Gay Bar Bathroom Story. Any thoughts?

[+ José Soplanucas]

Well note to the guy in the video:

 

If that were the Eagle in NYC the guy would have had his dick at the very least in the same urinal that he was using, if not already someplace else!

 

There is an unwritten rule that the only safe restroom is the one on the first floor. For all the others you enter at your own risk, or if you're looking for a different way to relieve yourself....

THAT is a respectable gay bar.

[whipped guy]

THAT is a respectable gay bar.

Well I'm not sure exactly how respectable... The first sign that you see when you enter says "Beware of pick pocketing"! Other than that it's reasonably respectable!

 

I guess it's not wise to drop the soap when in the rest room!

 

http://static.giantbomb.com/uploads/scale_small/0/1619/489900-pickpocket.jpg

[marylander1940]

I was making a joke. Yes, I also stopped going there when I felt out of the league of the guys I like.

 

I know, I do get sarcasm.

[+ nycman]

We're trying to create a safer world....

 

"Safer"?

 

Or just more boring?

 

I have such doubts....

[LivingnLA]

"Safer"?

 

Or just more boring?

 

I have such doubts....

 

Yes, absolutely a safer world. There's far too much sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia and xenophobia to create safe communities in parts of the world. Here in America, we still ignore deep hatreds and fears, look at what happened to that kid in Idaho. He was horribly harassed for many weeks before ultimately being raped by football players using a coat hanger! That is sick and proves we need more awareness and people willing to standup and fight bullying and bigotry wherever we find it.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Well I'm not sure exactly how respectable... The first sign that you see when you enter says "Beware of pick pocketing"! Other than that it's reasonably respectable!

 

I guess it's not wise to drop the soap when in the rest room!

 

http://static.giantbomb.com/uploads/scale_small/0/1619/489900-pickpocket.jpg

Yeah, that is the dark side of every dark room. I learned the hard way in my first visit to NYC, 23 years ago.

[whipped guy]

Yeah, that is the dark side of every dark room. I learned the hard way in my first visit to NYC, 23 years ago.

Well when I visit any place that's on the dark side I always wear two black leather wrist band wallets. One with enough small bills for incidental stuff. The other with a couple of larger bills for an emergency. So I try to conver all the bases with functionality and decent looks for the dark side of things.

[+ sync]

There must be some attraction for him, as he mentions in the video that he likes going to gay bars "because they are fun times, usually." That statement suggests that he is no stranger to the environment within gay bars. Maybe this is the first time he made use of a gay bar's restroom facilities.

[body2body]

I'm afraid that, perhaps due to my age, I found gay bars to be much more fun when they were populated almost exclusively by Gay Men. Now, some nights in WeHo half the bars are populated by straight women along for the evening with their Gay friends. Let alone "curious" straight boys, who get offended if someone looks at their dick. Those "straight" boys can go home, back to their closets, and bolt the door until they decide to get honest with themselves and at least "come out" as bi. I have fought actively for Gay Rights since the early 70s. We have gained so much, but we have lost some of our unique culture along the way, and I for one look back longingly on a time when it was "just us guys".

[+ José Soplanucas]

I'm afraid that, perhaps due to my age, I found gay bars to be much more fun when they were populated almost exclusively by Gay Men. Now, some nights in WeHo half the bars are populated by straight women along for the evening with their Gay friends. Let alone "curious" straight boys, who get offended if someone looks at their dick. Those "straight" boys can go home, back to their closets, and bolt the door until they decide to get honest with themselves and at least "come out" as bi. I have fought actively for Gay Rights since the early 70s. We have gained so much, but we have lost some of our unique culture along the way, and I for one look back longingly on a time when it was "just us guys".

Perhaps you did not go to the right places, perhaps things were different in America. Back in Buenos Aires, in the 80s and 90s, my best memories belong indeed to mixed places. Cool women and straight men (no the ones who are annoyed at feeling wanted) have always been and are good company. There is only one place where I would prefer no girls: the strip club.

[rocky]

OH MARY PLEASE! Your in a Gay Bar with your dick out at the urinal - drunk horny guys are going to stare

Thankyou thank you thank you. Thinking the same thing, this guy seemed to want

it but didn't want it, he came back for more and was surprised as he pranced his

ass around that someone would be stalking him, don't believe it at all

[notforme]

that you-tuber is bat shit crazy. i have watched several of his videos and he does spend a lot of time being very coy about sexual matters. this isn't the first video about a gay man admiring him. it is a tired routine.

[seaboy4hire]

Awwwwwe poor lil delicate flower. If he didnt want his cock looked at or being touched he should have said something. He has no one to blame but himself. If I'm out and someone makes a pass and I'mnot interested I say something. Why let the guy waste his time on something he aint gettin?

 

Hugs,

Greg

[LivingnLA]

It's kind of amazed how many hostile replies there are in this thread. I'm surprised how many are basically victim blaming and giving the creepy guy a pass. Yes, "boys will be boys" but we should expect more. The youtuber needs to be aware of his complicity in the situations and how he may or may not have led the other guy on. After all, many guys like "the chase" and take "coy" as a challenge. But, there is a line and the creepy guy crossed it multiple times. No means no and it doesn't always have to be verbalized. Clear physical cues should've been read by the creepy guy. Let's hope youtuber guy learns and grows and doesn't let creepy guys creep.

[klifhangar]

B.F.D.

