Disappearing escort

[Yummers]

has anyone ever had an escort they have been seeing just disappear?

We've been seeing each other on a regular basis and he has always texted quite swiftly and we have had open and honest talks and availability on whether we are busy or not.

But after texting him the day of to meet the same night, he just suddenly disappeared and hasn't responded since.

His ad has been not active and I sent a message to voice concern and just to make sure he's alright.

Anyways just wanna hear your thoughts.

[tennisjock]

Did he confirm you were meeting? I have had guys who for whatever reason have just up and moved be it for school, job, lover, sugar daddy or just a new place to live..with no response to text or call. If you have his email you can try him that way. If you had a ongoing thing with him he should have mentioned somehow someway he was getting out of the biz or moving for school,etc. this one guy I saw off and on for a few years. But one day he just cancelled his phone and moved and got out of the escort biz. Since I had his real name which he gave me I discovered via social media that he had moved to be with his gf , now his wife and started a new life. So things do happen

[mike carey]

He may well have decided to stop working in the business and just left his previous clients cold. I would be surprised if an escort would just drop out of the scene unannounced, but it can happen.

[Despardo]

My parents had a doctor they had been seeing regularly for 15 years. When he retired, he didn't tell any of his patients--just closed up shop. I never really trusted the guy. I think I might be justified in saying that escorts are generally more casual about such things than medical professionals.

[+ azdr0710]

a guy I saw more than any other (then and since) no-showed for a planned meeting once....no calls or anything.....we'd confirmed hours earlier.....never heard from him again, despite a couple inquiring calls and emails.....

 

admittedly, I may've been getting a bit too clingy......and/or he may've decided he needed to just cut ties and move on with his life - he was into his 40s, still living "at home", had never really gotten a career going.....but I was a bit miffed he never called or even said, "sorry, can't make it".....

[dcguy20]

@Yummers, it happens more often than you think. I can name 3 guys who I hired in the past who left with no notice.

[MikeyGMin]

I can't tell from your post whether you were texting him that day to confirm an appointment you already had or to make one for that evening. It makes a difference in whether you should be concerned for him or not.

 

Guys close up shop all the time for all kinds of reasons. It may seem sudden to you but something he's been planning for a while. The fact that his ad is not active says a lot. If you didn't have a session scheduled, it's probably safe to assume he isn't working -- at least at this time -- and let it go.

 

If you had a session scheduled and he suddenly went radio silent, it's more reasonable to be concerned. However, unless you have progressed to a "real name" basis there is very little you can do other than wonder and hope that he is okay.

 

Actually, even if you know his real name, what are you going to do if something has happened? I would help my regular in any way I could -- if asked. I'd pick him up, bail him out of jail or whatever he needed, but I would never intrude in his personal life without being asked.

[+ DickyF]

Similar story here! We were close, he invited me to his family home, confided in me, yada yada, then he shut down his email and phone and I have heard nothing. I do worry about him, and I do miss him. I'm trying to find some replacements at least for sex and fun but no luck yet.

[+ KinkyNEguy]

I will mention that it has recently happened to me. A man I have seen monthly for ten years up and disappeared last winter, no response to texts or calls. I do know a lot about his real life, so I finally went into ECourts....tapa tap tapa... And I found my answer. I have been sending him small care packages upstate and look forward to this December. I suspect he will be in amazing shape.... And a bit wiser.

[+ azdr0710]

I will mention that it has recently happened to me. A man I have seen monthly for ten years up and disappeared last winter, no response to texts or calls. I do know a lot about his real life, so I finally went into ECourts....tapa tap tapa... And I found my answer. I have been sending him small care packages upstate and look forward to this December. I suspect he will be in amazing shape.... And a bit wiser.

 

does he acknowledge your care packages and is he up for meeting again?!.....

[MikeyGMin]

I will mention that it has recently happened to me. A man I have seen monthly for ten years up and disappeared last winter, no response to texts or calls. I do know a lot about his real life, so I finally went into ECourts....tapa tap tapa... And I found my answer. I have been sending him small care packages upstate and look forward to this December. I suspect he will be in amazing shape.... And a bit wiser.

