Advice for Asian Escort looking to start

[Tai]

Hey everyone

 

I was wondering if I could get some advice on different aspects of escorting as well as beginner questions. To start off I'm 21, East Asian and in good shape. I have a good base understanding of certain aspects of the industry but I still have so many questions since there's a lot I feel I might need to know.

 

I'm planning on working independently so a lot of the things a agency might offer is going to be off the table. I'm also planning on moving to another continent at some point and will probably rely more heavily on escorting financially then. In regards to locations, I'm currently in Canada where from my understanding of the legal status, it's better for the escort than it is for the client however some provinces seem to have slightly different laws. I reside in Montreal where there's a decent enough population so hopefully there's a good amount of business. One thing I tend to worry about is that my ethnicity, which could be a pro or a con. In the dating scene it's well yenno.. but I was thinking of using all the stereotypes to my advantage just assuming that anyone looking for an asian escort (most?) will probably be looking for someone who essentially fits those stereotypes. Bottom, submissive, twinky, young looking, "cute" I really don't mind pushing that as my selling point but it does make me want to ask To those of you who are interested in a Asian (bottom) escort what qualities and physical attributes are you looking for? Asians come in all shapes and sizes obviously but I'm hoping sticking closer to this image will attract the most customers plus I feel most comfortable in that area anyway. I also see wayyy more tops than bottoms in listings and I was wondering do most clients seek tops over bottoms?

 

Next for the job itself. Since it is somewhat legal in Canada I've been unsure about whether extensive screening is necessary at all? I know in the states there's a understanding that it is illegal for both parties so maybe due to that, clients are more willing to give up information but in countries like Canada, France and the UK how do escorts screen out the sketchy clients. I also still don't quite understand how to screen. Is it just asking them for their name then googling it or getting their work number then confirming and in a way having leverage on them? I'm really curious about how escorts screen in the countries I listed above just because safety is probably the number 1 concern. It's too bad since I know a lot of guys are perfectly safe and just want a good time but there's always the "other" ones who make it necessary to be cautious.

 

I'm also iffy about how to protect my identity. I don't want to show my face in my ads and I'm also unsure if I'm willing to send a face pic to a potential client. It's not like I know thousands of people and one might recognize me but I just don't want to take any chances. I feel like most potential clients would refuse to meet a escort without seeing their face first but is there any kind of compromise like maybe blurring it out enough that you can tell I'm not shrek in the face. How does seeing or not seeing a escorts face affect if you decide to see them or not and if you're an escort how does it affect your business?

 

The location of the "meeting" is also something I've been trying to figure out. Both (Incall and Outcall) have their pros and cons. In most cases I think it's easiest to have your own Incall location to not only give the clients who may not want you at their home or can't have you at their home (married or otherwise) a easy and comfortable location to see you. But for escorts who cannot afford to live on their own how do you manage? I've thought about renting a Airbnb (for a weekend or something) but those can run a hefty bill if it's only for a few clients and if I get a hotel room it'll probably cost more not to mention it being more monitored and potentially having an annoying key card system making it a hassle to let clients in. There's also the whole booking a room with your ID which isn't desirable if you're trying to keep your identify safe. Then in the case the client has you come over there's so many more safety issues since you're in their "turf" and if not harm, you could also be filmed. What to do :/ What's the usual scenario for incall and outcall meetings?

 

1 hour also seems a bit long so I was also curious to know what usually goes down in that time? Do you start off with a massage some foreplay then the nasty? Or do you get right to business then just hang out after just chilling and chatting? What in your experience has been the typical schedule in a 1 hour meeting. (I really have no idea, so I'm sorry if this is a dumb question)

 

And last question. In the event that you meet with a client that just gives you a bad feeling either in terms of safety or somethings off (or even they repulse you to the point of no return, not likely but you never know) how do you leave without them getting mad or offended or cause them to try to retaliate against you? I know the guys on here are probably the nice/respectable ones but still.

 

Any advice is really appreciated even if it's not something I asked.

Xoxo Thanks : )

[Kevin Slater]

In the event that you meet with a client that just gives you a bad feeling either in terms of safety or somethings off (or even they repulse you to the point of no return, not likely but you never know) how do you leave without them getting mad or offended or cause them to try to retaliate against you? I know the guys on here are probably the nice/respectable ones but still.

 

First off, if you feel uneasy, get the fuck out and deal with the ramifications after. Do not stick around for fear of reprisal to your reputation or what have you.

