Prefer Gay or Straight Escorts?

[MrMattBig]

I have been sticking objects up my rear end since I was 13, and had my first m/m encounter when I was 16/17...I absolutely love cuddling and kissing and touching anyone, albeit like I said before I prefer smooth over hairy. Yet, I identify as bi and can still enjoy "gay sex". I appreciate what makes you comfortable, we should all strive to those ends. What is a disparity is that others latch on to yours and other sentiments as rule and law. I would hope we all strive to be why a lot of us are on this forum : be exactly who you are.

[MrMattBig]

I just noticed Gman, you are in Seattle! I was just there last week! I wish we could have met, so I can show you what this bi guy can really do lol

[liubit]

I definitely need to feel that the guy I am with enjoys what we are doing. Kissing is extremely important to me. Anyway, since I moved to Prague, I have found that labels are simply not applicable to Czech boys. They define themselves as "simply sexual", and they are! Beautiful boys here have kissed me like nobody else had ever kissed me, give amazing blowjobs, remain hard as a rock while getting fucked, swallow my load, cuddle....you get the picture. One of them, a strikingly gorgeous blond, once told me that he likes fucking girls but that they cannot give him things he also enjoys, like a dick up his ass or cum in his mouth. Good for me.

[+ Gar1eth]

I have been sticking objects up my rear end since I was 13, and had my first m/m encounter when I was 16/17...I absolutely love cuddling and kissing and touching anyone, albeit like I said before I prefer smooth over hairy. Yet, I identify as bi and can still enjoy "gay sex". I appreciate what makes you comfortable, we should all strive to those ends. What is a disparity is that others latch on to yours and other sentiments as rule and law. I would hope we all strive to be why a lot of us are on this forum : be exactly who you are.

 

And just to show that indeed we are all different-I never wanted to stick anything up my rear end ever except my hand for cleaning purposes. You don't know how much I dreaded my first rectal exam. Then in my 30's I developed problems with my prostate. Even today a gentle exam of my prostate can cause me to have pelvic pain for days.

 

And when I was about 39 and had to give myself a Fleet's enema at home because I was having my gallbladder removed the next day, I almost had a panic attack at the thought of doing it. I'll admit that once I did it, it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. But it's 16 years later, and I've never given myself another enema since. I will be happy if I never need another one. While I've been rimmed a few times and maybe someone has occasionally stuck a fingertip in (but I've always warned them beforehand that's as far as it can go), I'm quite happy with my bottom being only for egress 99.5% of the time.

 

Gman

[MrMattBig]

I hope the days of enemas are far behind you Gman! Admittedly, that's the worst part of being a bottomed in a session for me. Sometimes, you have to do what you have to do though. I like that you bring up that nothing goes in you. That definitely does not make you any less gay then what you identify as. Some haters outside the gay community would assume gay translates to receiving anal penetration as a requirement. I am glad that you acknowledge and embrace exactly what you are into and enjoy.

[bostonman]

My "gaydar" has always been a little off - much of the time I find myself attracted to straight guys -- while also understanding that a majority of the time that means a dead end. But the opportunity is sometimes there...and if an escort advertises as straight I do take a look at the ad.

 

I've only had limited experience with such men - and in fact I only really remember one experience with a very nice, friendly college kid who was clearly experimenting and doing it mainly for the money. He was nice to be with, and fun for me as he had very much the stereotypical "straight college dude" kind of look - but he wasn't all that good in bed. Still, he was willing to try, and was a nice cuddler/kisser, so it still kind of satisfied that desire I have for a "homoerotic" time with a straight guy. (And he wasn't asking exorbitant fees either.) He clearly wasn't a scam - he was just too green at it all, I think.

 

Then again, I had an odd text exchange with a guy not long ago - he didn't say he was straight in his ad, but in texting with him he was rather oddly evasive about what he would do, about his rates, etc. (He'd always throw things back in my court - "what do you want to do? What amount would you offer? etc.) That should have been a red flag enough - but I kept going. He finally said he was straight, but willing to do this for the money. I texted back, "as long as you don't have any problem getting it up for a guy, it's ok." That must have been too much of a threatening statement, because he then abruptly ended the conversation. Just as well.

[pierrot]

I definitely need to feel that the guy I am with enjoys what we are doing. Kissing is extremely important to me. Anyway, since I moved to Prague, I have found that labels are simply not applicable to Czech boys. They define themselves as "simply sexual", and they are! Beautiful boys here have kissed me like nobody else had ever kissed me, give amazing blowjobs, remain hard as a rock while getting fucked, swallow my load, cuddle....you get the picture. One of them, a strikingly gorgeous blond, once told me that he likes fucking girls but that they cannot give him things he also enjoys, like a dick up his ass or cum in his mouth. Good for me.

