A Newcomer Wades Into The Escort Pool

[NowOrNever]

Hey guys,

 

I am a longtime lurker who has enjoyed reading the forums and reviews for many years, but am only now becoming a member here and preparing to hire for the first time. In my middle age, I refuse to let insecurity or nervousness hold me back from experiencing this area of my life.

 

It's now or never!

 

As I prepare for my first experience with an escort, I am keeping the following guidelines in mind. These pointers I have learned from reading the informative messages here.

 

1. Be clear in what you want. An escort is not a mind reader, and can only give you the best-possible experience if he knows exactly what you are looking for. He has probably heard it all by now, so be discrete but forthright.

 

2. Be serious and ready to meet. No one wants to exchange 9,876,543 email messages only to discover that the potential client just wants masturbation material from behind his keyboard.

 

3. Don't haggle about the price. It is what it is. If the escort wants to give his regular clients a discount for multiple hours or repeated visits, he will tell you. Be prepared to give the listed donation.

 

4. Be scrupulously clean and make sure your breath is fresh.

 

5. Go into the meeting with realistic expectations. You are meeting a human being not a tireless sexual athlete or robot. Even if the chemistry takes a while to ignite, have a sense of humor and some patience. It may still work out in the end.

 

If you gentlemen can think of anything else I should keep in mind, feel free to let me know. The more prepared I am, the less nervous I will be. I hope!

 

Thanks in advance.

[liubit]

Excellent points, @NowOrNever, it seems that you have done your homework. I have been hiring regularly for over 25 years now, and I would only add: "Don't overthink it, and remember to have fun"

[Bearofdistinction]

As you wade into the pool - Don't Forget your Rubbers!!!!!!!!!

[NowOrNever]

Excellent points, @NowOrNever, it seems that you have done your homework. I have been hiring regularly for over 25 years now, and I would only add: "Don't overthink it, and remember to have fun"

 

Don't overthink it. That is my problem, but I'm pretty sure it's the same for everyone in the beginning. I envy your 25-year history. Do you still get nervous? Have the majority of your experiences been positive? (I hope they have!)

[NowOrNever]

As you wade into the pool - Don't Forget your Rubbers!!!!!!!!!

 

ROTF! When the escort peels off his speedo, I will try to keep my head above water and remember the rubbers, yes.

[Swimjock]

Hey @NowOrNever,

 

Welcome. I am a recovering lurker and new to the forum, as well. Wishing you the best in your new journey. I was where you are 4 years ago. The guys here know it all, and I've already found them to be accepting and encouraging. Live it up, bud!

[NowOrNever]

Hey @NowOrNever,

 

Welcome. I am a recovering lurker and new to the forum, as well. Wishing you the best in your new journey. I was where you are 4 years ago. The guys here know it all, and I've already found them to be accepting and encouraging. Live it up, bud!

 

Hey Swimjock, I'm glad to see that I am not the only recovering lurker in the forums. The guys here are great and have a lot of experience to share, which finally gave me the push I needed to become a member and start posting. Have you been hiring for four years? It must be working out well for you if you keep going back for more! I am making a wish-list now, of the guys I am considering for my first time, and I'll probably post it and see what the other members have to say.

[Swimjock]

I understand the lurking, believe me. I've been hiring about 4 years. Learned everything I needed to know about it here on the forum. Good luck and PM me if you ever need anything.

[NowOrNever]

I understand the lurking, believe me. I've been hiring about 4 years. Learned everything I needed to know about it here on the forum. Good luck and PM me if you ever need anything.

 

Thank you, SJ, I will do that. The list of porn stars you have hired(as seen in the Porn-Star thread) makes me envious! Feel free to PM me at any time too!

[+ glennnn]

Welcome aboard @NowOrNever ! I'm just over one year here. I blush to say, I didn't lurk at all. I just dove in and found the water fine. If you stick with escorts with solid reputations based on reviews and advice from here, you won't go wrong. Enjoy your pursuit of happiness; don't be nervous, the escorts are wonderful. I know I cant get enough.

[NowOrNever]

Welcome aboard @NowOrNever ! I'm just over one year here. I blush to say, I didn't lurk at all. I just dove in and found the water fine. If you stick with escorts with solid reputations based on reviews and advice from here, you won't go wrong. Enjoy your pursuit of happiness; don't be nervous, the escorts are wonderful. I know I cant get enough.

 

Just from reading their posts on these forums, I know there are many warm, intelligent and sexy-as-hell escorts out there. I just wish I could travel around the country and meet them all!

[+ glennnn]

Let's rent a bus and do it. I have a least five guys I want to see in NYC alone.

[NowOrNever]

Let's rent a bus and do it. I have a least five guys I want to see in NYC alone.

 

We should compare lists via PM! New York is dripping with babes!

[DonaldTramp]

Love & light!