 

Now, if he's done something specific that you're not pleased with and him not doing it would make it ok, say so. You know, I'd feel much more comfortable if you'd put down that video camera.

 

If it's something that you can't quite identify, or it's irreparable, simply excuse yourself. You know, I'm just not feeling this. I don't think I'll be able to perform to either of our satisfaction. Sorry to have wasted your time.

 

If he's just something that you just can't rise to the challenge of and it's fixable (bad bath, needs to douche), say so. I think we both should take a shot of mouthwash.

 

If it's not fixable (you're not great with age/weight/race/disability/looks/political leanings) but he's otherwise been a gentleman, please try to excuse yourself leaving him with his dignity. He's gone out on a limb hiring you, and no one needs to hear that they can't even pay for someone's company. I'm so sorry, you're a dead ringer for my uncle whom I had some bad experiences with. I'm afraid I'd be too distracted to make this enjoyable for either of us. I'm jealous of the next lucky guy you contact.

 

If you feel threatened, don't feel compelled to explain yourself. This isn't going to work out. Or just leave. Or scream. Or whatever. Your (and his) safety is the most important thing here.

 

Kevin Slater

[+ not2rowdy]

Here is something helpful to check out by @devonhunter

 

http://www.devonhunter.info/archives/2685/

[robberbaron4u]

I refer you to my post titled "Seeking somethin' exotic and easy on the eye for the winter season".

[corndog]

Since you're in Montreal, I would consider reaching out to Ronielle, who is an established escort there, and, in my experience, a really nice guy. It's possible that he'd be hesitant to help you because you're potential competition, but I doubt it.

[Tai]

@Kevin Slater Safety first got it, Thanks!

@not2rowdy Thanks!

@robberbaron4u haha

@corndog Yea he seems really professional! Unfortunately no other asian escort I've reached out to has gotten back to me which I kinda get but at the same time there's like 5 of us in total so it's not like an extra one would disrupt the balance of business lol. I might've just been filtered into the "other/not a client/time waster side of their email. Oh well :/

[BaronArtz]

If you have the money, you could hire a few escorts in your area and see how they set it up. Learn from their best practices and from their mistakes. Or you could invite a few escorts for a cup of coffee and ask them if they are willing to share some of their insights.

 

In NYC, some LGBT community centers such as Callan-Lorde, offer peer group discussions as a support to sex workers. I bet you could find that in Montreal as well. You might find that helpful.

 

Good luck, be careful and have an exit strategy!

[+ MasssageGuy]

If you have the money, you could hire a few escorts in your area and see how they set it up. Learn from their best practices and from their mistakes. Or you could invite a few escorts for a cup of coffee and ask them if they are willing to share some of their insights.

 

In NYC, some LGBT community centers such as Callan-Lorde, offer peer group discussions as a support to sex workers. I bet you could find that in Montreal as well. You might find that helpful.

 

Good luck, be careful and have an exit strategy!

Now this is excellent advice!

[Tai]

@BaronArtz Wouldn't be comfortable hiring them at all but I've thought about meeting someone over tea or coffee for advice. They're just not big on answering my emails haha. But thank you for the advice, fingers crossed they were just busy this holiday season.

[+ newatthis]

Hi Tai; welcome! I hope you'll find my reactions to some of your statements/questions helpful.

 

...To start off I'm 21, East Asian and in good shape....I reside in Montreal ...One thing I tend to worry about is that my ethnicity, which could be a pro or a con...but I was thinking of using all the stereotypes to my advantage just assuming that anyone looking for an asian escort (most?) will probably be looking for someone who essentially fits those stereotypes. Bottom, submissive, twinky, young looking, "cute" ...

Twinky, young looking, "cute" are attributes you don't have any control over. But are you, in fact, submissive and only a bottom? If not, I don't see any advantage in limiting your clientele in that way. There are some of us out there who 1) think there are too few Asian escorts and 2) like Asian tops as much as bottoms! That's especially true in Montreal.

I'm also iffy about how to protect my identity. I don't want to show my face in my ads and I'm also unsure if I'm willing to send a face pic to a potential client...1 hour also seems a bit long so I was also curious to know what usually goes down in that time? Do you start off with a massage some foreplay then the nasty? Or do you get right to business then just hang out after just chilling and chatting? What in your experience has been the typical schedule in a 1 hour meeting. (I really have no idea, so I'm sorry if this is a dumb question)

These two statements make me wonder how much you've really thought through what it means to work as an escort. Kevin S and others have made some suggestions about the safety issues.

