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[Cannon]

Have you told him what you like? I was whole hog ready to rim someone who told me, "No, please, just keep doing what you're doing. It's what I like best!"

 

SCORE!

 

Especially if he pushes so many of your buttons. Are you a closet sapiophile? Does his brain do nothing for you?

 

I am a Sapiophile. I love intellectuals and refinement!!! This guy is very smart, not dumb but he's also kind of a brute if you know what I mean

[+ nycman]

I am a Sapiophile

 

You sound like a bore...

 

I'll save the audience time....it means he's sexually attracted to intellectuals.

And that he thinks using big words makes him sound smart.

 

I love intellectuals and refinement!!!

 

Jesus Christ...give the fucking condoms and lube to me and go have tea with the "ladies".

 

This guy is very smart, not dumb but he's also kind of a brute if you know what I mean

 

He sounds like fun.

He deserves better than you.

Send him over and I'll fuck him until he forgets all about you and the damage you've done.

 

Just so you know....this post was mostly joking.....mostly.

[big-n-tall]

Yes!!! U understand what I'm saying!!!

 

So you agreeing with Rudynate just answered my questions. You haven't told him what you want sexually... you expect him to know and figure it out.

 

Just end it then. If a guy comes along... is perfect in every way, except sexually (by your own admission) and you won't even try to make the sex better by telling what you want/need... just let him go.

 

I repeat I have no sympathy for your situation because you have the ability to possibly improve it. If you make an effort and it doesn't work out, fine. At least try, if you like this man so much. Honestly, i think you just don't want to be with him... so again end it. Be polite about it, and simply explain you think you aren't compatible.

 

And then as @nycman said... send him my way.

[LADoug1]

I am a Sapiophile. I love intellectuals and refinement!!! This guy is very smart, not dumb but he's also kind of a brute if you know what I mean

How is he a brute?

[Chad Constantine]

I am a Sapiophile. I love intellectuals and refinement!!! This guy is very smart, not dumb but he's also kind of a brute if you know what I mean

 

Idk if your just really thick/long or if he is just a pus at bottoming but since you said your vers why not see if he is better at topping. Also what is so incompatible about your lifestyles? If you lifestyles are incompatible why would you want to remain friends? Lastly, how can you on one hand say he is smart and on the other hand say he is a brute that is a big disconnect?

[rvwnsd]

No disrespect, but after reading this thread it feels like you're avoiding everyone who's asking if you've ever discussed your sexual needs with him. It kind of suggests to me that you have not. You're asking how to deal with him in a way where you don't hurt his feelings and stay friends. You can't do that if you don't communicate.

Said a different way, if you communicate as cryptically with him as you do with us it is little wonder he doesn't satisfy you - he has no idea what you want.

 

And who says "brute" anyway?

[+ nycman]

And who says "brute" anyway?

 

THIS woman....

 

http://www.todayifoundout.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/fainting-woman-340x503.jpg

 

and FEW others!

[+ azdr0710]

And who says "brute" anyway?

 

[Chad Constantine]

 

Lmao I was going to post the gif but it didnt say you brute lmao

[rvwnsd]

THIS woman....

 

http://www.todayifoundout.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/fainting-woman-340x503.jpg

 

and FEW others!

 

 

Lmao I was going to post the gif but it didnt say you brute lmao

 

Like I was saying...

[LaffingBear]

[+ Gar1eth]

To be more explicit...umm,...sexually its frustrating. I get 4 strokes in...then he needs a break, another 4 strokes in he needs a break....another 4 strokes in...he needs a break....he's not great at taking my dick no matter the osition. he likes me to be dominant...which i enjoy sometimes but not all the time...he is actually new new to being submissive, and really enjoys that with me for some reason

 

 

thank u

 

I can think of possibly three things that might help.

 

1. There is some stuff called 'Man Delay'. It's a topical anesthetic. It might make it easier for him to continue bottoming if he is less sensitive.

 

2. If he's new to bottoming and having trouble, then maybe he needs to practice with a toy.

 

3. You have needs too. If he's versatile and you want to bottom sometimes, why should you always have to be the top? That right there would be enough to stop the sexual relationship if he's not considering your needs.

 

If there's no hope for any of that, then I think you do have to tell him you either want out of your exclusivity agreement, or that while you still enjoy his friendship, you no longer want a sexual relationship with him. Unfortunately it may or may not be possible to salvage the friendship once you you bring this up. There's no way to know for sure until you tell him.

 

Gman

[rvwnsd]

But make it a cute hit man so you can do him after he does the job.

[Cannon]

No disrespect, but after reading this thread it feels like you're avoiding everyone who's asking if you've ever discussed your sexual needs with him. It kind of suggests to me that you have not. You're asking how to deal with him in a way where you don't hurt his feelings and stay friends. You can't do that if you don't communicate.

No I hadnt communicated...admittedly I should. I know just wasnt sure how to say it without hurting feelings.

[Cannon]

Said a different way, if you communicate as cryptically with him as you do with us it is little wonder he doesn't satisfy you - he has no idea what you want.

 

And who says "brute" anyway?

I am likely the only one who says brute...(shrugs) I'm okay with that though:D

[Cannon]

You sound like a bore...

 

I'll save the audience time....it means he's sexually attracted to intellectuals.

And that he thinks using big words makes him sound smart.

 

 

 

Jesus Christ...give the fucking condoms and lube to me and go have tea with the "ladies".

 

 

 

He sounds like fun.

He deserves better than you.

Send him over and I'll fuck him until he forgets all about you and the damage you've done.

 

Just so you know....this post was mostly joking.....mostly.

I think smart guys are sexy. what can I say??? and i loved your post .....i laughed...

[Cannon]

It will inevitably be a difficult discussion. That's just how relationships go. But you can be tactful about how you broach the subject. I'm not trying to put words in your mouth, but how about this for example: instead of saying "I don't like the way you fuck me," say, "hey, can we try (insert whatever it is you wish he'd do)?"

 

I do think you should talk about this with him sooner rather than later. I know you mentioned trying to break up with him at an earlier point and still staying with him. I don't know him (or you, honestly) but I'd be worried that that would give him the impression that things are fine between you? I think if feelings are going to get hurt in this discussion, that's the thing that would hurt most: thinking things are fine and then feeling blindsided when suddenly they're not.

 

Hope that helps.

you are awesome.