Hiring Escorts which only Top when you only Top

[KJJ]

Might be an odd question however I am interested in some guys who specifically state they only Top, problem for me is I am not interested in bottoming, anyone else in this situation? I know there are other things to do but do these encounters ever turn out?

[+ poolboy48220]

This would probably get more response in the Deli, not the Spa.

 

I've often thought that the only thing sadder than two exclusive tops is two exclusive bottoms. :-P

[+ José Soplanucas]

Might be an odd question however I am interested in some guys who specifically state they only Top, problem for me is I am not interested in bottoming, anyone else in this situation? I know there are other things to do but do these encounters ever turn out?

 

I'm not sure what your question is.

I'm only top. Some of the guys I hire advertise as only tops, but they are actually versatile. This kind of information is discussed previous to the hiring. Sometimes a guy I like a lot is actually only top. Well, it is about what I am in the mood to do. Not very often, but now and then I don't feel in the mood for penetration. In this situation I may hire another top and have only oral sex.

As I am not sure what you are asking, I am not sure I am answering.

[MikeyGMin]

Might be an odd question however I am interested in some guys who specifically state they only Top, problem for me is I am not interested in bottoming, anyone else in this situation? I know there are other things to do but do these encounters ever turn out?

I don't think it's an odd question. It almost always works out fine as long as you don't try to flip them. Of course some of them are actually versatile, and it might go there, but I think it's really rude to meet someone who is advertising as a pure top and then pressure them to flip. That's being a pain in the ass -- and not in the good way.

 

It's worth mentioning to them ahead of time that you don't want to bottom. I've never had a problem with a seasoned provider, but some of the young bucks don't know quite what to do if you take them off script. There are also guys (especially my beloved Latinos ) who don't consider it sex unless someone is penetrated. You need to be clear with them that you are going to be very happy without doing what they consider their specialty.

[rvwnsd]

um...find escorts who are bottoms? ...

 

Way too logical.

 

... They clearly state their tops so you can't be mad if you meet them and they don't bottom. Or you can not do anal, and just do oral and other activities besides penetration with them ...

 

I am a bottom and RARELY (like three times in the last 20 years, twice with the same guy) top. When a guy who is a bottom rings my bell I ask if he would be open to oral or muscle worship. If he says he would be, I hire him. If he says he wouldn't be, I don't.

[rocksinurhead]

as others have pointed out....the services that an escort provides in his professional life do not necessarily reflect the whole man. i fully understand your situation and sometimes frustration. there are some absolutely stellar nyc guys who are not compatible with me. one good option is to just let it go...

if there's an an advertising top you're really fixated on (and topping a top is kind of the ultimate turn-on, i know), just be straightforward with him. ask him if he's interested in bottoming. he's a grown man and he can say no. or he can say not the first meeting, but maybe after he knows you better. or he may be versatile in "real life", but bottoming for a client depends on the client and the connection. there are are any number of possibilities because, some of us may forget, escorts are people. escorting and hiring are obviously business, but it's a very personal and intimate business we do together.

i'll step down from my soap box now and just add that, personally, i have had mixed results with tops who have bottomed for me; from amazing to awful. this is definitely a situation where the communication and clarity are even more important than usual.

[KJJ]

Thanks everyone, each of you have provided the insight I was trying ask for, it was hard trying to phrase the question when I posted it but as always you all provided excellent advice.