 

As for an hour seeming "a bit long" -- do all your personal sexual encounters go wham, bam and out the door? You can't really imagine how to fill an hour with fun activities? Or is it that you have an idea that being hired somehow changes the nature of the encounter? Being a successful escort means being able to approach each client first and foremost as another human being, with the same needs and feelings that you have.

 

I suspect emails out of the blue to established escorts are not likely to get you much of a response. The idea of hiring someone (I've never met Ronielle, but have heard only good things about him, both as a person and as an escort) strikes me as an excellent one.

 

One last thing. If you decide to take this step, come back to this forum and let us know. Include a link to your profile...there is at least one person here who has already reacted positively to your self-description and would like to know more .

[Tai]

@newatthis Thanks for the advice!

And yes I'm very much submissive along with being twinky and whatnot. Hate to be the stereotype but for me personally I'm much more likely to say "f*ck me daddy" than "spread em" haha but if anyone here is looking for a Asian top, Ronielle is probably the hottest one I've ever seen (working at least).

And about an hour seeming long it's true I figured it would be a lot different from being with a significant other (more emotional?) but I guess that's what separates street walkers from escorts. I'll note that down

[nate_sf]

There was a similar thread a few months back that covered some of these points: http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/seeking-guidance-for-becoming-an-escort.116672/

 

I'm sorta guessing you may be the same guy that initiated that earlier thread, and if so that's totally OK. It's not unusual to have a couple of false starts when contemplating entering the biz... I know I kicked it around for a couple of years before I placed my first ad. On the other hand if I've got that all wrong, then check out that other thread as there are some good suggestions there.

 

As for your questions, here's my collections of two cents:

 

Working independently - Yes. There's not a whole lot left in the way of agencies these days, though that may be different in Montreal. However the advantage of being independent is you can carry your skills and business wherever you go.

 

Ethnicity and expectations - I'd suggest present yourself in the most honest and straightforward manner rather than trying to tailor your presentation to what you think people will want. Nobody can appeal to everyone, so the best bet is to put yourself out there and let the clients who click with you come forward. Given your age you will no doubt find some clients will expect twink characteristics, so that can be a natural marketing angle for you, but only if it at least in part fits your personality and what you bring to the appointment. Are you a top, bottom, or versatile? Whatever the truthful answer is to that, I'd suggest that's how to market yourself.

 

Legal stuff and screening - I don't know much about the legal stuff in Canada, but as for screening a lot of it comes down to using your gut. Googling numbers may turn up some things, but often it doesn't. But if someone makes you feel ill at ease, give them a pass. A lot of escorts develop some kind of screening protocol that allows them to vet a client, such as confirming the appointment by phone call rather than text or email. Through the exchange of messages, and through the client's manner in a phone call, you can begin to get a good sense of whether they are serious and above-board. Clients also have their own protocols for screening, so you may be asked for additional photos or information, and you'll need to decide what is reasonable. In terms of protocol in the appointment itself, @Kevin Slater's points above are right on.

 

Face pics - Though the trend these days seems to be for escorts to show their faces more often than not in advertising, there are plenty of guys who do not show face pics and they seem to do OK. You can decide whether you're comfortable sending a face pic privately by email, but it's totally OK to say you won't send them under any circumstances. There are clients who will not hire if they can't see a face pic, so you need to be prepared to lose them, but at the end you need to keep things in your comfort level. I used to offer clients the opportunity for calling off the session with no obligation if they found I wasn't who they envisioned, so that's something you could offer in lieu of a face pic.

 

Incalls - It's great if you can offer a venue for incalls, but lots of escorts don't due to their living situations (roommates, spouses, etc.). It's not unusual to only offer outcalls. You could book a hotel room or airbnb but I'd only suggest that if you know you'll have at least one client confirmed who can offset the cost. I used to book hotel rooms through Priceline and could find decent deals so it could work economically. I wouldn't be too concerned with booking a room with your ID provided it's a reputable hotel, since they should keep your details protected (at least in North America - I can't speak for other parts of the world). In all the years of my booking local hotels for appointments, only once did I get a sideways glance from the desk staff - typically hotel staff are instructed to be discreet. That said I'd always try to make a good impression at checkin, ideally throwing on a blazer (it's surprising what that will do for how people treat you!) and not trying to attract attention. If there is a key card thing for getting into the elevators, you'll need to meet your client in front of the hotel or in the lobby, but neither of these are out of the ordinary behavior at most hotels, as people are meeting up for all kinds of reasons.