So that sounds like the definition of bi to me. Although I think that there's considerable pressure for young gay guys to claim "liking to fuck girls," when what they really like is sex with a man. I notice a lot of young Europeans from places like the former Iron Curtain countries are more prone to this, as opposed to Germans, Brits, French, etc.

[pierrot]

I thought I'd add the informal poll results to date:

Prefer gay escorts: 12

Prefer straight escorts: 5

Don't have a preference or don't state it clearly: 9

 

I agree with many posters that labels such as gay, straight, and bi are problematic in general and are applied differently by different people. And of course, as many of you noted, escorts use the labels as part of a profile that may or may not be accurate in reality.

My own feeling is that it has all has to do with desire. If we desire men, even though we may have sex with women out of duty or for another reason, then imo we are gay. The reverse is also true, so that an escort who has sex with men but he desires women, is straight. But I suspect that many successful escorts who have sex with gay men but call themselves straight, are actually bi -- because they also desire men. I continue to think like many of you that if an escort is REALLY straight and has no desire to have sex with another man, he's very unlikely to be able to fake involvement with clients.

 

Today's totals:

Prefer gay escorts: 15

Prefer straight escorts: 6

Don't have a preference or don't state it clearly: 12

[TruthBTold]

Don't have a preference as long as he does what we agreed upon and does it really well. Actually I really don't care to know what their orientation is, just what his sexual preferences are.

[inthepit3]

I definitely prefer gay escorts.. I like knowing that the activities we are partaking in are activities they enjoy in their private lives. I also prefer the conversations with gay men in an intimate setting, feel like we are bonding and sharing sexual energy at that level.

[JayNY]

It really doesn't matter to me, if the escort is straight/Bi or Gay. As long as he provides good service, and he's not bitchy. Bitchy men and women are a real turn off for me, please keep them away from me.

 

Im into guys who are:

1- Friendly 2- Great sense of humor 3-Easy to get along with 4- Eager to please their clients 5-Very muscular 6- Age range 18-30 7-Attractive 8-Not a clock watcher 8-Masculine dudes only 9-Like sports

[+ goosh69]

I like MASCULINE guys which can mean gay straight or bi. Straight guys can disappoint in terms of having limits, but they also don't generally embarrass me to my neighbors by showing up wearing foundation and guy liner.

[+ Gar1eth]

I like MASCULINE guys which can mean gay straight or bi. Straight guys can disappoint in terms of having limits, but they also don't generally embarrass me to my neighbors by showing up wearing foundation and guy liner.

I've never used foundation outside a theatrical production/costume party/Halloween or something like that unless you count 'flesh' colored Clearasil and the like when I was younger. But I remember in grad school finding a small bottle of foundation/concealer in my very straight roommate's bathroom. I laughingly asked him why he had it. As I recall he said it was to cover up zits. I don't think he used it wholesale-just for spot applications from time to time. And I've found the same kind of stuff in many of the escorts I've hired. I don't think anyone I've hired has ever had the stuff slathered all over their face. I figure they've just used it for individual spot applications like my old roommate.

 

Personally I've been tempted to use some myself either on an occasional zit or because I have vitiligo. While my white patches have spread over the years (originally on my face the white patches started just above my eyebrows, but they have spread over the years until they are halfway up my forehead), I'm pretty fair-skinned. So my vitiligo isn't as disfiguring as it is for some. In fact depending on what type of light I'm in sometimes people don't notice it until I mention it. The patches do have a tendency to glow slightly under blacklight, so it might be noticeable at clubs. But no one has ever mentioned it to me before.

 

Gman

[pierrot]

I like MASCULINE guys which can mean gay straight or bi. Straight guys can disappoint in terms of having limits, but they also don't generally embarrass me to my neighbors by showing up wearing foundation and guy liner.

I've hired a number of escorts over the years and never seen one wearing make up of any sort.

Are you hiring androgynous types on purpose?

[+ Steve yabsley]

Late to join the poll - but I avoid straight guys, so put me in the gay or bi column. Just has to do with being "into it"........like others have said, I want to at least think (and believe) they are enjoying it as much as I am.....

[+ goosh69]

I've hired a number of escorts over the years and never seen one wearing make up of any sort.

Are you hiring androgynous types on purpose?

Sarcasm. Parody.