[liubit]

I envy your 25-year history. Do you still get nervous? Have the majority of your experiences been positive? (I hope they have!)

Well, @NowOrNever, I am happy to report that in those 25 plus years of hiring, first in NYC, then Amsterdam, London, and now Prague, most of my experiences have been extremely positive. Of course, I have had my fair share of bad apples too, especially at the beginning, in the pre-Internet, pre-Hooboy, pre-Daddys era, but they are a handful, really. Go for it, go for it!

 

And no, I don't get nervous anymore. When I hire a new guy, I feel more the thrill and the expectation. Sometimes, they are the ones who can be nervous. After all, they know nothing about the client they are meeting. You, on the other hand, know at least what they look like....

[+ nycman]

Excellent points, @NowOrNever"Don't overthink it, and remember to have fun"

 

I was just about to typo those EXACT words....great minds....

[NowOrNever]

Well, @NowOrNever, I am happy to report that in those 25 plus years of hiring, first in NYC, then Amsterdam, London, and now Prague, most of my experiences have been extremely positive. Of course, I have had my fair share of bad apples too, especially at the beginning, in the pre-Internet, pre-Hooboy, pre-Daddys era, but they are a handful, really. Go for it, go for it!

 

And no, I don't get nervous anymore. When I hire a new guy, I feel more the thrill and the expectation. Sometimes, they are the ones who can be nervous. After all, they know nothing about the client they are meeting. You, on the other hand, know at least what they look like....

 

I definitely have the thrill of anticipation, which I hope will never go away, but I am really nervous too. I will know what the escort looks like, and he will obviously be someone whom I find desirable, but at my age I worry about what he will think and feel about my appearance. I'm no Jonas brother. Heck, I'm not even aging as well as Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp. It's my thinking and worrying about this which remains the principle roadblock to initiating my first hire.

[+ Eric Hassan]

Hey guys,

 

I am a longtime lurker who has enjoyed reading the forums and reviews for many years, but am only now becoming a member here and preparing to hire for the first time. In my middle age, I refuse to let insecurity or nervousness hold me back from experiencing this area of my life.

 

It's now or never!

 

As I prepare for my first experience with an escort, I am keeping the following guidelines in mind. These pointers I have learned from reading the informative messages here.

 

1. Be clear in what you want. An escort is not a mind reader, and can only give you the best-possible experience if he knows exactly what you are looking for. He has probably heard it all by now, so be discrete but forthright.

 

2. Be serious and ready to meet. No one wants to exchange 9,876,543 email messages only to discover that the potential client just wants masturbation material from behind his keyboard.

 

3. Don't haggle about the price. It is what it is. If the escort wants to give his regular clients a discount for multiple hours or repeated visits, he will tell you. Be prepared to give the listed donation.

 

4. Be scrupulously clean and make sure your breath is fresh.

 

5. Go into the meeting with realistic expectations. You are meeting a human being not a tireless sexual athlete or robot. Even if the chemistry takes a while to ignite, have a sense of humor and some patience. It may still work out in the end.

 

If you gentlemen can think of anything else I should keep in mind, feel free to let me know. The more prepared I am, the less nervous I will be. I hope!

 

Thanks in advance.

 

Welcome to the forum and to hiring! So glad you've joined our community. Clearly you've been paying attention - your list is great.

 

I would add 2 things:

 

1. Find a trusted pal that you can check in with. Someone that you can tell where you're going to be and for how long and that you can check in with after. I suggest this not only for safety - someone will know where you are if something happens - but also so there's someone you can talk with after. I understand you may not feel like there's someone in your life that you can tell you hired an escort and discuss, so perhaps you just have a friend that you tell you're going on a date or hookup and then you come here and share

 

2. Remember there's a learning curve to this process. Try not to judge yourself. Let your gut guide you but try not to over-analyze. Most of all, be willing to have FUN!

 

My best to you. Enjoy your time!!!

[NowOrNever]

Welcome to the forum and to hiring! So glad you've joined our community. Clearly you've been paying attention - your list is great.

 

I would add 2 things:

 

1. Find a trusted pal that you can check in with. Someone that you can tell where you're going to be and for how long and that you can check in with after. I suggest this not only for safety - someone will know where you are if something happens - but also so there's someone you can talk with after. I understand you may not feel like there's someone in your life that you can tell you hired an escort and discuss, so perhaps you just have a friend that you tell you're going on a date or hookup and then you come here and share

 

2. Remember there's a learning curve to this process. Try not to judge yourself. Let your gut guide you but try not to over-analyze. Most of all, be willing to have FUN!

 

My best to you. Enjoy your time!!!

 

Eric Hassan!

 

I have been perusing the NY and Montreal escort profiles for a while now, because those are the two cities I'll be visiting before Christmas, and YOU are at the top of my wish list. The naughty things I have thought about doing with you are endless!

 

Thanks for the good, common-sense advice. It only adds to your sex appeal.