 

I couldn't think of an example where knowing what happened would be of any value, but this is a perfect one. Sending care packages is supportive and very cool.

 

I also like it when I hear of arrangements that have gone on for so long. My experience has been that they are much more ephemeral. Great while they last, but always ending too soon.

[big-n-tall]

There has been only one guy I saw (when our schedules aligned) who vanished with no trace or response... Andrew Irons. We had been in contact via email rather frequently.

 

The handful I know that have retired (and told me in advance) I still talk to regularly, except for one.

[+ bashful]

Some people just prefer to move on without an emotional parting of the ways.

 

Nothing like a client/escort relationship, but I used to go to a wife/husband barber shop for years. One day I called to get an appointment, no answer. Then a few days later, called again, and the number was disconnected. Went over to the shop, closed. Looked through the glass, and it was empty. Later found out from my new barber, he heard they moved out of state.

[Yummers]

Thank you all for responding.

He just updated his social media but hasn't responded to me yet.

His ad isn't non active but just he hasn't been online since we texted.

I'm totally fine with that and I did text him wishing him the best and thanked him for everything. Nothing too explicit in case his family was on to him.

I haven't been doing this for long and he was a first for me and the longest I have been seeing someone.

I was in a bad place and even though I never got into that much detail with him. He always knew how to comfort me physically but more importantly emotionally.

[Yankee]

This happened to me in New York City last night when I had made plans to see a California escort who had told me two weeks ago that he was coming to town. We had come to like each other because of his normally classy way in dealing with me and others.

 

He is a well reviewed and savvy guy who often asked me for advice. I had met him three times before in NYC and once in LA, oftentimes for just a simple massage or for a late night dinner, so I had very few misgivings when he called in an emergency after booking the long distance appointment, and asked me to send him several hundred dollars before last night's expected meeting. I sent more than that cuz I knew he'd give it back in two weeks or less. Although I didn't have the hotel name where he was hosting, but it had always been one of two high end east side boutique hotels in the past. I'm a type A, but I told myself to chill. He had confirmed via text twice: First 7 days ago, and then two days ago. He even called right after the second text.

 

He's normally a very responsible guy, even though a little late to his meetings with me and others. But he is always a class act who gives you more than expected. This time, I came home early from a family vacation with my brother and some other relatives, emailed the escort the morning before this overnight session. No answer. At 3 pm, I texted and left a voicemail. Still No answer. I drove into the city and hung out for 2 hours at a cheap Times Square restaurant with my overnight bag and called and texted again at 6pm. By 7, his voicemail message said it was now full, and I realized I have no real proof that he made it to NYC.

 

So to salvage the night, at 7:45pm, I got my own room in a hotel (this was originally to be his expense), and after hearing no one at 845, I called a reliable standby who saw me for a great two hour massage. It is now 3:40am, and I never heard back. I think the lesson here is to realize that some people don't know how to admit that their lives are so mismanaged that they can barely admit to their close clients that things are out of control. I'm not rich, but I am guessing that I won't see this money again. I am sure this was a sloppy act instead of a malicious act because so many that know him on this Forum have said he's a nice guy who suffers from great disorganization and can't keep up with his enormous popularity.

I don't so much mind the fact that he never arrived and cost me a room I never was supposed to pay for, but that he didn't at least say, ""I can't make it, but I promise to return the thousand dollars you sent me weeks ago." Maybe he will do this, but I feel that a guy I once liked and trusted has really disappeared on me.

As the clock approaches 4am I stare out one of the western windows of this suite that has an unbroken 26th floor view of the Hudson River and points west. Like about ten other planes that have landed on my laptop schedule of planes coming in from LAX, I wonder if I can stay awake long enough to see his flying from the west and long enough to hear him call and explain that he will see me or at least return the funds.

It is 4:05am and I have finally given up on last night's overnight meeting. Maybe we don't always get to say goodbye. Hmm.

