Attracting The Male Species

[Godiva]

Okay........... so I went to the "Atlanta Bread Company" this morn for my usual bagel w/cream cheese and I noticed this well built guy waiting for his order... shoot a couple of looks in my direction. I placed my order and sat down to wait for them to call me. This hunk then comes down to sit where I was sitting. He stands up to remove his coat but instead of doing it quickly..he points his amazing ass in my direction and takes his coat off slowly..(He knew I'd be watching) than he sits down and crosses his huge legs so I could see he was a body builder. Well I was shooting a couple of glances his way as he pretended to read. My order was up I got up looked at him again than left the place wondering..

 

A) was he gay and hitting on me and I missed the signs..

B) was he straight..noticed I was watching and liked the attention.

 

How Will I Know??

.... when someone is interested and not just flattered. It used to be easy in the old days when straight guys wouldn't look you in the eyes after a certain amount of time..now it seems they like the attention.

 

I attended a party about 6mnths ago and I saddled up to the bar and was taking with this muscle guy (my type) never met him before but we talked about gym shit and sports. After a few more drinks he was touching and hugging me in the ole "drunk fratboy" way. I was hard as a rock and I took the "ballsy"(sp) chance and asked him if he liked to fuck. He said... no man thats not my thing..I apologized... but you know what...he kept on talking to me as if nothing ever happened.. touching and hugging me. He knew I was staring at his pecs and ass and he didn't mind. When he left the party with some girl he grabbed my shoulder and said with a smile...Good Luck Man. Wow!!!

 

How do you guys let someone know your interested when your not in a "gay friendly place" ie bar or cruise etc.. What works for you!!

 

Has anyone else had any embarrasing situations like mine above??

 

How do you guys flirt with someone to let them know you are interested? I know this sounds very "High School" but when you live a "straight" area it is hard to read the signs.

 

I'm Confused!!

 

G

[seaboy4hire]

Godiva you got some biz cards? If so pass one to the young man and make up some exuse about giving it to him. See examples like this is why I live in the gay/very gay friendly area of my city. It makes it less confusing and questioning on whether or not one is being cruised or not.

 

Hugs,

Greg

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[+ deej]

Anyone that flirty/friendly and confident has probably been propositioned by a guy before. Don't think you're the first gay man he's ever got sloppy drunk with (or near).

 

That's why he didn't rip your head off when you asked if he was interested. He's used to it and probably clueless about what brings it on. (They're so cute when they're that dumb!)

 

I've done the business card thing, usually telling them I do photography as a hobby. If he says "hey, thanks man!" and dives lustily into his soup-in-a-bread-bowl it's over (well, except for that one time). If he asks "what kind of pictures?" you might have a taker.

[Godiva]

Thanxs deej and seaboy..I'll try those ideas.

 

Where are the other sexy ideas??

 

BTW to escorts..If your out and someone shows interest in you and your not that interested do you then tell them you are an escort and you charge as oppose to someone who may interest you and you don't say anything but have fun...

 

 

G

[Swiss Lumber]

LOL...this "I am a photographer." excuse is so tired and worn. I met a lot of this type everywhere and I think it only works with the younger crowd.

[BobbyB]

>LOL...this "I am a photographer." excuse is so tired and

>worn. I met a lot of this type everywhere and I think it only

>works with the younger crowd.

 

 

Hell, I think the last person to fall for that line was Lana Turner! ;-)

 

- BobbyB

[Trixie]

Instead of photographer, why not try saying "I am a massage therapist"... (and in certain parts of California, 5 out of ten people are in fact massage therapists. The other five are just plain therapists.) If he takes the bait, at least you'll get some hands-on experience.

 

Trixie

[Trixie]

BTW Godiva, I don't think the situation at the party was embarrassing at all! There's no shame in letting someone know you're interested, especially if, for whatever reason, he was getting sloppy physical with you. And even tho' he said no, he did so in a kind, very egalitarian manner. Since he kept on with the arm-over-the-shoulder routine afterwards, he was letting you know that he was okay with your being gay, and really enjoyed your company.