 

Hour appointment - @newatthis makes a good point, you need to put some thought into the whole sequence of events in an appointment. There's typically some chatting at the beginning, following by becoming progressively intimate. Typically things are less rushed and move more slowly than a typical hook-up, and there is indeed chilling and chatting afterwards, maybe with a shower together. From time to time you'll find someone who wants to just get down to business, and you may find yourself out the door relatively quickly, but I found this to be the exception. After a few appointments I think you'll find an hour actually goes pretty quickly. I found 90 mins was a more ideal timeframe for a session.

 

Good luck, and use this forum as a resource!

[Tai]

@nate_sf Close, we're both "from" Asia and Canadian but I'm not Indian haha. And thanks for the detailed response! I sort of started my googling/research off paranoid thinking I'd get blackmailed and murdered while escorting but now I feel a bit better. It can basically be as simple as a hookup only I'm being paid and only one of us will need to worry about if the other liked us or not.

[LivingnLA]

@nate_sf Close, we're both "from" Asia and Canadian but I'm not Indian haha. And thanks for the detailed response! I sort of started my googling/research off paranoid thinking I'd get blackmailed and murdered while escorting but now I feel a bit better. It can basically be as simple as a hookup only I'm being paid and only one of us will need to worry about if the other liked us or not.

 

There are bad people and even dangerous people everywhere. But, generally, most humans are nice or at least neutral. As has been said many times, follow your gut. We have instincts because they've served our species well over the past few hundred thousand years.

 

I put that last bit in bold because it struck me as a bit too cynical for someone new to this business. Perhaps I'm naive, but to me, the fundamental humanity of whoever I'm with matters to me. Yes, I'm paying for their time and whatever else we're doing, but that doesn't mean I don't care how they're feeling or what they're thinking. There's a very funny thread about things clients and escorts say sometimes. I'm struck by the posts that show clients or escorts not engaged in their session. Just going through the motions will always feel fake to those in the moment.

 

Yes, we all have bad days, but I believe an escort who doesn't have a deep well of empathy and humanity, won't last long in this field because it strikes me as akin to other forms of professional therapy. If you can't see your clients as people first and wallets second, I imagine this profession will chew you up and spit you out sooner than later. The same holds true for clients who only see dicks, asses or muscles without any appreciation or concern for the human being in that amazing body.

 

Just remember, this is an intimate customer service. It should be important to you that your client is enjoying their time with you and for many of them, they will be able to sense if you're just faking it. Some won't care, but I bet many will care because it destroys their fantasy. Yes, you'll likely be working with clients who are challenging, even difficult. Try to find the positive, "fake it til you make it," and build the client base you want to succeed.

[TruHart1]

Thanks for posting and welcome to the forum, @Tai! I agree with many here who see a one hour appointment as being somewhat short, rather than too long. My very first hire was for a one hour appointment and although the escort blew my mind, along with other parts of my anatomy, I now feel that in most cases, to enjoy my sessions with a good escort, I need to book for at least 2 hours, especially with the guys who give me a true boyfriend experience, for which I'm always hopeful. This is true with me whether I hire either a top or bottom escort.

 

To completely enjoy my time with a good escort, I feel it is always preferable to talk a while and get to know the guy. Then our intimate time becomes more meaningful for me, (and hopefully for him!) usually paving the way for good chemistry between us. In addition, I really enjoy cuddling after we cum. I do think that if the escort seems in a hurry to "get it over with" quickly, he is most likely not perceiving me as a fellow human being but an ATM from which he can withdraw cash as soon as he gets me off with a quick hand job! That, to me is the opposite of a boyfriend experience and would cause me to not hire the escort again, no matter how hot the escort might be physically!

 

Of course, you have to decide what is within your comfort zone here and advertise accordingly. I have seen a few (not many) escorts who hire in half-hours, rather than one hour increments. If that would work better for you being in your comfort zone, you might want to try that. As a client, I would likely interpret an escort ad such as that as meaning the escort just wants to get the client off and leave with the money ASAP, more than likely not making any kind of real human connection and certainly no boyfriend experience. I would skip over an ad such as that and move on to another escort without much thought.