Yankee

[MikeyGMin]

@Yankee this was understandably very disappointing. It may be a total no-show and you'll never hear from him again because of the money you fronted him, BUT he also could have been in some kind of accident or something like that. Since this is uncharacteristic behavior for him, I would leave the door open - - just a crack - - that something beyond his control may have happened. Barring drug use that suddenly got out of hand, guys who are normally reliable (but a little disorganized) don't usually become sudden scammers.

[LouieD]

I am truly sorry. What a horrible past 24 hours for you! First it's the disappointment, and then it's the "not knowing" that makes it worse.

 

Yes, there is the remote possibility that some kind of accident could have happened. But, all the signs are there. He took your $1,000. Then he went silent. Face it, he blew you off. He's a thief and a scammer.

 

Try to forget him.

[alexslaveboy]

@Yummers, it happens more often than you think. I can name 3 guys who I hired in the past who left with no notice.

@dcguy20

Yep, same here.....3 very good and very beautiful guys I've seen multiple times have vanished without a trace so to speak!

[gregkidman]

Jason Markus just stopped. Great escort, great heart. I miss him.

Another escort in Toronto that I enjoyed just uprooted his pictures from the internet SO thoroughly. I never seen such thoroughness. Normally certain pictures on the internet are around just forever...

[Yummers]

A part of me is sad that I won't be able to him anymore but it's kinda like that bitter sweet moment in "good will hunting"

[jawjateck]

Yep. It happens. 3 times with me. Guys with multiple meetings. Always good good times. Guys off the radar, not well-reviewed or well-known, charging below-market rates. Each of them have one thing in common. I made a partial cash advance on a subsequent meeting that never happened with no further contact from them. I'm not the type to call, email, text to find out the reasons. I don't begrudge them. Really had alot of fun with each of them. I regard the payments as severance. I think guys like this just succumb to guilty feelings and decide that hiding and moving on is easier. Yet, if any of the 3 contacted me for a subsequent session, we would have resumed the good times.......discounted of course, considering the pre-payments.

 

Life goes on..for me, and hopefully for them too.

[Yankee]

Thanks Mikey and Louie, you are right that it is possible that he was in an accident or had some big emergency. Based upon the dateline on his Rentmen ad, He has not checked his Rentmen profile since early morning of Aug 18, and he usually checks it---or at least the date is usually current. It is now two days old, so maybe something did happen.

I want to thank all of u guys for not telling at me for sending money in advance. Won't do it again, and had never done it before. I hope he is not going to disappear like the escorts that you guys have described above. He was reviewed well and was also liked by many who talked about him via comments in the Deli section of the Forum. He showed me that he was a standup guy in several situations that I heard about from others. Fingers crossed. Will report back.

[+ KinkyNEguy]

does he acknowledge your care packages and is he up for meeting again?!.....

 

Yes, he does and is very grateful. He knew this was a possibility a month or two before it happened, but has told me that he did not want to ask for help because he didn't want to appear to be taking advantage. An attitude that kept us in such good ties since '05 when I first met him at the Paramount.

 

I think he thought the sentance would be less the the year + it turned out to be . While our correspondence has been necessarily subtle, he does indicate that he looks forward to demonstrating his gratitude for the care packages. In case anyone were to ask, I have not nor would I have gone to visit - my review of internet posts of such experiences is just a little too much for me.

 

PS: The discussion about Jeremy Walker reminded me of this situation. My friend had an earlier probation issue which he carried on as if there were no restrictions or they did not matter. One night walking in Prospect Park (WWB) after dusk changed his life.

[+ azdr0710]

My friend had an earlier probation issue which he carried on as if there were no restrictions or they did not matter. One night walking in Prospect Park (WWB) after dusk changed his life.

 

Walking While Black?.....that's what urbandictionary.com suggests......ugh....I hope he's doing ok....thanks for the added comments

[+ Funguy]

This has happened to me only once and i had seen the gentleman only once (but it was FANTASTIC!)

A year later and ads are still up but no answer to email, texts.

 

As a side note, I do have an app which lets you know if an email has been opened. His were not. I take it then that he has, sadly, moved on.