Naturally, there are times when making a discrete proposition might yield unpleasant results, but in this case it seems you had the best rejection one could hope for.

 

Trix

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Queer Eye For The Straight Guy

 

>BTW Godiva, I don't think the situation at the party was

>embarrassing at all! There's no shame in letting someone know

>you're interested, especially if, for whatever reason, he was

>getting sloppy physical with you. And even tho' he said no,

>he did so in a kind, very egalitarian manner. Since he kept

>on with the arm-over-the-shoulder routine afterwards, he was

>letting you know that he was okay with your being gay, and

>really enjoyed your company.

 

I agree that I see no embarrassment either. I also think the flirtious and touching was probably an indication that you could quietly proposition him in a friendly manner, as you did. In the case at the bagel place, I think a proposition might have caused you more potential harm than gotten you your desire.

 

In both cases, I think both men (and likely others) did and do like both the attention, the admiration of the physical appeal and so forth. Especially for body builders, I think that it is a man doing the admiration is not an issue: it is merely another mirror for them to enjoy their own reflection.

 

http://www.gaydar.co.uk/francodisantis

[eastbayguy]

RE: Queer Eye For The Straight Guy

 

>Especially for body builders, I think that it

>is a man doing the admiration is not an issue: it is merely

>another mirror for them to enjoy their own reflection.

 

Very well said, I love your phrasing here.

 

--EBG

[knight.d]

>BTW Godiva, I don't think the situation at the party was

>embarrassing at all! There's no shame in letting someone know

>you're interested, especially if, for whatever reason, he was

>getting sloppy physical with you. And even tho' he said no,

>he did so in a kind, very egalitarian manner. Since he kept

>on with the arm-over-the-shoulder routine afterwards, he was

>letting you know that he was okay with your being gay, and

>really enjoyed your company.

> Naturally, there are times when making a discrete

>proposition might yield unpleasant results, but in this case

>it seems you had the best rejection one could hope for.

>

>Trix

 

I agree. Since I am comfortable with being known as a man who likes men, I approach men in The Real World--as opposed to gay enclaves which feel artificial and exaggerated to me--and take the chance of a rejection.

 

I long ago told myself to feel as free as if I were a man looking for a woman. Would a straight man ask out a pretty woman in a grocery store, or at the next table in a restaurant, etc. The answer, of course, is yes! With that outlook must come the realization that one does not score a home run each time one is at bat. But it's so wonderful to be out of the dug-out of the closet that it's worth it.

 

Sometimes friendliness may seem flirtatious, in fact, it may be flirtatious. I'm not interested in being flirted with, I want to get close to someone. So if I'm rejected in offering myself, I'll remove myself from the flirtation.

 

I couldn't imagine using the line about being a photographer or a massage therapist. I have given people my calling card, but very few have made use of it. My style is to express enthusiasm and interest in the exchange, and then say something like, "This is a great conversation. Maybe we can continue it sometime. Would you give me a way to make contact?" In other words, I show my hand. Someone may caress it or slap it, but that's got to be OK with me.

[Guest msclonly]

Get some Pheromones.

 

There is one for guys to attract guys.

 

:+ :+ :+

[Godiva]

Thanxs guys for the advice..

 

I have used the business card idea in my own way...I take the train everyday to the city so I get to check out Dress Pants/Chino ass. It is a good 1&1/2hr ride. There are a few regulars who we have eye contact. One always sits with 3 other guys, they are all married and in their 30's. One guy is always staring at me and one day I caught him looking at my crotch while I was half asleep. I put a blank card with my Stage name and cell in his brief case. This happened a few weeks ago. He did call me a few days later...very coy and evasive..doesn't know what he wants..I told him to call me when he does.

 

I like taking chances...It is the thrill. I do know that I have to be careful and I pick and choose my senarios carefully.

 

There are some hunks that I sit next to on the train, smell their cologne aaaahh..open up the sports page and start spewing

"heteroisms". We talk and I stare and dream;(

 

 

G