Tip/Bonus Amounts

[jjkrkwood]

I completely agree with you, @Clen. The best escorts (such as @peterhung85 or @AresEscortNYC) do SO much more than just furnish a sexual adventure! They rock our world in so many other ways, too. Perhaps some clients who hardly even hire, never really enjoy(ed) themselves enough to tip. Ever!

 

TruHart1

 

 

If you are relying on an escort to rock your world in any way other than sexual, you have way bigger issues than the tip...... But as you say, if you are REALLY enjoying yourself, then the money doesnt matter. Shower the boy....

[MikeyGMin]

If you are relying on an escort to rock your world in any way other than sexual, you have way bigger issues than the tip......

That's ridiculous. Allowing someone to rock your world by being open, warm, friendly and engaging, doesn't mean you are relying on it.

[jjkrkwood]

That's ridiculous. Allowing someone to rock your world by being open, warm, friendly and engaging, doesn't mean you are relying on it.

 

 

I believe for MOST, hiring becomes an obsession, and with that comes reliance. Those many posts I read where the OP says that an escort "changed his life", just leaves me scratching my head.

[+ freecahill1965]

If you are relying on an escort to rock your world in any way other than sexual, you have way bigger issues than the tip...... But as you say, if you are REALLY enjoying yourself, then the money doesnt matter. Shower the boy....

 

I am pretty sure they

I believe for MOST, hiring becomes an obsession, and with that comes reliance. Those many posts I read where the OP says that an escort "changed his life", just leaves me scratching my head.

 

I think people mean changed their lives sexually. Good sex can be empowing.

[MikeyGMin]

I believe for MOST, hiring becomes an obsession, and with that comes reliance. Those many posts I read where the OP says that an escort "changed his life", just leaves me scratching my head.

Is it really scratch worthy? You have been out your entire adult life (I believe) and living in NYC. Still, can't you imagine what it would be like to come out late in life or maybe in some really remote location? Can't imagine how a good encounter with a good escort could change the trajectory of a closeted man's life?

 

I've been out since I was 16 years old and mostly living in major metropolitan areas, but I have a "he changed my life" story. After the death of my partner, I went into a long period of self-imposed isolation and depression. I'm not sure I would have ever broken the cycle if I hadn't got horny and met an escort who was both good at sex and a really good guy. I know I wouldn't have re-entered a normal social life, but after seeing him a few times, it woke up that part of me.

 

He didn't know he was doing it. I never shared much of my history with him. But just the good fortune of meeting a good guy actualy changed the course of my life.

 

I think that sometimes a lot of the "changed my life" is just hyperbole, but it does happen.

[jjkrkwood]

Is it really scratch worthy? You have been out your entire adult life (I believe) and living in NYC. Still, can't you imagine what it would be like to come out late in life or maybe in some really remote location? Can't imagine how a good encounter with a good escort could change the trajectory of a closeted man's life?

 

I've been out since I was 16 years old and mostly living in major metropolitan areas, but I have a "he changed my life" story. After the death of my partner, I went into a long period of self-imposed isolation and depression. I'm not sure I would have ever broken the cycle if I hadn't got horny and met an escort who was both good at sex and a really good guy. I know I wouldn't have re-entered a normal social life, but after seeing him a few times, it woke up that part of me.

 

He didn't know he was doing it. I never shared much of my history with him. But just the good fortune of meeting a good guy actualy changed the course of my life.

 

I think that sometimes a lot of the "changed my life" is just hyperbole, but it does happen.

 

 

I lost my partner after 22 years. It was devastating, and I went thru that period of crushing depression. But I learned my only limitation was MYSELF, and it was MY choice to sit and wallow. Once I got over that,

I was able to move forward, although I still, after 22 years have my moments of lonliness and self-pity. I dont think anyone but Myself could have gotten me over my hump. But they do say that the best way to get over an OLD love is to get UNDER a new one.

[TruHart1]

Is it really scratch worthy? You have been out your entire adult life (I believe) and living in NYC. Still, can't you imagine what it would be like to come out late in life or maybe in some really remote location? Can't imagine how a good encounter with a good escort could change the trajectory of a closeted man's life?

I've been out since I was 16 years old and mostly living in major metropolitan areas, but I have a "he changed my life" story. After the death of my partner, I went into a long period of self-imposed isolation and depression. I'm not sure I would have ever broken the cycle if I hadn't got horny and met an escort who was both good at sex and a really good guy. I know I wouldn't have re-entered a normal social life, but after seeing him a few times, it woke up that part of me.

