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Oh, buddy! Don't do that to yourself! Yes, appearance is important, but only to start with. Show up clean, well groomed, happy and eager, and all will be well. We are all deserving of love and attention. Really, once the sex begins, no one cares about appearance. A cock is a cock. A mouth is a mouth. Let your passion, tenderness and desire to please your partner guide you and live in the moment. No one is judging you. You are worthy!!!!

 

One of my friends, who sees escorts regularly, has told me that a good attitude, respect, friendliness, and excellent hygiene will make the escort consider me a dream date, LOL.

 

Intellectually, I know that many clients will not be Greek gods, the epitome of male perfection, and that escorts must be used to seeing men of all shapes and sizes, but emotionally, I dread the thought of meeting a hot young thing who will register disappointment at my appearance when he opens the door. I know, I know, I am overthinking it and should simply dive right into the pool without further hesitation. That's why I am drawing up a wish list of my top choices for Montreal and NY, the cities I am planning to visit in the near future.

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... but emotionally, I dread the thought of meeting a hot young thing who will register disappointment at my appearance when he opens the door. I know, I know, I am overthinking it and should simply dive right into the pool without further hesitation...

Yeah, I get what you are saying, and although our natural reaction is to encourage you, you make a good point. The fear of having someone register disappointment is not monopolized by one type of man. No matter our looks, fear to disappoint is real for many of us. The clients and escorts who have helped me get over my fear the fastest are those who walked in or welcomed me with a smile and a warm attitude. You are human, you will overthink, but what you can truly manage is your behaviors, your actions. Warm hug to you, stay realistic, and go get'em! -TR

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Yeah, I get what you are saying, and although our natural reaction is to encourage you, you make a good point. The fear of having someone register disappointment is not monopolized by one type of man. No matter our looks, fear to disappoint is real for many of us. The clients and escorts who have helped me get over my fear the fastest are those who walked in or welcomed me with a smile and a warm attitude. You are human, you will overthink, but what you can truly manage is your behaviors, your actions. Warm hug to you, stay realistic, and go get'em! -TR

 

Even if the escort is professional and kind, he is human too, and will not find everyone attractive. I know this. It is possible the escort of my choice will not find me desirable. I do not find every single escort attractive either; individual tastes vary.

 

There's also the issue of sexual interests and fetishes: will the escort enjoy doing what I dream about doing? Or will he run away screaming after he hears my most fervent, pent-up fantasies, LOL? (Seriously, some of my interests may be slightly unusual, but I doubt they are too, too shocking. I'm not into blood, scat, animals, or doorknobs!)

 

Anyway, all I can do is give it a shot with a positive attitude and see what happens. If the first escort and I do not click, I will try again with someone else. I do believe that if I am respectful and kind and clean, that should be half the battle. Eventually, I will hit gold.

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Holy shit, I wish I had 1/2 your insight when I started this hobby.

 

My first hire was "ok". Nice guy. Fulfilled his obligations. But little else.

I came away thinking "what's the big deal?" and "I can't believe I paid

for "ok" sex, that's just stupid" and I didn't hire again for many months.

 

That was a mistake on my part. Eventually I got back in the saddle and I

started to learn a lot more about chemistry. You can get an idea ahead of

time but until your both face to face in the same room...you never know.

 

Once you realize that that's part of the fun of this hobby....you're golden.

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Even if the escort is professional and kind, he is human too, and will not find everyone attractive. I know this. It is possible the escort of my choice will not find me desirable. I do not find every single escort attractive either; individual tastes vary.

 

There's also the issue of sexual interests and fetishes: will the escort enjoy doing what I dream about doing? Or will he run away screaming after he hears my most fervent, pent-up fantasies, LOL? (Seriously, some of my interests may be slightly unusual, but I doubt they are too, too shocking. I'm not into blood, scat, animals, or doorknobs!)

 

Anyway, all I can do is give it a shot with a positive attitude and see what happens. If the first escort and I do not click, I will try again with someone else. I do believe that if I am respectful and kind and clean, that should be half the battle. Eventually, I will hit gold.

Yes to all of the above, and I failed to make my point clear. What I tried to convey is that when you think you see an escort registering disappointment in your looks, give yourself the benefit of the doubt that this hunk of man may actually be registering something else. Overthinking things is natural; however, getting into your head to sabotage the outcomes of what you hope for can be managed. To me, it sounds like you will manage this marvelously. My other point is that good looking people can also fear disappointing anyone (regardless of looks). IMO, good looking people are not immune to fears or emotions that seem common to those less blessed in the looks department. Obviously, this is just one man's opinion, and the beauty of the forum is that you benefit from a wide spectrum. You sound quite insightful already. ;)

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Eric Hassan!

