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[MPF_1966]

Years ago, I had great thing going with an escort. Once or twice when we got together, he treated the meeting as personal rather than professional and did not charge me. At the time, I thought that was nice but it also changed the boundaries of our relationship and we ultimately moved on.

 

I am curious to hear thoughts on freebies for clients. The reason is an escort recently approached me on a hook up site for a NSA encounter. I love the idea but feel a bit odd taking him up on the idea. Some how it feels like I am taking advantage or not acknowledging that he is a professional.

[+ harey]

That's great. Hope you have fun and don't worry. You're not twisting his arm.

[big-n-tall]

That's great. Hope you have fun and don't worry. You're not twisting his arm.

 

+1

 

What he said...

You aren't forcing the guy to do anything he doesn't want to do.

[+ Topseed]

Here's where it can get awkward: An escort approached me via a hook-up site. We met and played. Several times, in fact.

 

Later he decided he wanted to be "compensated for his time as seeing me meant he was foregoing work with someone else."

 

Um, no.

[+ nycman]

If I hadn't "met" him professionally....I wouldn't have any problem.

 

In fact, in my youth that happened several times.

 

If I "knew" him professionally...I wouldn't really be comfortable without a frank discussion first.

 

Whenever I did hook up with an escort privately....I never hired them professionally.

 

It would have felt awkward to me.....and yes....I wanted to hire several of them.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Years ago, I had great thing going with an escort. Once or twice when we got together, he treated the meeting as personal rather than professional and did not charge me. At the time, I thought that was nice but it also changed the boundaries of our relationship and we ultimately moved on.

 

I am curious to hear thoughts on freebies for clients. The reason is an escort recently approached me on a hook up site for a NSA encounter. I love the idea but feel a bit odd taking him up on the idea. Some how it feels like I am taking advantage or not acknowledging that he is a professional.

 

Just be careful and assess the circumstances. I had several meetings out of the clock with escorts with no negative "side effects", even my only current long term lover (about 30 years and counting) is a former escort who refused to accept money from me after retiring, about 20 years ago. But I do have a bad experience.

 

I picked up this guy from Avenida Santa Fe in Buenos Aires. I was in my 20s and also he was, if I remember correctly. We locked our eyes, exchanged a few words, and I invited him to my place. I know, I've never been a big conversationist or needed to get to know my sex partners. He never mentioned anything about money, only shared he was married with two kids. The kissing was not so good, so I quickly took him to my bed. There I have the first signs that something was not good. He became rude and rough, not in the good way. He would say "I want to suck your pussy", and voraciously suck my dick. Far from deter me this made me hornier and ignoring other red flags. Remember I was in my 20s, not very experienced and very horny. He would demand me to suck him and at the same time suck his dick, I was young and in better shape than now, but I was not able to do it comfortably. However he would rudely insist and force me to do it. At this point I was not enjoying it so much anymore. He finally came with my dick inside.

He dressed up and asked me for money. WTF. I told him I did not have any and even if I had money was not part of our conversation and he would not get any. I was not lying, I was living in a nice condo in the fancy Recoleta, but the place belonged to my parents and at that point of my life I was a college student with not a dime.

He started walking through the condo, opening placards and drawers looking for money, yelling he would call the police. At this point I was scared like shit, but I have always been able to keep control and to hide my feelings. Besides, just as you have White privilege in America, we have Class privilege in Argentina. I was not afraid of police and calmly dared him to call the cops, handling him the phone. I would keep asking him calmly to leave, repeating I had no money.

He started to calm down. I sat in my living room and let him go around the place looking for something to take. He went to the kitchen, took a knife, came to the living room and told me I should not leave knives available to unknown visitors. I was borderline in panic, but maintained my calm and made sure I had a pillow to use as a shield if the threads moved into acts. I'm a big guy, I looked not scared at all, he saw his threads were not working, and finally asked me to leave.

I had to go downstairs with him to open the street door and let him out of the building. The trip in the elevator was a nightmare. He would continue throwing threats, warning me to never go to cruise to Santa Fe again because next time he would kill me. I just endured it in silence and walked him out of the building. Never saw him again.

 

I do not want to finish the post on this note. So let me remind this happened to me only once, never again. Just be careful.

[LADoug1]

The escort is a human being with feelings. He enjoyed being with you. Money wasn't an issue. Take it as a fantastic compliment.

[RockyHardon]

Years ago, I had great thing going with an escort. Once or twice when we got together, he treated the meeting as personal rather than professional and did not charge me. At the time, I thought that was nice but it also changed the boundaries of our relationship and we ultimately moved on.

 

I am curious to hear thoughts on freebies for clients. The reason is an escort recently approached me on a hook up site for a NSA encounter. I love the idea but feel a bit odd taking him up on the idea. Some how it feels like I am taking advantage or not acknowledging that he is a professional.

 

Take him up on it and enjoy the time. I'm on a real nasty hook-up site and half the guys are escorts, and I have had plenty of freebie hook-ups with escorts.

 

Escorts are people, and a hook-up with a nice guy is still fun for them. Remember, when an escort is working, he is working. Although you as a client may think escort work is all fun and games, many escorts aren't really free to be themselves during a session since they know their ultimate job is to satisfy the client. In a hook-up, they can just "have fun".

 

So the answer is: "Take him up on the offer, don't ask too many questions, and just enjoy yourself". You may end up with a super hot regular fuck buddy.

[+ honcho]

I'm on a real nasty hook-up site and half the guys are escorts, and I have had plenty of freebie hook-ups with escorts.

 

If you look anything at all like your avatar, I'm not surprised !