Please don't be offended by my question...

[FrequentMassageGetter]

But is there a reason some posters say "PM me for details"

 

I'm new here and I've been posting my heart out with details of my experiences and I notice some posters instead of posting details write "PM me for details"

 

Does anyone know why this is?

 

Aren't we all enjoying the anonymity of invented screen names here? It feels like we'd be doing a disservice to the spirit of this message forum but not being completely forthcoming in our posts.

 

I know we're not permitted to post contact details and private gallery passwords... but are there any restrictions on posting our personal experiences? (as I have been doing in glorious graphic detail the past few days)

[tennisjock]

Daddy has in the sentence below the spa forum::

'Discussion about Masseurs. Please be careful so as not to compromise their licenses" hence why. As with most masseurs mileage may vary and one customers experience may be a complete opposite of another in regards to what happens, doesn't happen etc.

[+ azdr0710]

Also, detailed reviews of meets aren't allowed in the forum section. Gives the provider a chance to rebut a negative one and it prevents general mayhem from erupting.

 

Thanks for all your contributions, FMG, and welcome to the board.

[+ glennnn]

A very good question. I'm another who pretty much tells it all in describing my experiences. Others are more discreet. At first, I worried that I was being too open and afraid I'd break some rules. Now I think it is all a matter of personal style as long as you follow Daddy's basic rules and respect the privacy of others. The fact that I can discuss cum swallowing techniques here is one of the most important aspects of my enjoyment of the Forum since I have no gay friends in my day-to-day life. Well cum aboard!

[LivingnLA]

@FrequentMassageGetter, the forum is for discussion, not reviews, especially negative reviews, because the forum is a public space, providers are frequently named, and they don't always have the opportunity to challenge assertions. Daddy wants to prevent rumor-mongering and gossiping from harming professionals and corroding the community.

 

Also, as others have said, for massage providers in states that require licenses and have certain professional standards, explicit public information puts them at risk of losing their license or even criminal prosecution as a prostitute if some uppity prosecutor decided to go after them for some reason.

[down_to_business]

Agree with what most people said, and when I do it... it is to not get yelled at by management for violating his rules. This is the one we likely infringe upon discussing our details.

 

"Please do not post reviews on the Message Center. The work product of the Web Site that sponsors this message center is reviews of interest to Gay and Bisexual men. The reviews are subjected to a much closer scrutiny than the Message Center postings. The determination of whether a post is a review may require a judgment call. The judgment is final and not subject to review."

[FrequentMassageGetter]

I think it's only a fair counterbalance since a lot of these masseurs have fake reviews extolling their virtues on a bunch of sites. And masseurs can dispute and post on this forum. I've seen them do it.

[LivingnLA]

I think it's only a fair counterbalance since a lot of these masseurs have fake reviews extolling their virtues on a bunch of sites. And masseurs can dispute and post on this forum. I've seen them do it.

 

Just because someone lies, doesn't make it okay to gang up on them. I'm all for exposing lies, that's what Daddy's Reviews are for and while some things can and should be discussed on the forum, that doesn't mean we become vigilante justice. We've implicitly agreed to having one sheriff in this town and Daddy is his name.

[FrequentMassageGetter]

I agree with you 100%. I'm only posting my personal experiences. I am no vigilante. Nor will I ever "gang up" on anyone.

[+ saminseattle]

Aren't we all enjoying the anonymity of invented screen names here?

 

I would not assume that anything on the Internet is truly anonymous.

[LivingnLA]

I would not assume that anything on the Internet is truly anonymous.

 

Nothing is because everything is logged and tracked somewhere.

[MikeyGMin]

For me, there is just a line I won't cross in the public forum. Granted it's a very wide line and I dance back and forth depending on my mood. I'm fine with general statements about and escort's quality, honesty, accuracy of pictures, etc, but I don't like to post anything too personal or too negative to thousands of guys across the country who are not likely to ever meet the guy.

 

I don't even get real graphic about the guys I really like and I'm actually trying to promote a bit. If someone is serious enough about hiring them that they will send me a PM, then I will open up and sing their praises or explain their shortcomings.

 

I hooked up several guys on the board, but it's been through personal messages.

