Empty bed

[bobchitown]

I'm trying to figure out where the newspaper came from. Did the guy actually go outside your door to check if there might be one? In my building almost no one gets a paper any longer.

[bigvalboy]

Someone owes Mike an apology...

 

It's possible that aforementioned escort:

 

A. Thought you were asleep and didn't want to wake you because you weren't feeling well and said escort wasn't in a rush to leave so wasn't going to cut into you playtime by letting you sleep and had no idea you had showered and were awake and were waiting for him

B. Understood that when you said you were going back to bed that he should follow but extenuating circumstances delayed him by five minutes, which is mostly his fault since said escort attempts to take enough immodium prior to overnights to regulate the movements of his excretory system such that he does not have to go to number 2 in front of his clients, but sometimes shit happens

C. Attempted to rectify the situation by staying on til 2 PM even though he arrived early the previous afternoon

D. Had negative body language during the last one percent of the appointment because he is weak in that area and needs to improve upon it

E. Apologized already but didn't apologize profusely enough at the time because he thought that moving faster toward the physical part of the encounter would ameliorate the bad blood that had developed and improve your mood and underscore that said escort was in no way rejecting you or not eager to pursue you once he knew you were ready.

F. didn't discuss the situation after the fact because he wanted to focus on the good things and not the bad things

G. Wrote the situation off as unlikely to repeat itself because there was a whole another elephant in the room when said escort arrived that required said escort to throw most traditional protocol out the window, such that said escort screwed things up slightly because he was in such unfamiliar territory with the elephant

H. Is sorry he didn't send a follow-up apology after the fact.

I. Really likes the OP

[gezellig4u]

A

Perhaps there are in fact two BFEs. One would be more properly called the NBFE (new boy friend experience) where you are both so gaga and hot for each other that you spend every waking moment together either having wild passionate sex or resting up for more wild passionate sex. The other BFE might be more properly called the OBFE (old boy friend experience) where you've been around the block a few times and still have wild-ish passionate sex but now a few other activities - like drinking coffee - have entered the mix. I guess there is something called MBFE (married boy friend experience) where you sometimes have sex and are encouraged to boil your own coffee and burn your own toast in the morning. I imagine PK was probably hoping for choice one.

And then there's the MAMCE (middle-aged married couple experience), where you make sure when getting out of bed that you don't snag the hose on each other's CPAP machine. Just sayin'...

[+ nycman]

Hmmm....the "elephant in the room".

 

Ok PK...the ball is in your court......

[marylander1940]

Shame! How dare he not read your mind and know exactly what position you had wish to find him upon your return! How dare he be a human being! How very dare he (pretty please!) not know exactly how your fantasy is playing out in your head!

 

Escorts! Fucking useless!

 

I hope you cut his rate in half.

 

I agree with you: communication!

 

Aren't you escorts psychics too?

 

[Frequentflier]

I once lost an escort in my house, but after searching for several hours, the maid found him in the east wing. Whew...disaster averted.

 

Not many of us have the problem you do BVB whereby your house has its own zip code. I doubt you were worried about the escort leaving because there is that moat around your mansion and the code is needed to drop the draw bridge.

[Frequentflier]

As I was reading the initial post I started thinking, uh oh the escort left while PK was in the shower. So I was relieved he was in the kitchen. If the experience was otherwise good to great I suggest if there is a repeat just sharing how you want your morning interactions to go PK.

 

For me, a little wake up time in the morning is what I prefer. As I've gotten older I've found these twenty some year old guys just can't leave me alone. Its one round of play after another, like its a stamina contest for them. I'd just like a little more respect. I'm more than a pretty face with an awesome body. I can think too.

[jjkrkwood]

As I was reading the initial post I started thinking, uh oh the escort left while PK was in the shower. So I was relieved he was in the kitchen. If the experience was otherwise good to great I suggest if there is a repeat just sharing how you want your morning interactions to go PK.

 

For me, a little wake up time in the morning is what I prefer. As I've gotten older I've found these twenty some year old guys just can't leave me alone. Its one round of play after another, like its a stamina contest for them. I'd just like a little more respect. I'm more than a pretty face with an awesome body. I can think too.

 

 

So much is constantly being said about "treating escorts with respect and humanity" and not just pieces of meat... In fact I think it was even said by the OP on various occasions... But not expecting your hire to be allowed out of bed until you sanction it, or being allowed to have a cup of coffee "in your absence" doesn't seem too humane or respectful to me !

[AdamSmith]

I once lost an escort in my house, but after searching for several hours, the maid found him in the east wing. Whew...disaster averted.

One time in NYC I hired an overnight in my 1-bedroom apt, woke up the next morning to an empty bed, thought Well he ran off.

 

But then I found him asleep on the living room couch.