He didn't know he was doing it. I never shared much of my history with him. But just the good fortune of meeting a good guy actualy changed the course of my life.

 

I think that sometimes a lot of the "changed my life" is just hyperbole, but it does happen.

In my case, with my first escort, @AresEscortNYC, I did later share my gratefulness with him, giving him all the credit for starting my climb to higher self-esteem in all aspects of my life! This amazing man continues to rock my world whenever I see him, sexually yes, but also in many other ways. I will always celebrate arriving at his apartment that first time back in 2011, where he welcomed me whole-heartedly into his embrace. Yes, I paid him for his time, but he gave his friendship to me freely, and continues being my good friend to this very day!

 

I do believe when you are dealing with human beings, nothing is black and white. Have I enjoyed my encounters with those escorts who furnish great BFE's but do not become my "friend?" YES! With them I get my money's worth and great satisfaction. They are able to rock my world sexually, which is why I am enthusiastic about seeing them multiple times, whenever they cum through my area or I visit their city! Yet there are just a few special escorts who have opened up enough with me emotionally over time in my interactions with them, that they have actually become my friend.

 

Of course, they're the exception, but my life continues to be enriched by these rare special relationships. When I began this hobby, I felt that sexually, life and love had passed me by my entire life. I felt that although a few hook-ups had become life-long (non-sexual) friends, my sexual life was pretty well finished, except for masturbation. @AresEscortNYC changed all of that, in fact, showing me that my sexual life was anything but over, and additionally granting me a friendship which ultimately caused my self-worth to grow and continue to grow.

 

I realize there are clients out there who only desire what they want when they want it but could never conceive of friendship with an escort. For them, it will always be a monetary transaction only, to furnish them access to a hot man with an impressive dick or a tight, willing butt. I believe them to be completely satisfied with enjoying what they crave sexually, but the idea for a relationship beyond sex with the man attached to that big dick or that tight butt will never cross their mind. They pay for a service, they get a service. They're satisfied. There is nothing wrong with that. It's definitely one aspect of the escorting business. I am just happy I sometimes discover so much more!

 

TruHart1

[Daverwr]

Personally, the tip I would consider respectable varies on the amount of time the booking is for.

 

Single hour bookings I would consider $50 to be good.. $80 great, 100$ is awesome. Some of my clients do not use the full hour, just quick lunch break session 20-30mins and therefore they do not usually tip which I am totally content with. They have left me with more time to freshen up and book another I feel like outcalls should tip 50$ minimum for a single hour to cover time/travel expense (just my opinion)...

 

Thanks for your input. I usually tip and your values are right in line with that. My biggest concern is that I don't want to look cheap. So, I tend to overtip. Twenty dollars for a escort seems extremely cheap to me. I would think it would be better off foregoing the tip rather than pay a couple bucks.

[BlakeBenz]

Thanks for your input. I usually tip and your values are right in line with that. My biggest concern is that I don't want to look cheap. So, I tend to overtip. Twenty dollars for a escort seems extremely cheap to me. I would think it would be better off foregoing the tip rather than pay a couple bucks.

 

 

Yesssssss , we have similar view on this. A 20$ tip to me is gas money and maybe a latte lol still gas and a latte I didn't have before so I am greatful, but it's not a significant amount to treat yourself to something nice or put up in savings. Regardless, the nice gesture is appreciated wether you're just tipping a few bucks or in the 4 digits (it's happened).

[+ Keith30309]

In my case, with my first escort, @AresEscortNYC, I did later share my gratefulness with him, giving him all the credit for starting my climb to higher self-esteem in all aspects of my life! This amazing man continues to rock my world whenever I see him, sexually yes, but also in many other ways. I will always celebrate arriving at his apartment that first time back in 2011, where he welcomed me whole-heartedly into his embrace. Yes, I paid him for his time, but he gave his friendship to me freely, and continues being my good friend to this very day!

 

I do believe when you are dealing with human beings, nothing is black and white. Have I enjoyed my encounters with those escorts who furnish great BFE's but do not become my "friend?" YES! With them I get my money's worth and great satisfaction. They are able to rock my world sexually, which is why I am enthusiastic about seeing them multiple times, whenever they cum through my area or I visit their city! Yet there are just a few special escorts who have opened up enough with me emotionally over time in my interactions with them, that they have actually become my friend.

