So, would you walk away?

[+ dutchmuch]

What was the disability? You indicate he could not get out of bed or had difficulty, hence the door ajar. Was he a paraplegic or missing a limb? This context would be helpful.

 

He was wearing shorts, his legs appeared atrophied. When I had problems trying to close the door, and asked him to come and help me, he hesitated and really could not get off the bed.

To add, hotel and room were very low end, all the curtains were pulled and it was rather dark.

[jjkrkwood]

He was wearing shorts, his legs appeared atrophied. When I had problems trying to close the door, and asked him to come and help me, he hesitated and really could get off the bed.

To add, hotel and room were very low end, all the curtains were pulled and it was rather dark.

 

 

How did his "3rd leg" appear ?

[LADoug1]

It wouldn't be the disability that would be a problem for me. It would be the communication issue. That might be a turnoff. I'd spend a few minutes talking to him and see if I could get past that and trust him. Then I'd decide. As for some compensation if I left, that would depend also. It was his responsibility to mention his disability during our initial communication.

[greatnorthernp]

You've done your due diligence, spoke by phone, three finger-selfie, etc.

You arrive, and per text message, the hotel door will be cracked open, 'just come on in'.

Said escort pictured is lying in bed, but can't get out. Not because of alcohol or other drugs, he's handicapped.

Walk away, or proceed?

 

What's the handicap?

[BaronArtz]

I have no problems with handicaps. But it would have been a professional courtesy to disclose the handicap in advance. And that is exactly what I would convey to him when, indeed, I walk away.

 

If I as a client had a handicap, I would disclose it to the escort - in advance.

[sincitymix]

He was wearing shorts, his legs appeared atrophied. When I had problems trying to close the door, and asked him to come and help me, he hesitated and really could not get off the bed.

To add, hotel and room were very low end, all the curtains were pulled and it was rather dark.

hmm id be a little concerned that if he could not get out of the bed, how did he get on the bed?

[MikeBiDude]

I have no problems with handicaps. But it would have been a professional courtesy to disclose the handicap in advance. And that is exactly what I would convey to him when, indeed, I walk away.

 

If I as a client had a handicap, I would disclose it to the escort - in advance.

+1 - I'd walk mostly due to lack of clear communications

[down_to_business]

So hard to say because I feel like I am missing 99% of the story. If he is capable of performing everything that was expected based on our conversation, looked exactly like his photos, etc... then no- just because he had some sort of a mobility issue, I would not cancel the appointment. If, on the other hand, I we had discussed my expectations that he was going to waltz me across the room while rocking my world etc... then yes, he would have been materially misrepresenting our encounter, and I would leave.

 

I have also spent an overnight with Nicky Blue Eyes myself, not that he has anything to do with the escort mentioned in the OP.. but he was mentioned in the thread. I knew exactly what I was getting into, upfront.

[Rudynate]

It happens often that escorts turn out not to be as advertised - they don't look like their ad, they don't perform as promised, etc. etc. I have never completely backed out of an appointment when this happens, although I think it would be a completely reasonable thing to do. If one showed up and the escort had a handicap of the one described by the OP, which he hadn't disclosed in advance, while it would certainly take brass balls to back out of a session in these circumstances, it would be perfectly reasonable for him to do so. And really, holding the handicapped escort to a different standard than one would apply to anyone else actually demeans the escort, the underlying assumption being that he just can't help himself and deserves our sympathy.

 

Nicky Blueeyes is a case in point - He is a very impressive man - while I don't know him well, I don't think he needs anyone to feel sorry for him. He would be an impressive man without his injury. If anything, being as impressive as he is in the face of his injury only serves to enhance his impressiveness.

[+ Axiom2001]

One highly respected and well-known escort whose been reviewed here, received EOTY on one or two occasions, and who has done other rewarding acts, cited in his interview on www.rentmen.com that the best sex that he's ever had was when a physically-challenged or handicapped individual engaged his services. He wrote movingly and poignantly, so if I were the escort in this case, I would NOT walk away! I would give the client my best of physical and perhaps emotional pleasure!