 

That made me appreciate escorts who could sleep in bed with me all night despite my snoring.

[Rudynate]

I don't think I would ever hire for an overnight because I like to sleep alone. I could imagine hiring for an entire day. I have a spacious house for San Francisco, so I suppose could lose him somewhere.

[bobchitown]

I don't think I would ever hire for an overnight because I like to sleep alone. I could imagine hiring for an entire day. I have a spacious house for San Francisco, so I suppose could lose him somewhere.

 

I hear you. I've got one overnight buddy, but actually am a fan of the "romp, dinner, romp" five hour plan. Less money, just as much fun and I still get my regular nights sleep. I asked one escort about his high overnight rate and he said its because he's out of commission for the next day after a sleepless night of being pawed at at all hours.

[Rudynate]

I hear you. I've got one overnight buddy, but actually am a fan of the "romp, dinner, romp" five hour plan. Less money, just as much fun and I still get my regular nights sleep. I asked one escort about his high overnight rate and he said its because he's out of commission for the next day after a sleepless night of being pawed at at all hours.

 

I like daytime sex. My favorite is a long afternoon : 3-4 hours. I haven't done it yet, but I've thought about extending it to 5 hours with lunch.

[oscarkin]

PK - One of the wisest things my father ever said is "I don't have ESP." Unless you had a very specific discussion the night before, when you took a shower and left the escort in the bed, you accepted the risk he'd wake up and find other things to do, like make coffee and read the newspaper, while you showered because you were behind a closed door, which is a universal signal for privacy, and it's impossible to have a conversation about what you want with the water running.

 

One could equally say if you wanted shower play that you should have waited to shower. Or left a note taped to his chest. Instead, you want him to guess?!!

 

Being disappointed is understandable if you wanted more companionship. Thinking the escort had anything to do with it or to apologize for is unreasonable. This is one of those cases where you take a deep breath and realize that you need to swallow your disappointment. If anything, your actions caused it.

 

I once had a marital counselor say to me (never mind the circumstances) that many of the problems in interpersonal relationships stem from a single erroneous belief. The belief goes something like this: "If so and so really loved me/cared for me/respected me, he/she would automatically know what I want/need. I shouldn't have to say so."

[jjkrkwood]

I once had a marital counselor say to me (never mind the circumstances) that many of the problems in interpersonal relationships stem from a single erroneous belief. The belief goes something like this: "If so and so really loved me/cared for me/respected me, he/she would automatically know what I want/need. I shouldn't have to say so."

 

 

What's LOVE got to do with it ?

[Juan Vancouver]

So much is constantly being said about "treating escorts with respect and humanity" and not just pieces of meat... In fact I think it was even said by the OP on various occasions... But not expecting your hire to be allowed out of bed until you sanction it, or being allowed to have a cup of coffee "in your absence" doesn't seem too humane or respectful to me !

 

You are right, it isn't.

 

Some really want escorts to be genuine human beings, honest, direct and present and want to honour them like that.

 

Some others want the escorts to act genuine, to appear truly into the client, to play the part of an intimate, loving, caring human being, but behave like a puppet, following the script carefully.

 

Those two would appear to be the same, but aren't.

[jjkrkwood]

You are right, it isn't.

 

Some really want escorts to be genuine human beings, honest, direct and present and want to honour them like that.

 

Some others want the escorts to act genuine, to appear truly into the client, to play the part of an intimate, loving, caring human being, but behave like a puppet, following the script carefully.

 

Those two would appear to be the same, but aren't.

 

 

 

And then there are those that speak out of their asses, and will always make the "well received" and "politically correct statements, but NEVER PRACTICE WHAT THEY PREACH.

"

[marylander1940]

Dear Purplekow,

 

Even though I want to convince myself that your instructions are no doubt well intentioned, I have to do exactly what I have done with every single person (or societal norm) that has tried to control me or make me conform. I will say thank you, but I am not interested in your "advise". I am me, I will do me, thank you for your input.

 

It strikes me as interesting that you are not paying me, I am not on your clock and still you are trying to control me.

 

Now I see that your desire to control others is deeper than I first thought. You must have been really upset when things played differently than they were playing in your head.

 

That must have been very discombobulating.

 

May you only encounter men who are willing to play your fantasy verbatim, and may you always inform them of the step by step beforehand so that you never suffer this affront again.

