Getting Ripped Off By A Client

[MikeBiDude]

If you go in for a $120.00 massage, only have 2 $100.00 bills, ask for change from the masseur should you trust him or count the change to make sure it is correct in front of him? I assume do not count any money in front of masseur or escort?

Don’t go in with 2 c-notes

[Cyd_StVincent]

I'll get over this but I am so incredibly saddened about what has just happened to me. A client, who had been texting me for the past 2-3 days to meet up finally decides he wants to meet up tonight. The ETA starts getting later and later, until finally he gets here a little past 11:30PM. Mind you, I'm usually in bed by midnight because I have a full time job which is my main priority. I was very nice and accommodating the entire time. Anyway, he shows up and seems like a nice guy and all. I won't get into details, but I will say the encounter was a little more difficult for me than usual. There were a number of things that turned me off when usually I find more things that turn me on about a client the more we talk and the more intimate we get. He ended up staying a little past the hour, and as he left he put the money on my dresser and said goodbye. This was one of those rare encounters for me where at the end of it, it felt like a lot of work. It wasn't as effortless as practically all my other encounters and I was a bit exhausted from it. A few minutes later, after he had already left, I counted the money and noticed he stiffed me by $60! This has never happened to me before, and I'm really upset by it.

 

I'm not really asking for advice (or maybe I am), probably more just venting here, but I will say two things; (1) I'm so fortunate that after doing this for a little over a year and half, this is the first time this has happened, and (2) I feel incredibly used - I feel like it might be a little over reactive of me to say I even feel like I've been raped in some way, but, yea, it kind of does feel like that. Part of me wants to find some sort of way to seek revenge but really what good would that do? I can't write a bad review or blast his number out in a giant escort newsletter anyway. I have to suck it up and move on. But now I'm wondering if I should change my approach with how I receive money in the future. I avoid having the encounter feel like a transaction, and usually discussions about my rate, etc. last a couple seconds - a simple confirmation - and the subject changes. I confirmed my rate with this guy a couple times via text. I didn't ask for the money upfront because, well, that just not how I do things. But now I'm left with the question, should I let this encounter change my protocol, or should I just suck it up, learn how to screen these guys out and continue with what seems to have been working great up until this point?

 

Luckily the night before I had an amazing encounter with a client, and we connected really well - plus he tipped me generously. Anyway, I don't know what I'm really asking, but if you've gone this far, thanks for reading and sorry for babbling on. If anyone has any advice or a joke to lighten up a bad experience, thank you in advance. I guess the way I've been receiving cash (asking at the end, and not the beginning) does put me at risk for this to happen, and perhaps it was just my time. It also wasn't THAT much money... It still sucks though! Alright, well this has already been helpful and it's way past my bedtime. Goodnight!

 

 

95% of the time I have a date, it all goes reasonably well and the agreements that we have made around payment and condom use get followed, 5% it does not. I understand all the feeling you talked about, when you work so hard to compromise with someone and make them feel like an experience is positive even when it seems like they're working against you every step of the way, and then they rip you off it kinda breaks my heart a little bit. I've been in the biz for a long time but I'm still kind of an optimist about humanity.

 

I usually write a text to them, knowing that I'm probably not going to ever see that money, and therefore just genuinely telling them how that experience made me feel and like speak my anger but also force them to see my humanity. When your job is so much about adjusting yourself to make other people feel good, being totally honest and straightforward can feel healing even if it doesn't return the cash. I wish you the best, sorry you had that experience.

[coriolis888]

 

With a good deal of encouragement from the firm, I started out on my own.

 

A few months later, I had a client respond to a bill with a screed about how I was ripping off the community. I tore up the bill and sent back the money he'd paid on previous bills. It felt so good.

 

Cutting off the nose to spite the face ?

 

 

It felt so good.

 

The client probably felt good also, only better.