 

You, as an escort, have to do what you are comfortable with, though, so remember that. If you agree to being hired for one hour or two hours, you are likely to lose possible clients or returning clients if you do not give them the full amount of time for which they are hiring you. My most treasured experiences with escorts are with those guys who allow for a bit of extra time at the end of each appointment so they don't get the reputation of being a "clock-watcher." As a client, some of my most disappointing experiences have been when the escort reminds me that I only have 5 minutes left with him and asks me how I'd prefer to "get off." That always seems somewhat cold and completely unsubtle.

 

Anyway, good luck @Tai, and I hope you find your niche as an escort. As you say, Asians are often a rarity and a great Asian escort seems quite a find in this hobby which I enjoy so much!

 

TruHart1

[Tai]

@LivingnLA @TruHart1 Great points, can't forget that there's an emotional side to this work as well. Maybe not for every client but there'll be a few. It's really helpful to get advice from clients and escorts alike Thanks!

[corndog]

Here's another tidbit of advice that I really hope you'll take to heart:

 

The very best escorts don't "fake it." They don't pretend to be attracted to their clients; they don't simulate a connection that isn't really there. These are rare and gifted individuals who have a very special talent that allows them to find the beauty and attractiveness of whoever they're with. They're not faking it because they are attracted, they are connected, and the are totally present in the moment. I think that there might be only a handful of escorts that have achieved this level of "enlightenment," but I sincerely hope that you, as well as all other aspiring professionals, reach toward this goal.

[+ Keith30309]

Here's another tidbit of advice that I really hope you'll take to heart:

 

The very best escorts don't "fake it." They don't pretend to be attracted to their clients; they don't simulate a connection that isn't really there. These are rare and gifted individuals who have a very special talent that allows them to find the beauty and attractiveness of whoever they're with. They're not faking it because they are attracted, they are connected, and the are totally present in the moment. I think that there might be only a handful of escorts that have achieved this level of "enlightenment," but I sincerely hope that you, as well as all other aspiring professionals, reach toward this goal.

 

Very well said!

 

As I think back on the outstanding meetings I've had with companions, this is exactly what I've observed.

 

I've met a handful of very new escorts recently and the very first thing I've told each of them is don't get into this unless you truly enjoy it. I understand everyone has rent payments to make and student loans to repay but if you don't enjoy what you're doing then you're going to be lousy at it and neither you nor your client will enjoy the experience.

[Tai]

@Keith30309 Well I guess it's a good thing I tend to like older guys who know what they want and how they want it haha But in all seriousness the idea of pleasuring a man (and on top of that the compliment of being chosen) is quite appealing. It's definitely not a job for everyone but I can see myself being one of the escorts who secretly enjoys their job a bit more than others. Fingers crossed people are into asians

[pubic_assistance]

To those of you who are interested in a Asian (bottom) escort what qualities and physical attributes are you looking for?

I am attracted to a wide variety of people, so I can say when I meet a young Asian bottom guy, I am generally attracted to him because he's physically fit ( even if he's slender and twinkish), a pretty face, nice smile, and a kind, submissive personality, that is all about pleasing ME.

 

How do escorts screen out the sketchy clients.

THAT is a skill that comes with experience. On the flip side, I personally screen out "hook ups" by spending a bit of time just chatting online, like normal people. I find if you can't behave like a human being outside of the quest for hot sex, then you can't behave like a human being DURING sex.

How does seeing or not seeing a escorts face affect if you decide to see them or not and if you're an escort how does it affect your business?

I would never hire an escort without seeing their face. If you are WAAAAY worried, I suggest you scan through a few thousand photos of Asian men your age, and find one who could be your twin, and use that. Most people won't notice the slight difference in person, as none of us look exactly like our photos anyway.

What's the usual scenario for incall and outcall meetings?

Once you are past the screening, you are at more risk, with a man in YOUR space, causing trouble and trying to get rid of him. If your "date" can't host, then let HIM figure out where to go. Hotels come with security, so far less risk of any funny business. It's also a good idea to let a trusted friend know where you'll be when you meet men at their place. Make sure they know you've returned until you feel you've gotten the hang of this thing, and possibly have organized some regulars to see.

 

I was also curious to know what usually goes down in a full hour?

One of the main reasons I hire is that I like EXTENDED play time. Younger gay men do have a tendency for slam*bam*hook up sex from watching too much quickie porn.

Personally, I look for masseurs who offer erotic sessions. I always prefer to start out with nude massage, then some erotic foreplay and if the professional is interested, sometimes take it on to some full on fun.

But the agreement is I am paying for erotic massage, not sex. So it gives both of us an "out" if things aren't working out. I typically hire for 90 minutes of time and I expect a professional to KNOW how to fill all 90 minutes with a range of enjoyable experiences.