 

Of course, they're the exception, but my life continues to be enriched by these rare special relationships. When I began this hobby, I felt that sexually, life and love had passed me by my entire life. I felt that although a few hook-ups had become life-long (non-sexual) friends, my sexual life was pretty well finished, except for masturbation. @AresEscortNYC changed all of that, in fact, showing me that my sexual life was anything but over, and additionally granting me a friendship which ultimately caused my self-worth to grow and continue to grow.

 

TruHart1

 

I love this! Thank you for sharing !

 

I don't have a story this compelling but the feeling of gratitude for the gifts of affection & friendship freely given & accepted with a special guy is one I treasure.

 

Sometimes it feels a little crass to reward such a gift with cash but I know it's appreciated so I tend to not worry about it too much, especially at the risk of sounding like a teenager.

[TruHart1]

I love this! Thank you for sharing !

 

I don't have a story this compelling but the feeling of gratitude for the gifts of affection & friendship freely given & accepted with a special guy is one I treasure.

 

Sometimes it feels a little crass to reward such a gift with cash but I know it's appreciated so I tend to not worry about it too much, especially at the risk of sounding like a teenager.

The fact that you feel like you are at risk of "sounding like a teenager" simply proves how rejuvenating these special encounters and friendships with such special men can be for us!

 

TruHart1

[+ peterhung85]

Thank you guys for the sweet compliments, you are all in my thoughts :*

[Drained Empty]

I must be the biggest idiot on the planet because I even tip bad encounters. I haven't had many, admittedly.

 

One guy showed up, didn't engage in oral or topping (told me very late in our appointment that I needed to ask in advance for that), struggled to cum, ended early, and still got a $40 tip (on top of his big city rate) for less than an hour.

 

The most recent guy asked for the money upfront (it was in a bedside envelope), broke his cockring (which in general is a turn-off for me), failed to get hard, took out his phone to start watching porn, at which I told him to leave. I still paid him $100 for about ten minutes.

 

I would say I pay the way I do because I've been taught to be polite, nice, and professional (even though I will never see either again) but deep down I think they're disgusted with me (I suffer from self esteem issues and race issues) and feel obligated to pay them for having to "deal with me."

 

This thread has been very enlightening though. I think I need to stick to massages lol.

[+ freecahill1965]

I must be the biggest idiot on the planet because I even tip bad encounters. I haven't had many, admittedly.

 

One guy showed up, didn't engage in oral or topping (told me very late in our appointment that I needed to ask in advance for that), struggled to cum, ended early, and still got a $40 tip (on top of his big city rate) for less than an hour.

 

The most recent guy asked for the money upfront (it was in a bedside envelope), broke his cockring (which in general is a turn-off for me), failed to get hard, took out his phone to start watching porn, at which I told him to leave. I still paid him $100 for about ten minutes.

 

I would say I pay the way I do because I've been taught to be polite, nice, and professional (even though I will never see either again) but deep down I think they're disgusted with me (I suffer from self esteem issues and race issues) and feel obligated to pay them for having to "deal with me."

 

This thread has been very enlightening though. I think I need to stick to massages lol.

I am sorry for your poor experiences but it happens to us all from time to time. SERIOUSLY ,You should post when you are looking. We can give you awesome recommendations with providers who will make you feel like a million bucks despite any kind of self esteem issues or any perceived fault that you feel you possess. Our great providers are blind to our faults and are eager to please. You are paying and you deserve to be pleased each time. I hope you have a happy holiday season.

Edited December 26, 2017 by freecahill1965

[nsguy45]

I do not understand the practice of tipping an escort. At the standard rate of $250.00 per hour, that is more than enough compensation for what he provided. It's not as though he is sharing that $250.00 amount with anyone or a third party is receiving a cut of it. I don't tip my plumber or electrician, why should I pay my escort above and beyond his going rate?

[+ GregM]

I never expect a tip be it when I'm being hired as a hooker or at my day job as a barista. I love both jobs (hence why I do them). If someone feels I went beyond their expectations and want to tip thats super rad. But I never ask or expect a tip at the end of the day.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[coriolis888]

 

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We can give you awesome recommendations with providers who will make you feel like a million bucks despite your weight or looks or any other fault that you feel you might possess.

 

 

Puzzled here!

 

I did not see anything in the OP's post about weight or looks.

 

Did he later edit his post and delete these issues?

[coriolis888]

 

I must be the biggest idiot on the planet because I even tip bad encounters. I haven't had many, admittedly.

