What should I do?

[rvwnsd]

That guy sounds like catch

Yep! Like I said, there was a reason I would drive >100 miles to see him. About six months after he stopped escorting I was walking down the street and heard someone calling me. It was him. We had coffee and caught up. It was nice to hear about his new career and to give him the latest about me. I am pleased to say he paid for the coffee and snack.

[Rocky93]

I once left a gold chain at the hotel with the escort. He called me 15 minutes later to tell me. I went back and retrieved it. I went back to him and even traveled to see him. A shame he is out of the business. Restores trust in the profession

[LADoug1]

Yep! Like I said, there was a reason I would drive >100 miles to see him. About six months after he stopped escorting I was walking down the street and heard someone calling me. It was him. We had coffee and caught up. It was nice to hear about his new career and to give him the latest about me. I am pleased to say he paid for the coffee and snack.

 

I agree it was very nice of him but he better be careful. For reasons of discretion some clients don't like to be recognized and greeted by an escort in a public place.

[Boomer]

I go to an escort regularly, already more than 10 times. I always have a good time with him, and I always pay him a good tip.

Last time, I went to the bank to withdraw some money before I went to him. I put some in an envelop for him, the rest in my wallet. I had a great time with him, but when I got back home, I found the money in my wallet became less, I believe he is the only one who had a chance to take my money. I always take a shower with my stuff left in his bedroom before I leave from his place, and he never goes into the bathroom with me together because the shower has no enough room for two guys.

 

What should I do?

1. Ask him about that? (Give he a chance to explain or argue)

2. Never come back and block him without saying anything?

3. Never come back and block him after telling him the reason? (means he has no chance to explain or argue)

4. Continue to meet him but with caution?

 

If he did take the money he's "penny wise and pound foolish." Do you suspect a drug habit? Depending on how much less was in your wallet I would chalk it up to experience. To leave a wallet exposed you must have felt a certain level of trust. If it was $20-$40 you might say next time, "I believe I may have left some extra cash behind. Please consider it a tip for this session." That gives him an opening and you don't need to accuse him of theft. You may also get an answer. I have frequently made cash errors. A few years ago I lost $800. I found it a year later when I was cleaning the garage. The life of an aging boomer.

[Mydavid]

If he did take the money he's "penny wise and pound foolish." Do you suspect a drug habit? Depending on how much less was in your wallet I would chalk it up to experience. To leave a wallet exposed you must have felt a certain level of trust. If it was $20-$40 you might say next time, "I believe I may have left some extra cash behind. Please consider it a tip for this session." That gives him an opening and you don't need to accuse him of theft. You may also get an answer. I have frequently made cash errors. A few years ago I lost $800. I found it a year later when I was cleaning the garage. The life of an aging boomer.

I wish that I made a mistake, but unfortunately, there was an encore yesterday. This time I counted my money before I entered into his place.

I don't know how many times it happened since I'm always very careless with my money.

I actually found it when I was paying him, but I didn't know what I should do. I really don't want to damage the friendly atmosphere between us.

I always give him a tip, I give him 2.5 times his hour rate for a 2-hour session and never ask for a discount as a regular.

I don't know what I can do.

I guess I have to leave without saying good-bye.

[+ Gar1eth]

I've faced a similar situation but took the coward's way out by not confronting him. I can't be 100% certain that a couple of the bills from the ATM didn't stick together, so I've kept my suspicions to myself. If I see him again, and I probably will, I'll make sure to carry only the amount of money I intend to spend. I hate being so deferential, and the comments have helped to clarify my thoughts. Good luck with sorting through this perplexing situation.

 

I've had a few guys I've suspected. Unfortunately I've never been entirely sure. And as I'm a bit scatterbrained, it might have been me. I know almost definitely that I left at least $20 at an ATM once. I was getting a couple of hundred probably to pay for an escort. I go to check the money. I was missing a bit. But the next time I used the same ATM, I noticed as I was leaving that the very last bill was stuck a little bit into the machine where I would have missed it if I hadn't been watching closely.

 

Gman

[+ Gar1eth]

I wish that I made a mistake, but unfortunately, there was an encore yesterday. This time I counted my money before I entered into his place.

I don't know how many times it happened since I'm always very careless with my money.

I actually found it when I was paying him, but I didn't know what I should do. I really don't want to damage the friendly atmosphere between us.

I always give him a tip, I give him 2.5 times his hour rate for a 2-hour session and never ask for a discount as a regular.

I don't know what I can do.

I guess I have to leave without saying good-bye.

 

I agree. I think you have to leave in this case.

 

Gman

[MartyB]

Sorry to say, this was your first mistake, and in my opinion, you created the tension you now feel.

 

Since when do we think we know someone after 10 or 20 visits? I've lived with friends who stole from me, and I learned about not knowing people the hard way.