 

In the event that you meet with a client that just gives you a bad feeling, how do you leave without them getting mad or offended or cause them to try to retaliate against you?

In case of a bad online hook up, I always use the excuse that I am " feeling sick and may vomit", they are very happy to be rid of you in an instant.

 

Overall...keep in mind that escorting requires you deal with the general public, so you need to develop a keen sense of identifying different types of personalities and learn to choose where your limits are.

[corndog]

If you are WAAAAY worried, I suggest you scan through a few thousand photos of Asian men your age, and find one who could be your twin, and use that. Most people won't notice the slight difference in person, as none of us look exactly like our photos anyway.

 

I think this suggestion is very risky. A lot of us use google image search as part of our screening process, and if we find that the photos you're using come from somewhere else on the internet, it sends up a huge red flag. Regardless of how much the photo may resemble you, it brings up a concern about honesty. It makes me wonder "If he's using a fake photo, what other aspects of his ad are lies?"

 

My personal opinion is that you can omit face pictures in your ad, but if I'm going to proceed, you're probably going to have to be willing to send a face picture via text message or email.

[pubic_assistance]

I think this suggestion is very risky. A lot of us use google image search as part of our screening process, and if we find that the photos you're using come from somewhere else on the internet, it sends up a huge red flag. Regardless of how much the photo may resemble you, it brings up a concern about honesty. It makes me wonder "If he's using a fake photo, what other aspects of his ad are lies?"

 

My personal opinion is that you can omit face pictures in your ad, but if I'm going to proceed, you're probably going to have to be willing to send a face picture via text message or email.

True, to a degree. But Google search does NOT bring up EVERY image from every source.....so you aren't necessarily going to find out. It's been used before, with me, and as long as the fellow is similar in appearance, I don't mind. Obviously if you're delusional in thinking you look like a movie star, and you don't ...well then you're in trouble. But as long as you're being reasonable, I personally don't mind. I use one fellow on a regular basis who's "fake" pix are almost indiscernible from himself. It's all about this young man wanting an option.

[+ quoththeraven]

True, to a degree. But Google search does NOT bring up EVERY image from every source.....so you aren't necessarily going to find out. It's been used before, with me, and as long as the fellow is similar in appearance, I don't mind. Obviously if you're delusional in thinking you look like a movie star, and you don't ...well then you're in trouble. But as long as you're being reasonable, I personally don't mind. I use one fellow on a regular basis who's "fake" pix are almost indiscernible from himself. It's all about this young man wanting an option.

 

You may not be bothered if the photo is a reasonable facsimile, but it's clear from previous discussions that others are bothered by it. I don't live or die by face pics, so it's not really an issue for me.

 

It's also kinda sleazy to rip off someone else's photos to protect oneself. If keeping privacy is important, it's possible to have photos taken that don't show one's face but still give a decent idea of one's looks (jawline, for example). If it's important, then it's important enough to accept the occasional turn down.

 

Also, if privacy is truly important, do not e-mail pics. It just takes one person sharing them and they're out there. Use a "free walkaway" policy instead.

[pubic_assistance]

You may not be bothered if the photo is a reasonable facsimile, but it's clear from previous discussions that others are bothered by it. I don't live or die by face pics, so it's not really an issue for me.

 

It's also kinda sleazy to rip off someone else's photos to protect oneself. If keeping privacy is important, it's possible to have photos taken that don't show one's face but still give a decent idea of one's looks (jawline, for example). If it's important, then it's important enough to accept the occasional turn down.

 

Also, if privacy is truly important, do not e-mail pics. It just takes one person sharing them and they're out there. Use a "free walkaway" policy instead.

I think in the digital era, being concerned about sharing your face photo is a bit paranoid. There are dozens of places you could have gotten my face photo from. Doesn't mean that I am implicated in anything simply because someone sent you my face pic.

[corndog]

I think in the digital era, being concerned about sharing your face photo is a bit paranoid. There are dozens of places you could have gotten my face photo from. Doesn't mean that I am implicated in anything simply because someone sent you my face pic.

 

This a good point. I think that some guys make sure that their face pics and nude pics are separate photos and they make sure they never show their face in the nude pics. Assuming that you don't have any identifying tattoos, there is no proof that the nude photos are you, and there is no way to prove that you have actually advertised on an escorting site -- it could be YOU that is the victim of photo theft.