Does how the escort gossip prevents you from hiring?

[GLEE]

Hi: It's me again. I'd just like to thank you guys for all the suggestions you've given on my prior posts. I've talked to some of them and got some pretty friendly responses. However, I've accidentally found some other news (or gossips) online about how some of them have posted clients' information online or how some of them get engaged with online fights against other people. I'm really new to the hiring stuff so I'm very confused now. I know I probably shouldn't let those stuff change my decisions but I can't stop thinking about what I've read. It's been a struggle for me because I so don't want to be judgemental. Hence I'd like to ask if you guys have similar experiences and would that change whom you'd hire? Thanks!

[+ dutchmuch]

What in the world is your question?

[LivingnLA]

@GLEE, are you asking if an escort discussing gossip about a client should affect your desire to hire them?

 

If that's your question, I personally say, for me, absolutely yes. I would not hire an escort who gossiped in an identifiable way about other clients either with me or anyone else. But, I imagine every client is different and this is a very personal issue and question.

 

EDIT: To address @purplekow's question, if I read gossip about an escort from reputable online sources, I would consider it in my decision to hire, but only if the gossip were relevant: such as an escort is an irresponsible hard drug user, thief, unsafe, indiscreet, and the like.

[+ purplekow]

I took his question to be: If you learn of gossip about an escort while on line, would you let that unsubstantiated information play a role in your decision to hire?

To answer my question which is possibly the OP question: Rumors and gossip should carry less weight than known fact, but they should not be totally ignored, when one is considering hiring a companion.

[GLEE]

Thanks for all the replies and sorry for the confusion I've caused. I was trying to say that, like, for example, would your decision of hiring an escort would be affected if you've heard some gossip or news against him. It could be that he posted his prior clients' information or he's in fight against other escorts? I'm not sure if that's clearer? Thanks and sorry again

[+ harey]

Hello @GLEE - I usually check for reviews and sometimes ask the forum for information before a first meeting with a new escort, but don't worry much about general gossip. That being said, there is a difference between gossip and honest advice posted online. If there are negative reviews or what appear to be legitimate reports about drama and strange behavior from an escort, then I'm likely to stay away. That's especially true for escorts who get "in fights against other escorts" in public.

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[mattr]

My view is that the escort in questions response to gossip, innuendo, or unfavorable reviews is often more important than the gossip itself. An escort who provides a professional, plausible response can negate the original information/accusation and in some cases even come out looking better after the exchange. However, escorts who get involved in a public spats, seemingly needing to get the last word, can look small and petty. We have seen examples of both behavior both in the forums and the reviews. The other issue is that if the information seems to fit a pattern in the escorts behavior or persona then it becomes more of an issue. Gossip that seems to come out of left field or seems completely out of character can often be dismissed as being more a reflection on the gossiper than the target of the gossip.

 

Short answer... if the gossip seems to be a one off and does not fit the escorts narrative then I will usually dismiss it, if the gossip seems consistent with other aspects of the escorts behavior then I tend to believe it and am highly unlikely to hire.

[+ Topseed]

Prevent? No. A factor? Sure.

 

This cuts several ways, including the subject of the gossip as well as the individual spreading it. With the latter, I wonder if it's the wisest use of time....and when I will be his next subject.

[BaronArtz]

Yes.

 

I know an escort who doesn't have any sense of discretion about clients at all. He would tell me about one of his clients, a celebrity hair colorist at a Madison Avenue salon. I had no problem at all finding out who the client was, what his IG and Twitter accounts were and whom he was married to. He would tell me how much he paid him and how often and when they met. Ditto with a number of his other clients.

 

He would also openly discuss some of the more 'weird' activities his clients requested. Like licking his toilet. Or a client requesting him to p**p on the carpet. Things that frankly, grossed me out.

 

In addition, he would tell me about sexual activities involving his private life. Like drunk girlfriends who got kicked out of Lavo (a high end club). And to boot, an intricate description of his sex life with pre-op trans escorts.

 

I figured - if he is such a chatterbox, what does he tell others about ME and about our sexual encounters ...

 

If you need to know who this character is, PM me.

[+ WmClarke]

I heard some gossip once about another escort. I decided never to hire the escort who was spreading the gossip.

 

So, yes, gossip does factor into my hiring decisions.

[+ Keith30309]

I took his question to be: If you learn of gossip about an escort while on line, would you let that unsubstantiated information play a role in your decision to hire?

To answer my question which is possibly the OP question: Rumors and gossip should carry less weight than known fact, but they should not be totally ignored, when one is considering hiring a companion.

 

Yes.

 

I know an escort who doesn't have any sense of discretion about clients at all. He would tell me about one of his clients, a celebrity hair colorist at a Madison Avenue salon. I had no problem at all finding out who the client was, what his IG and Twitter accounts were and whom he was married to. He would tell me how much he paid him and how often and when they met. Ditto with a number of his other clients.

 

He would also openly discuss some of the more 'weird' activities his clients requested. Like licking his toilet. Or a client requesting him to p**p on the carpet. Things that frankly, grossed me out.

 

In addition, he would tell me about sexual activities involving his private life. Like drunk girlfriends who got kicked out of Lavo (a high end club). And to boot, an intricate description of his sex life with pre-op trans escorts.

 

I figured - if he is such a chatterbox, what does he tell others about ME and about our sexual encounters ...

 

If you need to know who this character is, PM me.

 

+1 on both of these

 

Examples:

Escort A told me "he heard" that Escort B, who he didn't know I had seen twice, used meth. I didn't and still don't believe it.

Client A told me something personal about myself (a fairly trivial but obscure factoid) and there is only one Escort from whom he could have heard it. I've never said anything but it goes into the mental registry for that escort.