 

One guy showed up, didn't engage in oral or topping (told me very late in our appointment that I needed to ask in advance for that), struggled to cum, ended early, and still got a $40 tip (on top of his big city rate) for less than an hour.

 

The most recent guy asked for the money upfront (it was in a bedside envelope), broke his cock ring (which in general is a turn-off for me), failed to get hard, took out his phone to start watching porn, at which I told him to leave. I still paid him $100 for about ten minutes.

 

 

You had a string of bad luck.

 

If you screen the escorts more and check out this site for reviews, the probability of your getting another future bad repeat declines significantly.

 

 

I would say I pay the way I do because I've been taught to be polite, nice, and professional (even though I will never see either again) but deep down I think they're disgusted with me (I suffer from self esteem issues and race issues) and feel obligated to pay them for having to "deal with me."

 

This thread has been very enlightening though. I think I need to stick to massages lol.

 

 

I believe you are right, it is an issue with your self-esteem. There is not much you can do about self-esteem issues, short of a long protracted repair process. However, like I said above, if you check out this site for reviewed escorts, your chances of finding a better escort will be greater.

[KeepItReal]

I must be the biggest idiot on the planet because I even tip bad encounters. I haven't had many, admittedly.

 

One guy showed up, didn't engage in oral or topping (told me very late in our appointment that I needed to ask in advance for that), struggled to cum, ended early, and still got a $40 tip (on top of his big city rate) for less than an hour.

 

The most recent guy asked for the money upfront (it was in a bedside envelope), broke his cockring (which in general is a turn-off for me), failed to get hard, took out his phone to start watching porn, at which I told him to leave. I still paid him $100 for about ten minutes.

 

I would say I pay the way I do because I've been taught to be polite, nice, and professional (even though I will never see either again) but deep down I think they're disgusted with me (I suffer from self esteem issues and race issues) and feel obligated to pay them for having to "deal with me."

 

This thread has been very enlightening though. I think I need to stick to massages lol.

I am sorry about your bad luck. It happens to all of us at some point. When you do come across one of those guys that are not up for the...ehhm...task; please do submit a review. As long as you are factual about the (non!)events - you'll feel better for getting it out of your system and feel empowered by helping out the community on this forum.

Edited December 26, 2017 by KeepItReal

[+ freecahill1965]

Puzzled here!

 

I did not see anything in the OP's post about weight or looks.

 

Did he later edit his post and delete these issues?

I meant to say self esteem issues. I just edited to be factual.

[LADoug1]

When I was in Italy I was uncomfortable not leaving a tip even though tipping is not the custom.

 

Because I like the boyfriend experience I used to bring flowers or a birthday present to my regular. Sometimes he would treat me to a meal off the clock. I felt like it was I who was receiving a tip!

[Gadfly22]

A tip is a voluntary (well, maybe not in some instances. Some guys here still feel compelled to tip. . .) additional monetary reward for going beyond the purchaser's expectations. Some people it seems to me need to expect more for their hard-earned dollars. I've enjoyed many a fine fellow but really I can't say that I experienced anything beyond my expectations.

 

So interesting to read how different people's minds work. For me though the above snippet sums it up best (if I am understanding it properly). I don't consider myself to have particularly high self esteem but I go into these encounters expecting to be "pleased in every way possible". I question potential providers beforehand and if they don't do the things I like I don't hire in the first place. I understand that an experience can be anywhere from outstanding to dreadful even with careful vetting, but I go in expecting outstanding. If my expectations are met their "reward" (some might consider it a punishment ) is that I hire again. If not its a one and done. In fact most of my regulars over the last few years have been guys who have got back in touch with me after a pleasant first encounter (from both perspectives). So clearly they were happy enough not getting a tip.

As far as going above and beyond the call of duty I agree it would have to be something besides the actual sex and sadly that has never happened to me - except maybe Wicekdboy - he made me a cup of tea after we were done . Does that count? I didn't tip him. I feel bad now.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

except maybe Wicekdboy - he made me a cup of tea

Now I have to try that WickedBoy!

[+ freecahill1965]

Now I have to try that WickedBoy!

@Tarte Gogo it will be an experience to remember. I assure you that you will have a WICKED awesome time. The threesome with Dominiking was awesome as well.

Edited December 26, 2017 by freecahill1965

[MikeyGMin]

except maybe Wicekdboy - he made me a cup of tea after we were done . Does that count? I didn't tip him. I feel bad now.

We may not agree on the relative risk of sending escorts a personal picture, but I sure like your taste in men. He is one sexy young man and I envy you that encounter!