Got rejected by a escort cause I'm bear looking

[Jose305]

I was laughing cause weird shit always happens to me. This happened last night looking around in NYC on RM - this faceless black escort with huge dick emails me. He was curious what I looked like told him my stats (1st weird sign) he turns around tells me he doesn't do "bears" only skinny muscular clients...well geez :confused:

[TruthBTold]

I can feel your pain. I think that I may have brushed off because I appeared too "old." I just turned 61.

[+ OliverSaks]

I can feel your pain. I think that I may have brushed off because I appeared too "old." I just turned 61.

All you had to do was ask.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I was laughing cause weird shit always happens to me. This happened last night looking around in NYC on RM - this faceless black escort with huge dick emails me. He was curious what I looked like told him my stats (1st weird sign) he turns around tells me he doesn't do "bears" only skinny muscular clients...well geez :confused:

 

That happened also to me once. Not only he rejected me for being too fat, but later on he sent me an email offering himself as a personal trainer instead.

[+ WmClarke]

Happened to me once.

 

Unsolicited message on RM. Only he "rejected" me after I told him we were not a match. He sent a sort of "I don't do fatties" comment (even though he has contacted me first) and he blocked me before I could respond.

 

I still chuckle when I think about his extraordinairily low self esteem.

[+ Axiom2001]

That happened also to me once. Not only he rejected me for being too fat, but later on he sent me an email offering himself as a personal trainer instead.

 

I would have responded about his rudeness and audacity!

 

A well-known escort who has nothing but raving reviews from many guys here rejected me when I visited him in his hotel room a few months back. He opened the door, did not shake hands, did not embrace or lightly kiss, did NOT make me welcome at all. Told me to undress and to lie on his bed in order to receive a massage to begin our fun. Well, that's all that he did.

...was sexy as hell but failed to suck me or fully allow me to suck him or do much of anything. He did not kiss either; yet he accepted his fee at the end along with no positive words. He showed me to his door mutely.

I was pissed, pissed, pissed! ...did not discuss it here because all of the other guys have written about his expertise and him in a positive manner. He also has a partner whom I desire to see in the future and did NOT want my candid assessment to impede a future meeting with partner. :(

[jawjateck]

Down in my neck of the woods, we would call that kind of behavior "tacky".

[+ José Soplanucas]

I would have responded about his rudeness and audacity!

 

A well-known escort who has nothing but raving reviews from many guys here rejected me when I visited him in his hotel room a few months back. He opened the door, did not shake hands, did not embrace or lightly kiss, did NOT make me welcome at all. Told me to undress and to lie on his bed in order to receive a massage to begin our fun. Well, that's all that he did.

 

...was sexy as hell but failed to suck me or fully allow me to suck him or do much of anything. He did not kiss either; yet he accepted his fee at the end along with no positive words. He showed me to his door mutely.

 

I was pissed, pissed, pissed! ...did not discuss it here because all of the other guys have written about his expertise and him in a positive manner. He also has a partner whom I desire to see in the future and did NOT want my candid assessment to impede a future meeting with partner. :(

 

As you replied to my post, I am wondering... did you have that experience with one of the guys I have recommended? When you mention that he has a partner, there is only one name that come to my mind, and I would be astonished. I cannot imagine him acting like that.

[+ José Soplanucas]

The chutzpah! Pay me and I'll get you in shape so I'm attracted to you then pay me even more and I'll have sex with you. I hope you told him to fuck off.

 

I told him "No, thanks". He was a rent boy advertiser, I even think he has a membership here in the forum. His ads have vanished.

[Epigonos]

In all of the years I have been hiring I have only had one rejection. In my first or second email with an escort I always describe myself including my age. I then state that if none of my stats are a problem he should let me know and we can proceed with making arrangements to get together. Only once has that email terminated all further communication. I assume my age must have been a problem for him. I would far rather have this type of rejection rather than arrive at the appointment only to have the door slammed in my face.

[+ Keith30309]

I would have responded about his rudeness and audacity!

 

A well-known escort who has nothing but raving reviews from many guys here rejected me when I visited him in his hotel room a few months back. He opened the door, did not shake hands, did not embrace or lightly kiss, did NOT make me welcome at all. Told me to undress and to lie on his bed in order to receive a massage to begin our fun. Well, that's all that he did.

 

...was sexy as hell but failed to suck me or fully allow me to suck him or do much of anything. He did not kiss either; yet he accepted his fee at the end along with no positive words. He showed me to his door mutely.

 

I was pissed, pissed, pissed! ...did not discuss it here because all of the other guys have written about his expertise and him in a positive manner. He also has a partner whom I desire to see in the future and did NOT want my candid assessment to impede a future meeting with partner. :(

 

I don't know the window within which a review may be submitted, but it may be worthwhile to write one.

 

For me the process of writing a review forces me to really think about what happened and separate feelings from facts.

I've been lucky to have met allot of great guys but on rare occasion "the experience" leaves me with more negative feelings than positive and my emotions cloud the facts. I wait a few days before writing a review and then try to focus just on the facts of what occurred, framing up the review outline and most of the content. Then I add in the emotional part of how our time made me feel.

I've found this goes both ways: I met a guy in Miami a couple of weeks ago and had a really negative reaction immediately after the meeting but after outlining the facts I tempered the tone of the review because part of it was just lack of chemistry.

