient with his 45+ minutes of back-and-forth texting.

 

I asked him to consider that escorts daily have to deal with so many time wasters, phonies, and pic collectors that what he reads as impatience is likely just directness. I explained that clear, complete, direct communication when initating contact might get a better result than endless small talk:

 

Text or Call 1: "Hi I'm xxx/age/marital status/pertinent info as discretion permits, saw your profile on yyy. I think you're hot/sexy/other info indicating you've bothered to read ad.

Text 2 I'm into topping/bottoming/zzz. If you're into that, are you available to meet 0:00 am/pm at bbb location for ccc long, and what's the donation for your time?"

Texts 3+ Foreplay mixed with expection, limits, and confirmation ASAP. Bam!

 

That's how you know a lead is sane, smart, sensitive, and serious. I feel this is common sense basic human communication. But it must not be that simple because this is not the case most times, and that's why some escorts become short and direct.

 

So I would say:

1. Initiate with who you are and where you got the provider's info. If a valid response to your first text could be "Who are you?" then you're doing it wrong. Would you cold call any other business with just "Hi" and then dead air?

2. Demonstrate you've actually read the ad, which requires actually reading the ad. Asking for missing info or clarification on a few things, cool. Asking a provider to recite his entire ad/stats for you, nah.

3. Be direct early about what you're looking for in-session.

4. Be direct early about when/where you'd prefer to meet and for how long.

5. Small-talk, foreplay, compliments are cool...to a point. You're probably the 300th person (not just client, person) this week to tell this dude how hot and sexy he is. It's appreciated (really), but no need to be tedious: he knows others find him goodlooking, that's why he's an escort.

6. Do not expect providers to have extended text or phone sex with you, certainly not with new clients and/or before you meeting is setup and confirmed. (See above.)

 

Problem is the guys who need this info mostly aren't on these forums.

Very good one, Aaron, I fully approve, but also, if I ask 2 questions my escort should not reply "yes". I have 2 questions and his text just says "yes".

Which question are you answering??? And what is the answer to the other question??? Arrrgh!!!

[+ Kufrol]

I try to avoid asking bifurcated questions.

[Kevin Slater]

Very good one, Aaron, I fully approve, but also, if I ask 2 questions my escort should not reply "yes". I have 2 questions and his text just says "yes".

Which question are you answering??? And what is the answer to the other question??? Arrrgh!!!

 

Yes.

 

Kevin Slater

[+ Tarte Gogo]

Yes.

That is twice you made me laugh tonight, Kevin.

Now, now, you are trying to seduce me, sir.

You know it is hard not to want to have sex with a man that makes you laugh.

[+ poolboy48220]

I prefer the direct to the point approach, but my usual first text is something pretty innocuous, in case the phone number's wrong - something like "My name's Fred, I saw your ad and would like to meet up while you're in town" or something. Once I'm sure it's the actual escort, I'll get into more specifics - but I don't want to come out with "I'm a bottom into being dominated" and then find it's a junior high teacher.

[Aaron_Bauder]

Yeah, leading by introducing yourself + where you got the provider's info seems to make sense to me, but you'd be shocked.

 

Woke up to this text from a random number: "Want you to come over and bring someone to fuck"

 

Okay cool, but I don't even know who you are. Like, do you mean to be texting me, or was this a typo in phone number entry and meant for your girlfriend? How should I know? I mean seriously. It's like because folks are dealing with sex work, some think basic standards of communication no longer apply.

[TruthBTold]

If you have made fairly explicit that you want to meet at a future date and time, can you text that you would also like to speak very briefly about some things that will effect the session.

[Aaron_Bauder]

If you have made fairly explicit that you want to meet at a future date and time, can you text that you would also like to speak very briefly about some things that will effect the session.

 

I'd say definitely yes.