 

Whenever I have to remove my clothing, I don't take extra anything to that appointment. If by some chance I do have to carry cash or a credit card, it never leaves my sight. Why would someone not take his clothing with him to the shower?

 

Since you can't prove what happened to the extra money, you can't really say it was him. However, if I had doubt about a possible theft, you can be sure I won't be able to have sex with that person ever again.

 

If you confront him, the relationship will never be the same. Sounds like the good times just came to an end.

Jumped the shark. Time to move on. It will never be the same. You said it perfectly

[Jock123]

To Your Defense(For everyone wondering why you never took your clothes with you) I've had many regulars leave their wallet laying around doing the same thing. Some regulars Ive even stayed in their home while they left with a shit ton of Jewelry Laptops etc etc etc laying around. Never in a million years would I think of taking their things. 1. Trust is everything. And Ive found those who trust me usually see me quite a bit(Being attracted to someone can only take them so far) 2. Reviews...Hello!? What legit escort would want that on their profile? 3. Im a firm believer in Karma...and that would be a big no no.

 

 

Then again we DO live in tough times and you really cant put anything past anyone these days. Not even Family.

[+ purplekow]

You might try confronting him in a civilized manner if you really wish to see him again. "Bill, I have noticed that on several occasions my wallet has been a lighter by a significant amount of money. I love seeing you and I love our time together, but I cannot tolerate this happening again. Now let's have some fun."

[bobchitown]

I do stupid things. I once underpaid someone when part of the stack had slipped to the side. I texted immediately so let him know and he came right back.

 

In this case you could always ask "I think I got my money in the wrong piles, how much did I pay you, was it enough?" If you get no response that's your answer.

[Mydavid]

You might try confronting him in a civilized manner if you really wish to see him again. "Bill, I have noticed that on several occasions my wallet has been a lighter by a significant amount of money. I love seeing you and I love our time together, but I cannot tolerate this happening again. Now let's have some fun."

He thinks I don't know. I can pretend I don't know. We might be able to have fun together.

If both of us know we already know, it might be weird to continue...

[MiamiLooker]

I wish that I made a mistake, but unfortunately, there was an encore yesterday. This time I counted my money before I entered into his place.

I don't know how many times it happened since I'm always very careless with my money.

I actually found it when I was paying him, but I didn't know what I should do. I really don't want to damage the friendly atmosphere between us.

I always give him a tip, I give him 2.5 times his hour rate for a 2-hour session and never ask for a discount as a regular.

I don't know what I can do.

I guess I have to leave without saying good-bye.

You were already pretty sure the guy had stolen from you, yet as you were paying him for the next session you realized he had stolen from you a 2nd time and you still gave him a tip?

[bigvalboy]

Any escort that would steal from you has zero respect for you. If you allow it to occur again, or put yourself in a position to be robbed, then you don't have enough respect for yourself or you money. A thief is a thief, and it speaks to his moral character. Now you have to decide how much you respect yourself, and whether or not your association with him is detrimental...I know what I would do, but we are all different, so good luck.

[marylander1940]

Any escort that would steal from you has zero respect for you. If you allow it to occur again, or put yourself in a position to be robbed, then you don't have enough respect for yourself or you money. A thief is a thief, and it speaks to his moral character. Now you have to decide how much you respect yourself, and whether or not your association with him is detrimental...I know what I would do, but we are all different, so good luck.

 

and sooner or later he'll mess with the wrong person and be shot/sent to jail.

[Mydavid]

You were already pretty sure the guy had stolen from you, yet as you were paying him for the next session you realized he had stolen from you a 2nd time and you still gave him a tip?

 

Actually, as a regular, I always pay a fixed amount to him, tip included.

I never changed the amount according to his performance. (Most of time his performance is great. It happened he didn't perform very well when he was tired, but I still paid him the same because I think he did his best)

[azulpalido]

Have some self respect. Would you allow anyone else in your life to steal money out of your wallet and act like nothing happened? If so, then you have other issues. If not, then you know what to do.

[+ Funguy]

Slightly different ... had a fine escort text me not even 10 minutes after I left - I had paid him with hundreds and smaller bills for tip as I usually do so he knows how much he usually gets - an extra $100 bill was completely stuck to the others. (I may even have gotten it from the bank that way!!!) He knew it was not a tip so he said I could either come back and get it or apply it to out next meet. I said, "Apply." He then sent me a text to confirm it for both of our records. Next visit, we had some extra special fun because he was so honest about the whole thing. Eventually, I might have found $100 missing but never would have associated it with him, especially not in a bad way!

[+ purplekow]

He thinks I don't know. I can pretend I don't know. We might be able to have fun together.

If both of us know we already know, it might be weird to continue...

It will not be weird for him if he did not take it. It may be weird for him if he take it. It should not be weird for you in either case. You have not blatantly accused him. You have merely said that you are aware of missing money and that another episode will result in the end of it.

[Boomer]

It's over, Johnny.