[+ WmClarke]

It's kind of amazed how many hostile replies there are in this thread. I'm surprised how many are basically victim blaming and giving the creepy guy a pass. Yes, "boys will be boys" but we should expect more. The youtuber needs to be aware of his complicity in the situations and how he may or may not have led the other guy on. After all, many guys like "the chase" and take "coy" as a challenge. But, there is a line and the creepy guy crossed it multiple times. No means no and it doesn't always have to be verbalized. Clear physical cues should've been read by the creepy guy. Let's hope youtuber guy learns and grows and doesn't let creepy guys creep.

But did he ever say no? He prattles on about ignoring the guy but never says he told him he wasn't interested.

[WolfRamNHard]

Straight men are just not used to being objectified. So when it does happen, they over-react and get all bent out of shape. Then there are the closet cases ...

[Andrew]

Gay Bar Bathroom Story. Any thoughts?

 

I remember the times when this kind of behavior was normal.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hxne4SdaqrM

I couldn't turn away. Great story/vid. Creepy-hot stories LOL. Thanks for posting.

[whipped guy]

What I find interesting about this YouTube guy concerns that fact that in many of his vids he speaks about there being a range of options from absolutely straight to absolutely gay. Furthermore he speaks to the fact that at any given point in time one can slide up and down the scale so as to be attracted to people of the same sex at a given time and perhaps not at another point in time. In other words he says that things are constantly fluid and changeable. He also talks about guys who are straight giving and getting "brojobs" and straight guys experimenting with getting banged or banging other guys. It's all part of one's ever changing feelings about their sexuality.

 

Well that's for everyone else. He says that he never had any such feelings or even such thoughts. No playing on any other team for him! Plus, not even for a fleeting moment did it ever cross his mind. I find it analogous to those who have rules for everyone else, but because they are so enlightened the rules do not apply to them. Either that or he simply refuses to admit it. Why else would he come up with such a theory if he had not experienced such feelings himself? Or his he just full of it?

 

Of course he has tons of vids out there. I just viewed a small cross section of those that seemed to deal with gay issues. So perhaps he did have a "moment of weakness" somewhere along the line. However, I doubt that if that were the case that he would have admitted it! Just a hunch...

 

In any event, I don't intend on wasting any more of my time regarding this guy.

[marylander1940]

What I find interesting about this YouTube guy concerns that fact that in many of his vids he speaks about there being a range of options from absolutely straight to absolutely gay. Furthermore he speaks to the fact that at any given point in time one can slide up and down the scale so as to be attracted to people of the same sex at a given time and perhaps not at another point in time. In other words he says that things are constantly fluid and changeable. He also talks about guys who are straight giving and getting "brojobs" and straight guys experimenting with getting banged or banging other guys. It's all part of one's ever changing feelings about their sexuality.

 

Well that's for everyone else. He says that he never had any such feelings or even such thoughts. No playing on any other team for him! Plus, not even for a fleeting moment did it ever cross his mind. I find it analogous to those who have rules for everyone else, but because they are so enlightened the rules do not apply to them. Either that or he simply refuses to admit it. Why else would he come up with such a theory if he had not experienced such feelings himself? Or his he just full of it?

 

Of course he has tons of vids out there. I just viewed a small cross section of those that seemed to deal with gay issues. So perhaps he did have a "moment of weakness" somewhere along the line. However, I doubt that if that were the case that he would have admitted it! Just a hunch...

 

In any event, I don't intend on wasting any more of my time regarding this guy.

 

you sure took a long time watching him and analyzing though, and I'm glad you did, I also do some research before posting on here.

 

I'm surprised to hear about so many "straight" guys, having gay sex now a days when women are so easy... I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but having pussy available on the 2nd date, if I was straight I would go for women.

 

Let's move on, I think he's just silly and makes too much drama, maybe YouTube is his version of psychologist coach.

[LivingnLA]

This guy seems like a pretty typical millennial straight guy to me. I deal with many of them regularly in my work and they seem comfortable exploring homoerotic activities either for curiosity or because they enjoy them, but their sexual orientation identification remains straight. I believe them when they say they only want relationships with women but are comfortable with physical activity with men. That aligns with how I live. This is what so many of us have worked on. I know I want my children to have a safer time to explore life than I did growing up. I believe in bisexuality as the predominate biological default based on all the research I've studied over the years. But, acculturation in western society has done it's best to bifurcate us into hetero and homo categories. I have no doubt Kinsey was right about some humans being completely heterosexually or homosexually sexually oriented, but I suspect the majority of us are bisexually oriented in our sexual activity orientation. It's a very difficult topic to discuss and the research is pretty limited since we are only now (in the last century) beginning to explore human sexuality broadly and in depth.

[TruthBTold]

First, try to ignore the guy. Second, if it seems that this is going to be impossible, leave and find some other gay bar to party (as it appears "straight" bars are not fun enough.) Finally, if I am going to record myself complaining about how objectified I felt by someone looking at my penis, I would not simultaneously complain that the butt I felt "the best" was not chosen in a contest at the bar.

[+ glennnn]

How come he is half naked in the video? Shy guy?

[whipped guy]

How come he is half naked in the video? Shy guy?

From the vids that I checked out he has appeared "half naked" in others as well. So he is not exactly shy. Consequently, that makes his reaction all the more questionable. He's a good looking guy from the neck up, but the rest of him really does nothing for me. I wonder what the reaction of the guy who was stalking him in the bar would have been if he were able to see the rest of him?

 

This is my last post on this bozo. I promise.

[marylander1940]

How come he is half naked in the video? Shy guy?

 

Don't worry, sooner or later you'll see more of him.