 

I believe in some sharing of info I know to be fact. For example I have recommended to a couple of escorts they steer clear of a certain person I have personally seen using hard drugs. Also, I've mentioned to a handful of clients they be aware of an escort's attempts to bareback surreptitiously.

These are both facts and also important to know for safety reasons.

[+ dutchmuch]

For me, gossip about escorts carries more weight than whatever his reviews say.

[jojo]

Most people use gossip as a way to "demonstrate" how much of an "in crowd" person they are. For myself, one word of that from any man I hire and that is it for the man. I will never hire again. I stress to each hire the level of discretion I expect. Any violation, regardless of how small or seemingly insignificant, is an act I cannot excuse.

[tsgarp]

Where there's smoke, there's fire.

 

If an escort's life is dramatic enough to warrant gossip, rumor and innuendo, they're probably not for me. Ideally I like guys who fly UNDER the radar, keep their business (and mine) to themselves and maintain a low-profile.

[Juan Vancouver]

If you lie with dogs, you get fleas.

 

You cannot expect the dog not to have fleas -only-with you- while he has shown to have fleas with everyone else.

 

In other words, if an escort has a documented fluid relationship with discretion and his and his clients' privacy, then when you engage his services you are implicitly accepting the fact that your own privacy will be at risk of being violated.

 

You cannot expect an indiscreet escort to all of a sudden be a paragon of virtue just because you want to keep your shit private.

 

If it is very important for you not to be talked about, then you would be better off not engaging with people who are likely to do so. If, in the other hand you are okay with your information being disseminated, then go ahead.

 

If you are a private person, this information should definitely affect your choices. Buyer beware.

[stop]

If you lie with dogs, you get fleas.

 

You cannot expect the dog not to have fleas -only-with you- while he has shown to have fleas with everyone else.

 

In other words, if an escort has a documented fluid relationship with discretion and his and his clients' privacy, then when you engage his services you are implicitly accepting the fact that your own privacy will be at risk of being violated.

 

You cannot expect an indiscreet escort to all of a sudden be a paragon of virtue just because you want to keep your shit private.

 

If it is very important for you not to be talked about, then you would be better off not engaging with people who are likely to do so. If, in the other hand you are okay with your information being disseminated, then go ahead.

 

If you are a private person, this information should definitely affect your choices. Buyer beware.

 

+1

[DonaldTramp]

I've slept with my dog for 5 years & have yet to get fleas.

[Juan Vancouver]

I've slept with my dog for 5 years & have yet to get fleas.

 

Has he?

[+ Keith30309]

If you lie with dogs, you get fleas.

 

You cannot expect the dog not to have fleas -only-with you- while he has shown to have fleas with everyone else.

 

In other words, if an escort has a documented fluid relationship with discretion and his and his clients' privacy, then when you engage his services you are implicitly accepting the fact that your own privacy will be at risk of being violated.

 

You cannot expect an indiscreet escort to all of a sudden be a paragon of virtue just because you want to keep your shit private.

 

If it is very important for you not to be talked about, then you would be better off not engaging with people who are likely to do so. If, in the other hand you are okay with your information being disseminated, then go ahead.

 

If you are a private person, this information should definitely affect your choices. Buyer beware.

 

+1

 

Unfortunately I suspect those who need to see this won't.

[MikeBiDude]

Hi: It's me again. I'd just like to thank you guys for all the suggestions you've given on my prior posts. I've talked to some of them and got some pretty friendly responses. However, I've accidentally found some other news (or gossips) online about how some of them have posted clients' information online or how some of them get engaged with online fights against other people. I'm really new to the hiring stuff so I'm very confused now. I know I probably shouldn't let those stuff change my decisions but I can't stop thinking about what I've read. It's been a struggle for me because I so don't want to be judgemental. Hence I'd like to ask if you guys have similar experiences and would that change whom you'd hire? Thanks!

When I first saw this post I wondered if it was about escorts/gossip back/forth on these forum.

 

In other words, does escort "drama" postings affect who you would contact? I for one, have a very small handful of escorts that may be well reviewed (and in fact great escorts), but I will never hire due to their persona and "drama" on the forum.

 

No names!! But anyone else feel the same?

[MikeyGMin]

When I first saw this post I wondered if it was about escorts/gossip back/forth on these forum.

 

In other words, does escort "drama" postings affect who you would contact? I for one, have a very small handful of escorts that may be well reviewed (and in fact great escorts), but I will never hire due to their persona and "drama" on the forum.

 

No names!! But anyone else feel the same?

 

Yes, but oddly enough, even though we tend to agree on most things, I've noticed in the posts that you like (I pay attention;)) that we differ greatly on who turns us off. As usual, different things turn off different people for different reasons.

[Juan Vancouver]

Yes, but oddly enough, even though we tend to agree on most things, I've noticed in the posts that you like (I pay attention;)) that we differ greatly on who turns us off. As usual, different things turn off different people for different reasons.

 

And that is the biggest beauty of this place. There's people here who wouldn't touch me with a ten foot stick, but that is for the better; our communication styles are really different and we would not have a good time together. On the other hand, exactly the same posts that turned some people off, make some others curious about meeting me.

 

Don't pander to the masses. Be honest, be polite, find your tribe. Forget about everything else.

[MikeBiDude]

And that is the biggest beauty of this place.

+1 and I agree! Diversity! And of course I try and respect ALL that's said/posted.

[CatnameFelix]

It all comes down to how reliable the source of the rumors are, or if there was any proof to the allegations. One of the rumors you mentioned did come along with proof, so I don't think I would personally hire them. But for some, as long as the person has a great body, who cares what they've done, evidence or not.

[Juan Vancouver]

I try and respect ALL that's said/posted.

 

Are you hinting that I don't or am I reading too much into it?