 

I have been perusing the NY and Montreal escort profiles for a while now, because those are the two cities I'll be visiting before Christmas, and YOU are at the top of my wish list. The naughty things I have thought about doing with you are endless!

 

Thanks for the good, common-sense advice. It only adds to your sex appeal.

 

Wow - thank you for the kind words. I like being on the top of your list :) Now I'm looking forward to your visit!

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Holy shit, I wish I had 1/2 your insight when I started this hobby.

 

My first hire was "ok". Nice guy. Fulfilled his obligations. But little else.

I came away thinking "what's the big deal?" and "I can't believe I paid

for "ok" sex, that's just stupid" and I didn't hire again for many months.

 

That was a mistake on my part. Eventually I got back in the saddle and I

started to learn a lot more about chemistry. You can get an idea ahead of

time but until your both face to face in the same room...you never know.

 

Once you realize that that's part of the fun of this hobby....you're golden.

 

Right, I think that you have to do some research first: read the escort's profile carefully to see what he's into and how he presents himself, and check around the web, particularly here at daddysreviews, to find out what type of experiences other clients have had with him.

 

But even if you do all that, it still comes down to personal chemistry, which you are not going to be able to judge fully until you are face-to-face in the same room.

 

That's why I have told myself that even if my first session with an escort is not a smashing success, for whatever reason, I am going to try again quickly, and not get paralyzed by disappointment or insecurity. I may end up being world's biggest 'ho by the end of the year!!!

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Yes to all of the above, and I failed to make my point clear. What I tried to convey is that when you think you see an escort registering disappointment in your looks, give yourself the benefit of the doubt that this hunk of man may actually be registering something else. Overthinking things is natural; however, getting into your head to sabotage the outcomes of what you hope for can be managed. To me, it sounds like you will manage this marvelously. My other point is that good looking people can also fear disappointing anyone (regardless of looks). IMO, good looking people are not immune to fears or emotions that seem common to those less blessed in the looks department. Obviously, this is just one man's opinion, and the beauty of the forum is that you benefit from a wide spectrum. You sound quite insightful already. ;)

 

True: we all have to be careful about PROJECTING our own thoughts or insecurities onto anyone else. I may perceive that an escort is registering disappointment in my looks, but who knows what the reality is? Maybe he's really, really, really into bear-daddies and doesn't know if he'll measure up to MY expectations? (ROTFLMAO! I jest, but the point remains the same: I should not assume I know what he's thinking and feeling without further investigation.)

 

I know some truly beautiful people of both genders who somehow fail to appreciate their own gifts, so yes, I understand that even gorgeous people can have their own issues to deal with. I guess we all have to work it out together. :)

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Wow - thank you for the kind words. I like being on the top of your list :) Now I'm looking forward to your visit!

 

Number one, you are sexy as fuck, but number two, the way you present yourself in these forums is really appealing as well. The combination of looks, charisma, intelligence, and attitude all combined is a major, major turn on. I've checked out your social media pages and even your forearm fetish and love of poppers gets me going. We have A LOT in common.

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Oh, buddy! Don't do that to yourself! Yes, appearance is important, but only to start with. Show up clean, well groomed, happy and eager, and all will be well. We are all deserving of love and attention. Really, once the sex begins, no one cares about appearance. A cock is a cock. A mouth is a mouth. Let your passion, tenderness and desire to please your partner guide you and live in the moment. No one is judging you. You are worthy!!!!

 

Exactly! Embrace and be proud of who you are. Confidence is sexy ;) I've found that hiring escorts has unexpectedly boosted my self confidence.

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I am fairly new to this community and the world of hiring as well. I had the same concerns at the beginning as you do now, but it all worked out well in the end. I've only hired one working guy so far but it was a wonderful experience and made me realize that all my fears were just a pointless waste of energy. I should have started years ago. If you choose someone who is well reviewed here, everything should go well. Good luck, have fun, and don't forget to write a review of the time you spend with your chosen fellow.

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Well I got over my nervousness and started my journey today with my first hire. The experience was better than I could have imaged. There are a lot of hot men here in Atlanta. :):):):):)

 

Congratulations! I'm happy to hear your experience was positive. I cannot get to Atlanta, unfortunately, but I hope to find my first hire from among the gentlemen of NY and Montreal, or possibly even Toronto. There are some cuties in those cities as well!

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Well I got over my nervousness and started my journey today with my first hire. The experience was better than I could have imaged. There are a lot of hot men here in Atlanta. :):):):):)

 

While we are waiting for your review, can you tell us whom you saw? Who was the lucky escort of your choice?

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