 

It's possible that aforementioned escort:

 

A. Thought you were asleep and didn't want to wake you because you weren't feeling well and said escort wasn't in a rush to leave so wasn't going to cut into you playtime by letting you sleep and had no idea you had showered and were awake and were waiting for him

B. Understood that when you said you were going back to bed that he should follow but extenuating circumstances delayed him by five minutes, which is mostly his fault since said escort attempts to take enough immodium prior to overnights to regulate the movements of his excretory system such that he does not have to go to number 2 in front of his clients, but sometimes shit happens

C. Attempted to rectify the situation by staying on til 2 PM even though he arrived early the previous afternoon

D. Had negative body language during the last one percent of the appointment because he is weak in that area and needs to improve upon it

E. Apologized already but didn't apologize profusely enough at the time because he thought that moving faster toward the physical part of the encounter would ameliorate the bad blood that had developed and improve your mood and underscore that said escort was in no way rejecting you or not eager to pursue you once he knew you were ready.

F. didn't discuss the situation after the fact because he wanted to focus on the good things and not the bad things

G. Wrote the situation off as unlikely to repeat itself because there was a whole another elephant in the room when said escort arrived that required said escort to throw most traditional protocol out the window, such that said escort screwed things up slightly because he was in such unfamiliar territory with the elephant

H. Is sorry he didn't send a follow-up apology after the fact.

I. Really likes the OP

 

You forgot to do this:

 

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2012/11/19/article-2235419-161F0433000005DC-648_634x481.jpg

 

Thank God yinz have the stomach and the patience to be escorts!

 

Btw, where's the OP? Is he hiding?

 

 

http://images.all-free-download.com/images/graphiclarge/cow_tree_hiding_place_222969.jpg

 

http://i.imgur.com/NqdKnok.jpg

 

http://ichef.bbci.co.uk/news/976/cpsprodpb/8436/production/_84564833_pa_cow.jpg

[LivingnLA]

You forgot to do this:

 

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2012/11/19/article-2235419-161F0433000005DC-648_634x481.jpg

 

Thank God yinz have the stomach and the patience to be escorts!

 

Btw, where's the OP? Is he hiding?

 

 

http://images.all-free-download.com/images/graphiclarge/cow_tree_hiding_place_222969.jpg

 

http://i.imgur.com/NqdKnok.jpg

 

http://ichef.bbci.co.uk/news/976/cpsprodpb/8436/production/_84564833_pa_cow.jpg

 

Hey now. Don't pile on the cow. We've all been pretty strongly opinionated in our posts in this thread. If I were the OP, after realizing I'd over reacted, I wouldn't want to reappear for fear of being hammered further.

[marylander1940]

Hey now. Don't pile on the cow. We've all been pretty strongly opinionated in our posts in this thread. If I were the OP, after realizing I'd over reacted, I wouldn't want to reappear for fear of being hammered further.

 

I'm not piling up, I started it by quoting him and he vanished, yinz piled up later.

 

The pics are nothing but humorous.

 

Can we move on now?

[Juan Vancouver]

Perhaps he still doesn't think he over reacted, in which case we all have to back off and accept that this is how he likes it.

 

Nothing wrong with that. And knowing would allow all of us to determine compatibility.

 

Self-awareness, honesty and communication are the foundations to being able to find people with whom we can successfully share experiences.

[LivingnLA]

I'm not piling up, I started it by quoting him and he vanished, yinz piled up later.

 

The pics are nothing but humorous.

 

Can we move on now?

 

I'd like to move on. New Zealand is beautiful this time of year.

 

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_fhWmdtMzNZY/So_dG0r3MdI/AAAAAAAAAFo/7vPGSHGsL7o/s400/DanCarter073b.jpg

[Juan Vancouver]

Or this:

 

http://www.emilywrites.co.nz/i-saw-tarzan-and-this-is-my-review-after-some-wines

 

I want to be her friend.

[LivingnLA]

Or this:

 

http://www.emilywrites.co.nz/i-saw-tarzan-and-this-is-my-review-after-some-wines

 

I want to be her friend.

 

That could've been my wife after a few bottles of good wine. He was one of my guilty pleasures and why I was willing to watch True Blood with her. Great cuddle times.

 

 

http://img.wennermedia.com/article-leads-vertical-600/alexander-skarsgard-abs-zoom-7c7865bb-fa16-4496-87f1-a9ed850aa791.jpg

[+ Truereview]

My grandmother was a feisty short skinny Italian with a mouth on her. Our large family had a lot of drama - mostly minimal things that were fueled out of proportion by relatives who always had an ax to grind. You could tell who would be intentionally bumping up the topic to rub some salt on the wound. Anyway, Granny had a favorite saying that translated to something like this: when two people have a misunderstanding, it is an opportunity. When others become involved, it becomes a clusterfuck

 

Can we stop bumping up this clusterfuck of a thread? Shit happens. Allow people to have some space and dignity. Move along...please. Next person who bumps this thread will show their true character.

[bigvalboy]

Next person who bumps this thread will show their true character.

 

This is a public forum, do you think it is appropriate to tell others when they should and should not post, and call their character into question if they do? Just curious...