[Terpmaniac]

There are some things you can't say on the full board for all to see. So, PM me and I will tell all the sordid, nasty, filthy details about a massage session that the masseur I hired does NOT want EVERYBODY to know!

[Nibay]

Hey guys,

 

I am new to this site too. How would I "PM" someone if I wanted to?

 

Thanks!

[LivingnLA]

Hey guys,

 

I am new to this site too. How would I "PM" someone if I wanted to?

 

Thanks!

 

In the upper right, there's a link called "Inbox." Move your cursor over it or tap on it and a drop down menu will appear. Click or tap on "Start a New Conversation" and go from there.

[MikeyGMin]

You can also tap their Avatar and you will see the link for "start a conversation." Some people will have this function disabled as one of their privacy settings, but most people do not.

[Nibay]

You can also tap their Avatar and you will see the link for "start a conversation." Some people will have this function disabled as one of their privacy settings, but most people do not.

Thanks!

You can also tap their Avatar and you will see the link for "start a conversation." Some people will have this function disabled as one of their privacy settings, but most people do not.

Thanks!

[dfw2sfo]

One of my posts almost got someone fired from his spa job. I was a little too explicit about our private non-spa session and some guy threatened to expose the masseur as doing more than massage. I erased all I had written and it worked out but I would have felt awful if it had caused that.

[rvwnsd]

The seventh paragraph under "Respect This Site" in the Terms of Service states:

 

7. Please do not post reviews on the Message Center. The work product of the Web Site that sponsors this message center is reviews of interest to Gay and Bisexual men. The reviews are subjected to a much closer scrutiny than the Message Center postings. The determination of whether a post is a review may require a judgment call. The judgment is final and not subject to review.

That's why posters suggest sending a PM (which is a carry over from the previous forum software. The current terminology is "start a conversation.") to obtain additional details.

[longtime lurker]

One of my posts almost got someone fired from his spa job. I was a little too explicit about our private non-spa session and some guy threatened to expose the masseur as doing more than massage. I erased all I had written and it worked out but I would have felt awful if it had caused that.

 

Yeah... you do have to be careful. It is not like you are a heterosexual businessman paying a blonde secretary to do more than just filing papers, a gynecologist being paid to stick his "tools" into his patients or a lawyer charging $300 for a 45 minute consultation (a.k.a. getting screwed without any pleasure involved).

[LivingnLA]

One of my posts almost got someone fired from his spa job. I was a little too explicit about our private non-spa session and some guy threatened to expose the masseur as doing more than massage. I erased all I had written and it worked out but I would have felt awful if it had caused that.

 

This is something we all need to remember, we're reviewing a human's job performance in a field that is illegal in many parts of the world. Our words have an impact and if we aren't careful and considerate, we can easily destroy careers or even lives.

[PaulM]

Well said, LivingLA!

[LivingnLA]

Well said, LivingLA!

 

Thanks. I try.

[+ HornyRetiree]

I will be open with my experiences on the massage table BUT never name the masseur or even the location - Usually I won't even PM it as our interactions may not be something he wishes to do w/ everyone.

[longtime lurker]

I will be open with my experiences on the massage table BUT never name the masseur or even the location - Usually I won't even PM it as our interactions may not be something he wishes to do w/ everyone.

 

There has been plenty of discussion here about any "legal red tape", especially for licensed masseurs. However what you suggest is the bigger issue. What consenting adults do behind closed doors is ultimately nobody else business, not even Homeland Security. No doubt, seedier activity happens in a lawyer's office and the fee per hour is always higher even if there is no enjoyment involved. However one shouldn't brag about one's experiences and name names because the masseur can't be expected to do the same with everybody.

 

Maybe it is just me and my personality, but I always ask what boundaries there are and what I am allowed to touch and not touch. (This goes both ways. "You can touch mine only if I can touch yours." Lol!) Heck, he may still be sore after being groped by his last client, so it makes sense to at least ask. Reading so many negative comments about individual experiences, my overall sense is that a lot of people don't communicate all that much in their sessions. Not that it is a requirement, since you do expect the masseur to be intuitive as to what you need. However, it sure makes the situation sssssooooo much easier if you get right to point: "OK. I understand that this session may be more 'erotic' than 'therapeutic'. Yet I also understand it may not morph into that Adam Russo video I watched online either. So what are we both comfortable with today?"