[+ Truereview]

I definitely have the thrill of anticipation, which I hope will never go away, but I am really nervous too. I will know what the escort looks like, and he will obviously be someone whom I find desirable, but at my age I worry about what he will think and feel about my appearance. I'm no Jonas brother. Heck, I'm not even aging as well as Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp. It's my thinking and worrying about this which remains the principle roadblock to initiating my first hire.

Let's get it right: Johnny Depp is not aging well! I was an escort for about 4years and I've been hiring for 10, and I still get nervous. Part of it is the butterflies of excitement and the other part is a bit of apprehension bc, like you said, escort and client are human and shit can happen. I know this is cliché but I always go in: expecting the unexpected. Even with my regulars, I condition myself for a surprise. Most of the time these are pleasant surprises, and when they are not, i can move from shock to managing my reactions faster/better by having my antenna up for the unexpected. This doesn't mean I don't lose myself in the experience, I do, but I can also whip myself into rational and thoughtful action should the need arise. Which goes back to a key piece of advice:

Find a trusted pal that you can check in with.

I have done this as an escort and carried that practice thru as a client. I think I've said this before in the forum: My confidante is a woman who gets me, can move into action quickly if I'm in trouble or pain, and she never judges me. I check in with her before and after a meeting. I return the favor when she goes out on regular or blind dates. I hope you have someone you can trust. Welcome (officially) aboard! You already sound like a long time poster.

[NowOrNever]

Let's get it right: Johnny Depp is not aging well! I was an escort for about 4years and I've been hiring for 10, and I still get nervous. Part of it is the butterflies of excitement and the other part is a bit of apprehension bc, like you said, escort and client are human and shit can happen. I know this is cliché but I always go in: expecting the unexpected. Even with my regulars, I condition myself for a surprise. Most of the time these are pleasant surprises, and when they are not, i can move from shock to managing my reactions faster/better by having my antenna up for the unexpected. This doesn't mean I don't lose myself in the experience, I do, but I can also whip myself into rational and thoughtful action should the need arise. Which goes back to a key piece of advice:

 

I have done this as an escort and carried that practice thru as a client. I think I've said this before in the forum: My confidante is a woman who gets me, can move into action quickly if I'm in trouble or pain, and she never judges me. I check in with her before and after a meeting. I return the favor when she goes out on regular or blind dates. I hope you have someone you can trust. Welcome (officially) aboard! You already sound like a long time poster.

 

I think it's very important to expect the unexpected, and not to get too upset if events veer away from the scenario you had had in your head. Sometimes, the unexpected can be fun too.

 

Before heading out the door to my first encounter, I will make sure to give a trusted source all the specifics of my plans. I am also going to start with a shorter date of an hour or two rather than immediately jump in and ask for an overnight or full weekend visit. I may not be able to pry myself away from someone like Eric Hassan after only one hour, LOL, but that's why God invented second dates.

 

If I already sound like a longtime poster, it's because I've been lurking in the forums for years and soaking up a lot of the information and flavor.

[ProfessorB]

Hey guys,

 

If you gentlemen can think of anything else I should keep in mind, feel free to let me know. The more prepared I am, the less nervous I will be. I hope!

 

As with anything in life, these experiences are very often 'you get out what you put in,' in nature. If you're ready for a fun time, and not feeling apprehensive or unsure, you'll take a great deal more away each time.

 

Enjoy!

[+ glennnn]

I definitely have the thrill of anticipation, which I hope will never go away, but I am really nervous too. I will know what the escort looks like, and he will obviously be someone whom I find desirable, but at my age I worry about what he will think and feel about my appearance. I'm no Jonas brother. Heck, I'm not even aging as well as Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp. It's my thinking and worrying about this which remains the principle roadblock to initiating my first hire.

 

Oh, buddy! Don't do that to yourself! Yes, appearance is important, but only to start with. Show up clean, well groomed, happy and eager, and all will be well. We are all deserving of love and attention. Really, once the sex begins, no one cares about appearance. A cock is a cock. A mouth is a mouth. Let your passion, tenderness and desire to please your partner guide you and live in the moment. No one is judging you. You are worthy!!!!

[liubit]

Oh, buddy! Don't do that to yourself! Yes, appearance is important, but only to start with. Show up clean, well groomed, happy and eager, and all will be well. We are all deserving of love and attention. Really, once the sex begins, no one cares about appearance. A cock is a cock. A mouth is a mouth. Let your passion, tenderness and desire to please your partner guide you and live in the moment. No one is judging you. You are worthy!!!!

I couldn't agree more! It seems that you have found your pick in @Eric Hassan. Go for it, @NowOrNever, and enjoy the ride. I have never met him, but he has a great reputation. You will have a great time.

[+ glennnn]

Eric Hassan is a kind, generous, firey hot guy. You can't do better. Now is YOUR time. Just do it!