Rejection Reasons

[mike carey]

How did you do that? I searched tirelessly and couldn't find it. Of course, his ad is now expired. Ugh,

He was chatting in another thread in the last day or so. And yes, I had checked his profile at the time and checked Pearson Intl on Wotif.com.

[Beancounter]

Did you use the underscore?

 

~Boomer ~

I did use the underscore and still had no success. Oh well, water under the bridge now. I'm officially a Forum whore now for hijacking a thread. Apologies to the OP.

 

In an attempt to once again be on topic.....Yes, I've had escorts dump me for no explanation but I never let it worry me. Their loss and my wallet just got fatter.

[+ oldNbusted]

I did use the underscore and still had no success.

 

 

The Boomer has his ways...

[+ VictorPowers]

Question...

 

After the initial contact...

 

If a client decides to not hire you, would you prefer to know the reason, or just say "no thanks", or prefer they just drop the conversation?

Don't take it the wrong way if they say no. Just move on. Good luck

[LADoug1]

I couldn't care less about why a client cancels. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself or anything like that.

Unless there starts to be lots of rejections. Maybe then you should consider the situation.

Edited August 1, 2017 by LADoug1

[510guy]

If I am on the fence about someone I will use how they answer text messages to decide. If they seem down to earth and willing to answer some basic questions I will more likely hire as the person took the time to to answer a few questions. But if the person answers in a way that is ride or very abrupt then I will move on.

[Mocha]

When I first started hiring, I would think with my dick and make contact and an appointment, then, thinking with my wallet, cancel. This, I realized, was unfair to the escort and just bad karma.

 

THANK YOU! Most of the clients I meet get flabbergasted and appalled at the idea that someone would stand an escort up.

[Mocha]

I assume most clients cancel because they jerk off and then the mood is gone.

 

But that's not a client. At least not a respectful one. That's some trick tweaking off on meth who isn't worth meeting anyway. The type who'd give you half your fee because HE came early.

 

I mean think about it: a guy cancels a meeting with the guy of his dreams, because he jerked off. Imagine that in real life situations. I'd be utterly appalled if some guy I had a nice planned date with said that to me.

 

But...the good news is, that's probably the least reason why someone would cancel. Clients contact us because jerking off losses it's appeal over time. A little spice and seasoning is needed once in awhile to switch things up.

 

For the record, I would definitely need an explanation for a cancel. I did it the other day. Guy almost cancelled. He was freaked out because I kept hiccuping over our phone conversation because I was getting over a bad case of tonsillitis and side effects from the medication I was given.

 

After sorting it out and explaining the situation...we worked it out. Then soon as we started, the problem ceased.

 

I hate when people cancel for stupid reasons though. That's why deposit stays in effect. You can't just cancel because you feel like it. There needs to be some mutual understanding and a willingness to work with each other. Some cancels or change of plans due to travel or family is understandable. But all that throwing a tantrum over petty stuff don't fly with me.

Edited August 2, 2017 by Mocha

[samhexum]

[LJNYC83]

Sometimes it’s obvious, is it not? Like if you quote your rate when asked and suddenly never hear from the person again, it’s easy to assume they didn’t want to pay that much (either for you or in general). If you normally get that rate, then this was just about the client and shouldn’t change how you do business. If you regularly get ghosted after quoting your rate, then it’s probably a good idea to consider lowering your rate.

[MRJJ]

Sometimes it’s obvious, is it not? Like if you quote your rate when asked and suddenly never hear from the person again, it’s easy to assume they didn’t want to pay that much (either for you or in general). If you normally get that rate, then this was just about the client and shouldn’t change how you do business. If you regularly get ghosted after quoting your rate, then it’s probably a good idea to consider lowering your rate.

In most cases, it is the price that will cause me to say "no thanks!" I generally do a bit of homework about the escort, and have a pretty good idea about the anticipated experience. However, from time to time, they come back with a very high rate, or higher than others have indicated it might be.

While there could be several reasons, price is frequently the #1 rejection factor, IMHO.

[hypothetically]

I typically don’t get caught up on the “why.” I always ask that the client confirm whether it’s a go or not after a delay as time is money and I can pursue other request from those who respect my time and don’t feel indifferent due to whatever factor, whether it be rate, location, etc. I do this because there’s nothing I detest more than a client not responding to then pick up the conversation hours later or even the next day as if they didn’t abandon the conversation. An escort would be naive to get caught up on the “why” in an oversaturated market (NYC) where clients are extremely flakey.

[marylander1940]

Question...

 

After the initial contact...

 

If a client decides to not hire you, would you prefer to know the reason, or just say "no thanks", or prefer they just drop the conversation?

 

is always nice when a client cancels or moves on instead or just not showing up.

 

If I was an escort I would assume he found someone better, cheaper, maybe both.