[MikeBiDude]

One highly respected and well-known escort whose been reviewed here, received EOTY on one or two occasions, and who has done other rewarding acts, cited in his interview on www.rentmen.com that the best sex that he's ever had was when a physically-challenged or handicapped individual engaged his services. He wrote movingly and poignantly, so if I were the escort in this case, I would NOT walk away! I would give the client my best of physical and perhaps emotional pleasure!

Agree...

 

But I believe the OP @dutchmuch was a CLIENT, going to an appt where the ESCORT had not communicated his handicap. Apples and oranges...

[Rudynate]

One highly respected and well-known escort whose been reviewed here, received EOTY on one or two occasions, and who has done other rewarding acts, cited in his interview on www.rentmen.com that the best sex that he's ever had was when a physically-challenged or handicapped individual engaged his services. He wrote movingly and poignantly, so if I were the escort in this case, I would NOT walk away! I would give the client my best of physical and perhaps emotional pleasure!

 

 

Many years ago, I had an amazing scene with a handicapped guy. I met him in a bar, he was handsome and had a charming boyish personality. He was on crutches and his legs were atrophied and partially paralyzed from polio in childhood. He was a little difficult to be around because he kept baiting me, asking me things like, "Why would you be interested in a crip like me?" But I really wanted to have sex with him, so I negotiated that mine field somehow. We went home, and when I got his shirt off, as I was hoping, I found he had a great chest and shoulders from having propelled himself on crutches all his life. We started to fool around and pretty soon our play morphed into wrestling. We wrestled and wrestled - on the bed, on the floor, in the living room, in the kitchen, it completely wore me out. He pretty much cleaned the floor with me, wearing me out completely. I've never forgotten that experience.

[BaronArtz]

Many years ago, I had an amazing scene with a handicapped guy. I met him in a bar, he was handsome and had a charming boyish personality. He was on crutches and his legs were atrophied and partially paralyzed from polio in childhood. He was a little difficult to be around because he kept baiting me, asking me things like, "Why would you be interested in a crip like me?" But I really wanted to have sex with him, so I negotiated that mine field somehow. We went home, and when I got his shirt off, as I was hoping, I found he had a great chest and shoulders from having propelled himself on crutches all his life. We started to fool around and pretty soon our play morphed into wrestling. We wrestled and wrestled - on the bed, on the floor, in the living room, in the kitchen, it completely wore me out. He pretty much cleaned the floor with me, wearing me out completely. I've never forgotten that experience.

 

That it absolutely wonderful, What a great story. But you knew in advance ... that was not the OP's situation, I believe.

[Racketjock]

Agree with much that has been said here. I think being an adult means being and adult, even when the little head is leading the big one. The scenario as posed dosed speak to what was fully communicated in advance. My only frame of reference was with an escort who only texted for our meet up and didn't want to talk via phone. As my little head was making the decisions, I went with it. In hindsight, I saw the gaps or lack of clarity that would lead one to assume they were deaf and mute, but even being in healthcare, I missed them. Communicating verbally was a bit of a challenge, but not insurmountable. Two things that concerned me: he had a lamp that was tied to his phone to alert when it ringed which caught me by surprise when we were in the moment; secondly, my words of encouragement and compliment were a bit lost, but I think I clearly got my point across that I was satisfied and enjoyed our time.

[Rudynate]

That it absolutely wonderful, What a great story. But you knew in advance ... that was not the OP's situation, I believe.

 

 

Right, and as I said upthread, it would have been reasonable for the OP to walk away . . . it's a truth in advertising thing.

[tsgarp]

Look, any situation where significant details are not disclosed (by either party) before a meeting is unfortunate. With respect to whether you stay or go, there is no right or wrong choice. What is important is that you treat the individual respectfully and kindly, which I am sure you did.