Conversely, a couple of years ago I met a meth guy who, for whatever reason, I was really strongly emotionally attracted to. I totally forgot about his texting, leaving the room several times, etc. I held off on a review (until a second meeting where I loaned him a bunch of money... so stupid. )

[+ José Soplanucas]

In all of the years I have been hiring I have only had one rejection. In my first or second email with an escort I always describe myself including my age. I then state that if none of my stats are a problem he should let me know and we can proceed with making arrangements to get together. Only once has that email terminated all further communication. I assume my age must have been a problem for him. I would far rather have this type of rejection rather than arrive at the appointment only to have the door slammed in my face.

 

Absolutely. I know many friends here disagree, but I always share my stats before making a deal. His was also my only one rejection so far.

[+ Gar1eth]

I've had a couple of rejections over the years. The main one I remember was when I once hired a guy for a weekend. He was from an agency. He decided he couldn't go thru with things with me. I was not going thru a good period at the time. That might have turned him off. On the other hand, I heard he later had some kind of freak out with another client a few months later, and the agency dropped him.

 

I actually think it was more him then me.

 

Gman

[+ bashful]

I too, bring up age and body on my initial contact. At first, I would just ask if they had issues with age or body type. Only one (actually a duo) said they had limits. Being too old to hope, oh gee, I hope they’ll like me, I just passed, and wished them well.

 

Another, who had all positive reviews, except for one, and all favorable comments by posters here, didn’t seem to be concerned with age or weight during our initial communication. However, when we met, it just wasn’t that exciting, for whatever reason, let’s just say chemistry.

 

The jury is still out on my most recent communication with an escort. I’m now a bit more specific, telling my age, and something to the effect that I’ve added weight on in the past few years, and if interested, let me know. I emailed thru his website, but got an error message, so decided to email via RM. No response after about 3 or 4 weeks. Too early to tell if the non-response is due to technical issues, or aesthetic issues. I found a email address in a review, so may try that.

[caliguy]

Depends on the age range. Twenties it goes with the territory. Thirties and beyond they should be more mature then that.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I even send them a face picture. I know this is not popular here. They have never requested one from me, but when I hire from rentmen, where my profile has no picture, I do send them a selfie once we switch from email to texting. I do not need to do that when I hire from an app or from Adam because I have profiles with pictures there. Think they are having a blind date with clients who know even how many tattoos they have in their butt. Every time I sent the selfie they responded extremely appreciatively, as it is clearly unusual.

[Good Grief]

Down in my neck of the woods, we would call that kind of behavior "tacky".

 

I'm with you!

 

And we'd smile (smirk) with an arched eyebrow and say bless your heart.

[Good Grief]

I'm with you!

 

And we'd smile (smirk) with an arched eyebrow and say bless your heart.

 

Or better yet, Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn.

[MartyB]

Depends on the age range. Twenties it goes with the territory. Thirties and beyond they should be more mature then that.

I always indicate before hiring an escort my stats. Not exact but a good representation. I also never higher someone that I get any indication that this would be a problem. Plus I generally higher men not boys. That helps .

[+ Socalguy]

I can feel your pain. I think that I may have brushed off because I appeared too "old." I just turned 61.

There is NO way you look 61!!! I was shocked when you said you're older than me and I'm 50!

[MikeyGMin]

I would have responded about his rudeness and audacity!

 

A well-known escort who has nothing but raving reviews from many guys here rejected me when I visited him in his hotel room a few months back. He opened the door, did not shake hands, did not embrace or lightly kiss, did NOT make me welcome at all. Told me to undress and to lie on his bed in order to receive a massage to begin our fun. Well, that's all that he did.

 

...was sexy as hell but failed to suck me or fully allow me to suck him or do much of anything. He did not kiss either; yet he accepted his fee at the end along with no positive words. He showed me to his door mutely.

 

I was pissed, pissed, pissed! ...did not discuss it here because all of the other guys have written about his expertise and him in a positive manner. He also has a partner whom I desire to see in the future and did NOT want my candid assessment to impede a future meeting with partner. :(

That's disturbing on many fronts.

 

First, curious minds would really like to know who you're talking about.

 

Second, with over 10,000 posts under your belt that you would think twice about offering a different perspective on a provider. I realize the boyfriend complicates matters, but you have enough experience and history to contradict any pack of fanboys on the board.

[+ MostlyLurking]

I was recently rejected as too old by an escort who is a frequent and well-regarded poster here. It was painful to think that somebody wouldn't fuck me even if I paid him - and paid him well! Of course the trouble there is with me. Nobody can provide a good experience with somebody who is really unattractive to him.

[+ GregM]

Speaking for myself this bothers me. I understand that one cant be attracted to everyone but to be mean and callous is very unprofessional. I've never rejected a client because of looks but have had to decline because of the fetish. But even then I did it in a very nice way and never (I hope) made the client feel small and unworthy. To you guys who've experienced this I'm sorry. It's not right! And it makes me want to work harder to give you your monies worth.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[rvwnsd]

I've had a few guys over the years who were not into some of the same things I am and have declined my wanting to hire them, which is OK with me. Last weekend I reconnected with a guy who I had contacted in October but ended up not meeting. He asked my stats and I told him. Never heard back. Silver lining was I connected with a guy whose ad I just saw and had an AMAZING time. Review is being submitted.

[rvwnsd]

I was recently rejected as too old by an escort who is a frequent and well-regarded poster here....

 

Proof hat well-respected and reviewed is not a guarantee of a great experience or, in this case, an experience taking place at all.