In Search of the Wild Orgasm

[Ryan]

About once a month, I spend the day at the local bathhouse. It is usually quieter during the weekday, and there are a number of us guys who have become kind of casual friends there, and we typically spend some time sitting in one of the deluxe spa rooms being completely comfortable with each other in our very open and frank conversations about nearly anything. Kind of like an actual hour or two here in the Message Center.

Anyway, this past week I was intrigued by the focus of the conversation four of us were having. We are all guys in our later forties to mid-fifties, and we were talking about "the old days" and some of the incredible fuck sessions we had had in our youth. It was fun AND sexy. The discussion, though, turned to something interesting. One guy said that he felt like he was in search of "one last great orgasm." He said that in the past number of years, his sexual encounters, although pleasant, just didn't measure up to what they had been in his younger years. The others of us agreed, and we all talked candidly about aging, youth culture, the influence of pornography which obviously present the most intense and incredible sex with the most beautiful and stunning actors. We talked about the dulling influence of the AIDS pandemic during our late twenties, our thirties and into our forties, the loss of so many friends and how very real fear had impacted all of us. Many thoughts were raised as to what has influenced this diminishing of passion, both physical and mental.

But what interested me most was the "search for one last great orgasm." I couldn't help but think that I was caught up in that search. I'm thinking that maybe its time to be less focused on it and more focused on something else. What, I'm not sure. I don't spend a lot of time having sex (at least with others, anyway) and I feel as though I have a rich and full life with many wonderful friends and family. I'm winding up a great career, have some great future plans and thoroughly enjoy life. But I feel as though I am missing something in the sex I am having, whether with escorts or guys I meet for casual encounters. I'm happy with my life, but if I'm really honest with myself, I'm sad about not feeling the juice the way I once did. Anyone else considered these ideas? What are you doing about it? Is there some compulsive component to this idea? Just wondering if any of you guys would like to step into our deluxe spa room and enter the conversation.

[mattgunther]

I spend some time in the 90s pursuing wild orgasms but it got to be pretty unfulling and destructive. I starting using drugs and more and more extreme sex to get the ultimate high. I also hear wild orgasms mentioned a lot as the biggest selling point of crystal meth. So I'm pretty wary of pursuing wild orgasms although I have been lucky lately in finding some guys who have given me them.

[+ Charlie]

An acquaintance of mine once had frenzied sex with a relatively inexperienced youth, during which he accidently bit off the boy's nipple. The young man immediately had a spectacular orgasm. We always joked that he would probably only have one more great orgasm left.

 

But seriously, folks. I really don't much care whether I ever have another wild orgasm. That's probably because I had so many, and sought them so obsessively from my teens to my early forties, that I learned my lesson: they don't make any real difference in the quality of one's life. An hour afterwards, you are still the same person, and you start wanting another one. It's a pleasant surprise if it happens, but it's not worth the energy to constantly pursue it.

[noviceny]

>But what interested me most was the "search for one last great orgasm." I couldn't help but think that I was caught up in that search. I'm thinking that maybe its time to be less focused on it and more focused on something else. What, I'm not sure. <

 

I think all of us, even when we are at our most content, feel like we still should be looking for something. I am convinced that this is part of the human condition, whether it is innate or social imbued in our psyche.

 

To be content and to want to search for more are very liberating concepts. If you believethat you can be both at the same time, then you can be happy, but not complacent. I have found that the search has always brought me to a place or a realization that I didnt realize I was looking for. Then I had to accept what I found, and incorporate it in to my life.

 

I still say go for the orgasm :-) :-) :-) Physical pleasure is highly underrated by those of us that are always seeking "meaning" or out on a philosophical ledge somewhere...

[Bilbo]

Well, not all of us. Some of us follow the Renaisance idea that worldy pleasures can lead to the pursuit of heavenly pleasures. So that pursuing worldly pleasures with that intention in mind is a spiritual pursuit.

[guptasa1]

One of the things I've noticed about me during sex (becoming more experienced) is that I've been a bit too focused on the orgasm itself in the past. While I think ALL of us search for wild orgasms, I think sometimes we need to slow down and learn to enjoy the pleasure leading up to them. The orgasm is just the finale. =oP

 

Just a side thought.

 

And for me, one of the things I wish I could do during orgasm is shoot farther. ;o) I sometimes do, but not as far as I'd like. Dunno why, but it's a big turnon for me. LOL. So you could say I'm looking for this too, even though I'm trying to appreciate everything leading up to them more as well.

[Bilbo]

Yep, two more things we often experience in Body Electric -

Trancendental sex, which is what I often call doing everything except cumming, can be whoa! hot. And can last longer, for many of us.

And if you do what we call anal breathing every day, which is basically what a lot of people call kegels, you can shoot farther on a regular basis.